10% Happier with Dan Harris

Neil DeGrasse Tyson on Why Having a "Cosmic Perspective" Will Help You Do Life Better

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p>---</p> <p>Today's guest is the legendary astrophysicist Neil deGrasse Tyson. Tyson is the director of the <a href= "https://www.amnh.org/research/hayden-planetarium" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Hayden Planetarium at the American Museum of Natural History</a>, the host of the Emmy nominated podcast, <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@StarTalk" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Star Talk</a>, and the recipient of 21 honorary doctorates. He also has an asteroid named in his honor.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Tyson's latest book is right up our alley on the show. It's called <a href= "https://neildegrassetyson.com/books/2022-09-starry-messenger/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Starry Messenger: Cosmic Perspectives on Civilization</em></a> and it's basically about how taking a scientific perspective can improve your life—and the world.  </p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <p><br /></p> <ul> <li>Applying a scientific lens to our emotions</li> <li>The importance of intellectual humility</li> <li>How the knowledge of death brings meaning to life </li> <li>Neil's long view of social media</li> <li>Whether we are living in a simulation</li> <li>Neil's personal mental health regime</li> <li>And whether there is intelligent life in the universe</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong><a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/neil-degrasse" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/neil-degrasse-tyson-594 </a></p>

The Buddha's Eight Part Recipe for Happiness | DaRa Williams

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p>This episode kicks off our series on the Eightfold Path which will continue on Wednesdays for the next two weeks with Eugene Cash and Joseph Goldstein.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>DaRa Williams is a trainer, meditation teacher and psychotherapist and has been a meditator for the past 25 years. She is a practitioner of both Vipassana and Ascension meditation and is a graduate of the Spirit Rock/Insight Meditation Society Teacher Training Program and is an IMS Emeritus Guiding Teacher. </p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <p><br /></p> <ul> <li>The first two components of the Eightfold Path: Right View and Right Thinking</li> <li>How the Eightfold Path has played out in DaRa's life </li> <li>The notions of Intuition, Clear Seeing, and Openness </li> <li>And the very tricky skills of renunciation and fostering non-attachment to outcomes</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/dara-williams-592" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/dara-williams-592</a></p>

Michael Imperioli (From The Sopranos and White Lotus) Knows a Shitload About Buddhist Meditation

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p>--------</p> <p>Actor Michael Imperioli is best known for a string of memorable onscreen performances that include <em>Goodfellas</em>, <em>The Sopranos</em>, and most recently on <em>The White Lotus</em>. What you may not know is that he has a deep Buddhist practice and has actually grown into something of a meditation teacher. </p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>The classic celebrity life crisis that brought Imperioli to Buddhism </li> <li>The importance of consistent practice as a way to get familiar with your mind so that your thoughts and emotions and urges don't own you</li> <li>The specific Tibetan Buddhist tradition Imperioli practices and what his daily practice looks like</li> <li>Whether meditation helps him be more creative</li> <li>How acting and meditation are similar</li> <li>Whether getting older affects our ability to grok impermanence</li> <li>Why Imperioli started teaching meditation online</li> <li>How to meditate off the cushion in daily life</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/michael-imperioli-590" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"></a><a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/michael-imperioli-591" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/michael-imperioli-591</a><a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/michael-imperioli-590" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"> </a></p> <p><br /></p>

The "Performance Whisperer" George Mumford Has Deep Strategies for Flow and Success

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p>----</p> <p>Perhaps nobody is better at helping people unlock themselves than the Buddhist meditation teacher George Mumford who taught meditation to Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant. He's also worked with inmates, police officers, and corporate executives. There's a reason why they call him the "Performance Whisperer."</p> <p><br /></p> <p>George has an incredible story: he began teaching mindfulness and meditation after kicking a serious drug habit, leaving a career as a financial analyst, and then earning a master's in counseling psychology. He's got a new book, it's called <a href= "https://georgemumford.com/unlocked/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Unlock: Embrace Your Greatness. Find the Flow. Discover Success</em></a>. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>His first book was called <a href= "https://georgemumford.com/the-mindful-athlete-book/" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>The Mindful Athlete: The Secret to Pure Performance</em></a>. If you want to hear him talk about that book, we've put links in the show notes to his prior appearances on this podcast. </p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>What it means to be in flow and why many of us may be achieving that state more than we think</li> <li>How to challenge negative self-talk</li> <li>The importance of gratitude</li> <li>The importance of service</li> <li>The importance of making mistakes (as George says, "no struggle, no swag")</li> <li>How to recognize what he calls your hideouts </li> <li>Why he identifies as an empath and why he believes this may have played a role in his addiction</li> <li>And George's take on often misunderstood terms such as love, hope, and faith</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/george-mumford-589" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/george-mumford-589 </a></p> <p><br /></p>

Gretchen Rubin on: How To Use Your Five Senses To Reduce Anxiety, Increase Creativity, and Improve Your Relationships

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p>Today's guest is a happiness expert and devout non-meditator. In her latest book <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Life-Five-Senses-Exploring-World/dp/0593442741" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Life in Five Senses: How Exploring the Senses Got Me Out of My Head and Into the World</em></a>, she describes how a routine visit to her eye doctor made her realize she'd been overlooking a key element of happiness: her five senses. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Gretchen Rubin is the author of many books, including the New York Times bestsellers <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Outer-Order-Inner-Calm-Declutter/dp/1984822802" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Outer Order, Inner Calm</em></a>; <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Four-Tendencies-Indispensable-Personality-Profiles/dp/1524760919" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>The Four Tendencies</em></a>; <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Better-Than-Before-Habits-Procrastinate/dp/0385348630" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Better Than Before</em></a>; and <a href= "https://www.google.com/aclk?sa=l&ai=DChcSEwimua-Z4pX-AhWh9uMHHaX8A_0YABAAGgJ5bQ&ase=2&sig=AOD64_3tRWm_Pc_oLCJqDDSKq6b6_H-1tg&q&nis=4&adurl&ved=2ahUKEwiPv6aZ4pX-AhUFMVkFHQUPDVgQ0Qx6BAgGEAM" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>The Happiness Project</em></a>. Her books have sold more than 3.5 million copies worldwide, and have been translated in more than thirty languages. She also hosts the top-ranking, award-winning podcast <a href= "https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/happier-with-gretchen-rubin/id969519520" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Happier with Gretchen Rubin</a>. </p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <p><br /></p> <ul> <li>What led Gretchen to explore the five senses</li> <li>How we often take our senses for granted</li> <li>How our senses work with the brain to impact our perception </li> <li>The relationship between the senses and nostalgia </li> <li>The surprising power of ketchup and vanilla when it comes to the sense of taste</li> <li>The sense of hearing and what she calls her "Audio Apothecary" </li> <li>How to be a better listener</li> <li>The interplay between the senses of taste and smell</li> <li>The sense of touch and the use of comfort objects   </li> <li>Why she decided to visit The Metropolitan Museum of Art everyday to explore the five senses</li> <li>And how she uses the five senses to boost creativity  </li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/gretchen-rubin-588" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/gretchen-rubin-588</a></p>

From the Metta Hour Podcast with Sharon Salzberg | "Real Life" Book Preview

<p>You may have heard our interview with Sharon Salzberg earlier this week where we talked about openness, not believing the stories you tell yourself, and why the most powerful tools often seem the most stupid at first. I'm a big fan of hers and everything she does, so we wanted to give you a special preview of her new book, <em>Real Life: The Journey from Isolation to Openness and Freedom</em>. </p> <p> </p> <p>In <em>Real Life</em>, Sharon sets a path out for us, merging the insights of inspiring voices with her own teachings to:</p> <ul> <li>Uncover a deeper sense of ourselves</li> <li>Expand our vision of what's possible for ourselves</li> <li>Align our words, hearts, and actions with our core values</li> <li>Navigate loss without getting stuck in bitterness or disconnect</li> <li>Carry a sense of community with us, even in stormy times</li> <li>Recover from the emotional effects of crisis</li> <li>Learn the art of letting go and beginning again</li> <li>Build emotional intelligence to face times of difficulty without fear</li> <li>Seek out joy in everyday life, even when things don't go our way</li> <li>Befriend ourselves on the journey of being human</li> <li>Embark on the journey to embody a life of curiosity, authenticity, and freedom.</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p>So enjoy this excerpt from her book, <em>Real Life</em>.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p>

Modern Life Is Making You Sick, but It Doesn't Have To | Dr. Gabor Maté

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p>There's so much to be grateful for in modern medicine. We can all agree that we would not do as well in a world with no Advil or dentistry. And yet, our guest today, who is a renowned doctor, says modern medicine is overlooking something crucial: the pernicious impact that modern living has on our minds and bodies. In other words, we are surrounded by these hidden societal and structural sources of stress and we aren't thinking about how to treat and prevent these factors that are degrading our happiness and our immune systems. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Dr. Gabor Maté is a bestselling author with an expertise on everything from stress to addiction to ADHD. His latest book is called, <a href="https://drgabormate.com/book/the-myth-of-normal/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture</a></p> <p><br /></p> <p><em>Content Warning: This episode has mentions of child abuse, sexual trauma, suicide and addiction</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>What he means by "the myth of normal"</li> <li>How diseases, such as autoimmune conditions, are an "artifact of civilization"</li> <li>How to begin to tackle what Dr. Maté calls, "the social sources of illness" </li> <li>His definition of trauma and the difference between "big T traumatic events" and the trauma of "wounding"</li> <li>How trauma in society is so normalized that we don't even recognize it</li> <li>Whether the term trauma is overused</li> <li>Why comparing suffering is a fruitless endeavor </li> <li>What he means by "the necessity to be disillusioned" </li> <li>The power and possibility of psychedelics </li> <li>Why he thinks we should incorporate shamanic medicine into our western medical framework</li> <li>And what he means by "undoing self-limiting beliefs" and how these beliefs show up in our everyday lives</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/gabor-mate-586" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/gabor-mate-586</a></p>

Alexander Dreymon (Star of Netflix's "The Last Kingdom") on: Therapy, Marriage, Anger, Masculinity, Meditation, and Being Nice (Even If You're a Viking)

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p>Alexander Dreymon is the star of a great show on Netflix called "<a href="https://www.netflix.com/title/80074249" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Last Kingdom</a>." He plays a Viking, so you're literally not going to find a guy who is more stereotypically masculine. But I've gotten to know Alexander recently and he's also incredibly thoughtful. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>We cover a lot of ground in this conversation: marriage, parenting, anger therapy, sleep, human connection, meditation, masculinity, and, uh, how to show your body on Netflix without developing body dysmorphia. We also talk a lot about his show, which is awesome, although it is coming to an end — just a few days ago, Netflix posted the series finale, a movie-length episode called "<a href= "https://www.netflix.com/watch/81677472?trackId=255824129&tctx=0%2C0%2CNAPA%40%40%7Cc15379ab-5160-49f0-b384-ea9e61c9637d-67726270_titles%2F1%2F%2Fseven%20kings%20must%20die%2F0%2F0%2CNAPA%40%40%7Cc15379ab-5160-49f0-b384-ea9e61c9637d-67726270_titles%2F1%2F%2Fseven%20kings%20must%20die%2F0%2F0%2Cunknown%2C%2Cc15379ab-5160-49f0-b384-ea9e61c9637d-67726270%7C1%2CtitlesResults%2C81460361%2CVideo%3A81460361%2CminiDpPlayButton" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Seven Kings Must Die</a>" that wraps up the whole story. </p> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p>In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li>how having male friends makes his romantic relationship even better</li> <li>The importance of therapy, of silliness and of kindness</li> <li>the importance of exercise in his life and how he tries not to get overly attached to his body looking a certain way</li> <li>a whole discussion between the two of us on the Buddhist idea of non-self </li> <li>what his meditation practice looks like now that he has a toddler around the house</li> <li>what it's like to wrap up his show, the Last Kingdom, and what might be next</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p>Full Shownotes<strong>:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/-alexander-dreymon-585 </a></p> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p>Where to find Alexander Dreymon online: </p> <ul> <li>Instagram: @alexander.dreymon </li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p>Other Resources Mentioned:</p> <ul> <li>The books of <a href="https://www.bernardcornwell.net/" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Bernard Cornwell</a>, on which "The Last Kingdom" series is based</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p>Additional Resources:</p> <p>Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: <a href= "https://10percenthappier.app.link/install" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://10percenthappier.app.link/install</a></p>

Jennifer Senior On: Grief, Happiness, Friendship Breakups, and Why We Feel Younger Than Our Actual Age

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p>It's likely uncontroversial to assert that Jennifer Senior is one of our finest living journalists. She's currently a staff writer at <em>The Atlantic</em> and before that she spent many years at the <em>New York Times</em> and <em>New York magazine</em>. Jennifer's written on a vast array of topics, but she has a special knack for writing articles about the human condition that go massively, massively, viral. One such hit was a lengthy and extremely moving piece for <em>The Atlantic</em> that won a Pulitzer Prize. It was about a young man who died on 9/11, and the wildly varying ways in which his loved ones experienced grief. That article, called "<a href= "https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2021/09/twenty-years-gone-911-bobby-mcilvaine/619490/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">What Bobby McIlvaine Left Behind</a>," has now been turned into a book called, <a href= "https://jennifersenior.net/on-grief" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>On Grief: Love, Loss, Memory</em></a>.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>In this interview, we spend a lot of time talking about this truly fascinating yarn, but we also talk about her other articles: one about <a href= "https://www.nytimes.com/2020/11/24/opinion/happiness-depression-suicide-psychology.html" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">an eminent happiness researcher</a> who died by suicide, another about <a href= "https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2022/03/why-we-lose-friends-aging-happiness/621305/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">why friendships often break up</a>, and a truly delightful recent piece about <a href= "https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2023/04/subjective-age-how-old-you-feel-difference/673086/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">the puzzling gap between how old we are and how old we think we are</a>. Jennifer has also written a book about parenting, called <a href= "https://jennifersenior.net/all-joy-and-no-fun" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>All Joy and No Fun</em></a> which we also reference a few times throughout.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>Jennifer's perspective on the Bobby McIlvaine story </li> <li>Lesser known theories of grieving from Elisabeth Kubler-Ross</li> <li>The work involved in finding meaning in loss</li> <li>Why – from an evolutionary standpoint – we hurt so badly when we lose someone we love</li> <li>Commitment and sacrifice</li> <li>The puzzling gap between how old you are and how old you think you are</li> <li>The power and perils of friendship</li> <li>Why Jennifer has chosen to focus so much of her writing on relationships</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/jennifer-senior-583" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/jennifer-senior-583</a></p>

Sharon Salzberg On: Openness, Not Believing the Stories You Tell Yourself, and Why the Most Powerful Tools Often Seem Stupid at First

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p>Today's episode is a rangy and fascinating conversation with a titan of the modern mindfulness scene: Sharon Salzberg. She is the co-founder of the <a href="https://www.dharma.org/" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Insight Meditation Society</a>, a renowned meditation retreat center and has written twelve books. Her latest is called, <a href= "https://us.macmillan.com/books/9781250835741/reallife" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Real Life: The Journey from Isolation to Openness and Freedom</em></a>. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>We get personal and talk about a fascinating question: why did so many Jewish kids of Sharon's generation (the Boomers) get interested in meditation? Sharon was part of a whole crew called the JewBu's — young Jewish people, mostly from New York, who found their way to India and other parts of Asia in the 1960s and 70s, learned about Buddhism, and then came home and taught it to so many of us. </p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <p><br /></p> <ul> <li>The case for openness versus constriction. What is openness? Why do we want it? And how does one achieve it? </li> <li>How not to take so seriously the stories you tell yourself</li> <li>Whether shame is ever useful</li> <li>How the most powerful tools (like self-compassion) can often seem so stupid at first</li> <li>The importance of having a growth mindset versus a fixed mindset</li> <li>Why gratitude gets a bad rap</li> <li>The difference between self-centeredness and "healthy pride"</li> <li>Sharon's recent and quite harrowing medical odyssey — and how meditation helped her get through it</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/sharon-salzberg-582" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/sharon-salzberg-582</a></p>

From The Prof G Pod with Scott Galloway | The Future of Work

<p>As a wrap up to our Work Life series, we want to share a preview of another podcast we love: Prof G hosted by Scott Galloway. His interview, "Scott Galloway on: the Impact of Work on Mental Health, the Role of Luck in Success, and How Much is Enough," kicked off this latest series. Scott's show combines business insight and analysis with life and career advice, and we're big fans. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>In this episode of Prof G, Scott shares his view on the "Future of Work"— from recruiting, to mentorship, to building teams. He touches on the role nepotism plays in the future of recruiting, to securing a job post-college, and team organization in the workplace. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>You can hear more episodes of the Prof G podcast <a href= "https://link.chtbl.com/ProfGPod?sid=happier" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">here</a>.</p>

Tripping Out with a Legend: Jon Kabat-Zinn on Pain vs. Suffering, Rethinking Your Anxiety, and the Buddha's Teaching in a Single Sentence

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p>---</p> <p>A beautifully weird conversation with the creator of Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Jon Kabat-Zinn, Ph.D. is Professor of Medicine emeritus at the University of Massachusetts Medical School, where he founded its world-renown Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) Clinic in 1979, and the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Health Care, and Society (CFM), in 1995. He is the author of many books including <em>Full Catastrophe Living</em> and <em>Wherever You Go, There You Are. </em></p> <p><br /></p> <p>His latest book, <em>Mindfulness Meditation for Pain Relief</em>, illustrates a range of evidence-based mindfulness meditation practices for those suffering with the challenges of chronic pain. </p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <p><br /></p> <ul> <li>The origins of MBSR and its relation to pain relief</li> <li>Pain vs. Suffering</li> <li>The accessibility of awareness</li> <li>The limitation of mindfulness meditation as a self-improvement practice</li> <li>The quote, "open your mouth and you're wrong" </li> <li>Jon Kabat-Zinn's definition of of healing </li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/jon-kabat-zinn-580" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/jon-kabat-zinn-580 </a></p> <p><br /></p>

How to Meditate in Hell | Jarvis Jay Masters

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p>---</p> <p>Today we have a truly incredible episode about how to meditate in hell. You're going to meet a man named Jarvis Jay Masters, who I interviewed from his cell on death row at San Quentin prison in California. Any of us who meditate do our best to apply it to life's ups and downs — but this person has been applying it in some truly extreme circumstances. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Jarvis has now spent more than three decades on death row, including more than two decades in solitary confinement. Shortly after Jarvis's death sentence, he became interested in Buddhism, and started developing a rigorous practice under the tutelage of a Tibetan lama, Chagdud Tulku Rinpoche. Jarvis has now written and published two books about his life, <a href= "https://www.freejarvis.org/finding-freedom" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Finding Freedom</em></a> and <a href="https://www.freejarvis.org/that-bird-has-my-wings" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>That Bird Has My Wings</em></a>. Both feature forewords by the renowned meditation teacher Pema Chödrön, who has been on this show, and his second book was endorsed by the late Archbishop Desmond Tutu and also by Oprah Winfrey, who selected the book for her famous book club last year.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Jarvis's current appeal sits before a federal judge as we speak. A decision on his future could be reached any day. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Heads up there are frank discussions of suicide and domestic violence in this conversation.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>His childhood</li> <li>His road to prison</li> <li>How he unlearned traditional (and harmful) aspects of masculinity</li> <li>How he began to write, and the impact that had on him and his standing in the prison</li> <li>How he meditates in a noisy prison</li> <li>The details of his meditation practice</li> <li>His off-the-cushion practice of 'engaged Buddhism' with his fellow inmates</li> <li>How he prepares for the possibility of release–and for the possibility of execution</li> <li>How he defines freedom</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/jarvis-jay-masters-579" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/jarvis-jay-masters-579</a></p>

Does Mindfulness Actually Make You Happier (or Better) at Work? | Prof. Lindsey Cameron

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p>People have mixed feelings about the popularization of mindfulness and meditation over the last 10 or 15 years with some referring to it as "McMindfulness."</p> <p><br /></p> <p>The critiques can be worthy and the mainstreaming of meditation and mindfulness also have helped millions of people upgrade their lives. One of the many areas where mindfulness and meditation have made inroads of late is the workplace. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>All sorts of employers are offering their teams access to meditation via apps or in-person training. But does this stuff actually work? Does it really make you happier at work or better at your job? And what techniques produce which benefits?</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Professor Lindsey Cameron is an Assistant Professor at the University of Pennsylvania's Wharton School of Management. Her research focuses on mindfulness as well as the future of work. She has a 20 year practice, having studied and taught primarily in the Vipassana and non-dual traditions. In her prior career, Professor Cameron spent over a decade in the US intelligence and in diplomatic communities serving the Middle East, Africa, and Europe.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>What companies mean when they talk about mindfulness at work</li> <li>What the mindfulness at work research says and how Prof. Cameron parses the results</li> <li>The ways mindfulness helps us counteract our inherent biases and stereotypes</li> <li>Which specific practices are most beneficial, depending on the situation </li> <li>Prof. Cameron's tips for integrating small mindfulness moments into our everyday routines </li> <li>Where she stands on the whole "McMindfulness" debate</li> <li>Prof. Cameron's research into the gig economy — and how, paradoxically, an Uber worker can feel a sense of autonomy and freedom even though the work is ultimately being dictated by an algorithm</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/lindsey-cameron-577" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/lindsey-cameron-577</a></p>

Jerks at Work | Amy Gallo

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p>---</p> <p><br /></p> <p>This is the third installment in our Work Life series. In other episodes, we cover topics like imposter syndrome, whether mindfulness really works at work, and whether you should actually bring your whole self to the office.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Today's episode is one that many of us struggle with: interpersonal conflict at work. Our guest is a true ninja on this topic. Amy Gallo is a workplace expert who writes and speaks about interpersonal dynamics, difficult conversations, feedback, gender, and effective communication.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Gallo is a contributing editor at <a href= "https://hbr.org/search?search_type=search-all&term=Amy+Gallo" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Harvard Business Review</a> and the author of a new book, <a href= "https://store.hbr.org/product/getting-along-how-to-work-with-anyone-even-difficult-people/10482" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Getting Along, How to Work with Anyone, Even Difficult People</em></a>. She's also written the <a href= "https://store.hbr.org/product/hbr-guide-to-dealing-with-conflict/10068" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>The Harvard Business Review Guide to Dealing With Conflict</em></a>, and she cohosts the <a href="https://hbr.org/2018/01/podcast-women-at-work" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Women at Work</a> podcast.</p> <p>  </p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <p><br /></p> <ul> <li>Why quality interactions at work are so important for our professional success and personal mental health</li> <li>Why Gallo believes one size doesn't fit all when it comes to dealing with difficult people in the workplace </li> <li>Why avoidance isn't usually an option </li> <li>What the research tells us about work friendships</li> <li>Why we have a tendency to dehumanize people who have more power than us</li> <li>Why passive aggressive people can be the most difficult to deal with</li> <li>The provocative question of whether <em>we</em> are part of the problem when work conflict crops up</li> <li>And, a taxonomy of the eight different flavors of difficult coworkers, including the pessimist, the victim, the know-it-all, and the insecure boss — with tactics for managing each. </li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/amy-gallo-576</a></p>

Do You Feel Like an Imposter? | Dr. Valerie Young (Co-Interviewed by Dan's Wife, Bianca!)

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p>The phrase imposter syndrome has increasingly crept into the culture. If you haven't heard of it, it basically means that you feel like you're a fraud, despite evidence to the contrary. As this term has gained more purchase in our culture, it's also been subjected to an increasing amount of scrutiny and criticism, and also confusion. So, today we're going to try to cut through some of that with Dr. Valerie Young, who's been an internationally recognized expert on imposter syndrome since 1982.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Young is the co-founder of the <a href= "https://impostorsyndrome.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">Imposter Syndrome Institute</a>. She wrote a book called, <a href="https://impostorsyndrome.com/about-the-book/" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer from the Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive in Spite of It</em></a><em>.</em> As you'll hear her explain, imposter syndrome is not just for women — men deal with it, too, as do many other people along the gender spectrum.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><em>This is the second installment of our ongoing work/life series.</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>The three things that define impostor syndrome </li> <li>Dr. Young's contention that imposter syndrome impacts both men and women, but tends to hold women back more</li> <li>What it means to shift from impostor thinking to thinking like "a humble realist"</li> <li>Why we need to learn to reframe competence</li> <li>Whether or not impostor syndrome is limited to the professional sphere</li> <li>The impact of identity/social group </li> <li>Three tools for dealing with imposter feelings</li> <li>Whether or not imposter feelings ever go away</li> <li>What to do if you're in a relationship with someone with imposter syndrome</li> <li>And whether there are any upsides to imposter syndrome</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/valerie-young-574" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/valerie-young-574</a></p>

Scott Galloway on: The Impact of Work on Mental Health, the Role of Luck in Success, and How Much is Enough

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p>This is the first of a four part series on work that we're calling, "Work Life." </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Work can play a huge role in our sanity and happiness, or lack thereof. So today we're going to tackle some common and thorny questions with a guy who has been extremely successful at work and now teaches other people how to do so. We talk about questions such as how much work life balance should we really strive for? Is hustle culture really dead? What's the role of luck in success? How much is enough and should you bring your whole self to the office? </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Scott Galloway is a professor of marketing at NYU's Stern School of Business. He's also a serial entrepreneur. He's founded nine companies, including Profit, Red Envelope, and Section Four.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>He's served on the boards of directors of the New York Times Company, Urban Outfitters and Panera Bread. He's the best-selling author of many books, including, <a href= "https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/609305/the-algebra-of-happiness-by-scott-galloway/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>The Algebra of Happiness</em></a>, <a href= "https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/670729/post-corona-by-scott-galloway/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Post Corona</em></a>, and his latest book, which is called <a href= "https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/713560/adrift-by-scott-galloway/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Adrift: America in 100 Charts</em></a>. He's also the host of two podcasts, <a href= "https://profgmedia.com/the-show/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Prof. G.</a> and <a href= "https://profgmedia.com/pivot/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">Pivot.</a> The latter, Pivot, which he co-hosts with the legendary tech reporter Kara Swisher.<strong> </strong></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <p><br /></p> <ul> <li>Why work is such a big factor in determining our mental health</li> <li>What's the number one retention factor at work</li> <li>How capitalism pushes us towards living to work rather than the other way around </li> <li>Why Galloway believes men's sense of self-worth is so often (maybe too often) based on their ability to earn </li> <li>Where he stands on the idea of "bringing your whole self to work"</li> <li>How to get over being fired</li> <li>His thoughts on side hustles, work/life balance and whether remote work will stick around post COVID </li> <li>Why he says being in the office is important for young workers if they want to get ahead, especially young men</li> <li>Why, despite making a great living, he still has economic anxiety</li> <li>The rare moments when he is able to enjoy himself and say, "this is enough"</li> <li>His addiction to the approval of others </li> <li>How Galloway handles his critics, while retaining his willingness to go out on a limb and be controversial</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/scott-galloway-573</a></p>

What Is Holding You Back From Greatness? | Lewis Howes

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p>It's hard not to like Lewis Howes. He's extremely open about his personal struggles, from childhood trauma to romantic challenges, from family drama to failure and self-doubt. Lewis is a voracious learner, relentless in his pursuit of his interests–and he'll bust his ass to get to the bottom of things in his own life.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>His main area of interest is what he calls greatness. He hosts a podcast, a very popular one, called The School of Greatness. He has spent many many years interviewing people who have excelled in all sorts of areas and has become a true student. Lewis now has a new book, called The Greatness Mindset, in which he shares what he's learned via all of these interviews and his own personal work.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>The source of Lewis's interest in greatness</li> <li>The difference between a powerless mindset and a greatness mindset </li> <li>The pernicious impact of self-doubt</li> <li>How to counter your inner critic via a 'contract with yourself' </li> <li>How to face your fears</li> <li>The importance of mission and purpose</li> <li>Where selfishness fits into finding your mission and purpose</li> <li>And we have a friendly debate about the law of attraction</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/lewis-howes-571" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/lewis-howes-571</a></p>

You Are Not a Sh*tty Person | Carla Naumburg

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p>---</p> <p><br /></p> <p>There's so much compelling research behind the notion of self compassion. Even though many of us think we need an internal cattle prod in order to retain our edge, research shows that people who have a supportive inner attitude — who have their own back — are more resilient and effective. Not to mention happier. And nicer.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>And yet, it is easy for skeptics to be turned off by some of the language and practices of self compassion. So today we brought in a guest who puts it in plain English, and is very funny. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Carla Naumburg PhD is a clinical social worker, author, and mother. She has a lot to say about self compassion, and she does so in a way that skeptics will find appealing. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>One other note about Carla. A lot of her books are directed at parents, especially parents who are self critical. But this episode is aimed at everybody. We do talk a little bit about parenting at the end, but it's not the main focus. Just so you have it, her books have titles such as: <a href= "https://www.carlanaumburg.com/books/how-to-stop-losing-your-sht-with-your-kids/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t with Your Kids</em></a> and <a href= "https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781523517114" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>You Are Not a Sh*tty Parent</em></a>. It's common for parents to think they suck. It's also common for humans to think we suck. That we are somehow terrible people. Sit back, relax, and let Carla disabuse you of that notion.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <p><br /></p> <ul> <li>What Carla calls "shitty human syndrome"</li> <li>Asking ourselves, what do I need right now?</li> <li>How, for skeptics, the data on the effectiveness of compassion practices is a powerful incentive.</li> <li>The third arrow of denial and distraction</li> <li>The very human problem of not knowing how to deal with our feelings.  </li> <li>Using "noticing, connection, curiosity, and kindness" as ways to get super clear about the practice of self-compassion </li> <li>Curiosity as the antidote to judgment</li> <li>How loving-kindness ties into the ability to treat ourselves with self-compassion.</li> <li>Kinder self-talk</li> <li>Practicing self-care by setting boundaries </li> <li>Single tasking as a strategy for decreasing stress</li> <li>And, using acronyms like SNAFU and KISS as a simple way to quickly access complicated thoughts</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><em>Content Warning: This episode contains explicit language. There is a clean version over on the TPH app and</em> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>website</em></a><em>. </em></p> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/carla-naumburg-570</a></p> <p><br /></p>

The Many Benefits of a "Paradox Mindset" | Dolly Chugh

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p>The human animal doesn't love paradox. We love a clear, simple story. Us versus them. Good versus evil. But life is rarely like that. This is especially true when it comes to wrestling with history. Our guest today calls it the patriot's dilemma. How do you love your country while also acknowledging the painful and horrifying stuff that has happened in the past?</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Dolly Chugh is a professor at the New York University Stern School of Business where she teaches MBA courses in leadership and management. This is her second time on the show. <a href= "https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dolly-chugh-how-good-people-fight-bias/id1087147821?i=1000468718792" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The last time she came on, she spoke about the concept of being "good-ish.<u>"</u></a> One of the reasons we get defensive when people criticize us is that we feel like it's a threat to our precious notion of being a good person. But if you have a good-ish mindset, then there's always room to grow. Her new book, <a href= "https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/A-More-Just-Future/Dolly-Chugh/9781982157609" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>A More Just Future</em></a>, encourages us to do that for America.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><em>Content Warning: This episode includes brief mentions of slavery and violence.</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode, we talked about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>Why Dolly was scared to write this book</li> <li>What the home team bias is and how it shows up when we think about our past</li> <li>What belief grief is</li> <li>The "long time ago illusion"</li> <li>And, what Dolly calls being a gritty patriot </li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/dolly-chugh-568" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/dolly-chugh-568</a></p>

Jonathan Haidt on: The Upside of Striving, How to Build a Stronger Mind, And What to Do with Ideas You Hate

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p>---</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Usually episodes of this show are organized around one big question, but today's guest, Jonathan Haidt, is just too interesting for one clear focus. In this episode, we dig into a ton of fascinating topics, including: why it can make you happier to see your own irrationality and hypocrisy, the value of interacting with ideas you do not like, how to navigate social media sanely, how to get ahead at work (and stay happy in the process), the upside of striving, the wisdom of the Stoics, and more. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Jonathan Haidt is a renowned social psychologist from New York University's Stern school of business and the author of many books, including: <a href="http://www.happinesshypothesis.com/" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom</em></a>, <a href= "https://righteousmind.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank"><em>The Righteous Mind: Why Good People are Divided by Politics and Religion</em></a>, and <a href= "https://www.thecoddling.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank"><em>The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas are Setting Up a Generation for Failure</em></a>. Since 2018, he's been studying the contributions of social media to the decline of teen mental health and the rise of political dysfunction. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>One other note: heads up that this conversation includes mentions of self-harm and suicide.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>Haidt's elephant and rider metaphor that explains how our minds' operate</li> <li>How to use different techniques from hypnosis to Buddhist and Stoic practices to tame our unconscious</li> <li>Why we've evolved to be hypocrites and how admitting our flaws can help us come out ahead</li> <li>Buddhism as a counterpoint to our success oriented culture</li> <li>The deleterious effects of social media on democracy and young people's mental health </li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/jonathan-haidt-567</a></p>

A Radical Alternative to Revenge | sujatha baliga

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p>Very often, when somebody pisses us off, our first instinct might be to plan some sort of revenge even if we rarely, if ever, actually follow through with it. Obviously, the trait of revenge seeking is counterproductive and it happens to also feel terrible. All the great wisdom traditions tell us that we should be forgiving instead and this isn't just some sort of finger wagging from the morality police; it's just straight up good advice. It's in your best interest not to be coiled up inside endless revenge fantasies. Of course, this is all easier said than done.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Today, though, our guest, sujatha baliga, both says it, and does it. She has an extraordinary story: she was horribly abused by a family member, and then, after an encounter with his Holiness the Dalai Lama, learned how to forgive the seemingly unforgivable. What's more, she now helps other people do that. Perhaps, starting now, even you.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>sujatha baliga is a long time Buddhist practitioner and internationally recognized leader in the field of restorative justice. She was named a <a href= "https://www.macfound.org/fellows/1029/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">2019 MacArthur Fellow</a> and is working on her first book. </p> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><em>Content Warning: This episode includes multiple references to violent and traumatic experiences, including homicide and incest.</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>Her personal story, including her early experience with sexual assault within her family</li> <li>Her life-changing encounter with his Holiness the Dalai Lama, and her experience with learning to forgive with the help of meditation</li> <li>Her experience working in the criminal justice system </li> <li>Her definition of restorative justice, why she believes we need it, and the three key questions it asks in each case</li> <li>Whether there is evidence that restorative justice works</li> <li>The limits of restorative justice</li> <li>What happens if someone who is the victim of a crime does want traditional punishment or even revenge</li> <li>How you can apply what she's learned in her life — including her time in the field of restorative justice — to our own lives</li> <li>And a specific meditation practice that can help you do it</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/sujatha-baliga-565" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/sujatha-baliga-565</a></p>

How to be Less Judgmental (Of Other People – and Yourself) | La Sarmiento

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p>Meditation and mindfulness doesn't uproot your capacity to be judgmental, but it can help you see the value in being judgmental by learning how to work with the judging mind. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>La Sarmiento has been practicing Vipassana meditation since 1998. La is a mentor for the Mindfulness Meditation Teacher Certification Program, a teacher with Cloud Sangha, and a contributor to the Ten Percent Happier app.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <p><br /></p> <ul> <li>How mindfulness can help us identify when we're being judgmental</li> <li>The difference between discernment and judgment</li> <li>How it can be so delicious to be judgmental of others – but why it's actually harmful to ourselves and others</li> <li>The four questions to ask when we notice ourselves going into judgment mode </li> <li>How to operationalize the phrase "am I suffering right now?" </li> <li>Investigating the motivations behind striving for success </li> <li>Why owning up to being a jerk is sometimes the exact right answer</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/la-sarmiento-564" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/la-sarmiento-564</a></p>

How to Get Over Rejection | Florence Williams

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p>This is the last episode in our four-part series where we're counter-programming against the way Valentine's Day is often celebrated, and examining different kinds of relationships including romantic, friendship, and family. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Today we're probing a mystery: Why, from an evolutionary standpoint do we take heartbreak and rejection so hard? It can send the body and mind into a vicious spiral. As one genomics researcher has said, "heartbreak is one of the hidden landmines of human existence." </p> <p><br /></p> <p>There are countless pieces of art dedicated to heartbreak. Songs, movies, poems, the list is pretty much endless. But what does science say? Why does this happen to us? How exactly does the body react to a bad break up, from a romantic partnership, or a friendship or even a job? And what can we do to get over it?</p> <p><br /></p> <p>These are the questions the writer, Florence Williams decided to tackle after her own 25 year marriage fell apart. And the answers are fascinating.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Florence Williams is a science journalist and author, and a contributing editor at <a href="https://www.outsideonline.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Outside Magazine</a>. Her latest book is called, <a href= "https://wwnorton.com/books/9781324003489" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Heartbreak: A Personal and Scientific Journey</em></a>. It is just out in paperback, and has been nominated for the PEN/Wilson Award for Literary Science Writing. </p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>The passage of time as a way to heal all wounds</li> <li>The role purpose plays in recovery </li> <li>William's three part heartbreak recovery toolkit (calming down, connecting to other people and finding purpose)</li> <li>The connection between openness and resilience</li> <li>How to become more open to a lack of closure</li> <li>The good and bad news about heartbreak</li> <li>And, rejecting some of the conventional approaches to heartbreak</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/florence-williams-562" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/florence-williams-562</a> </p> <p><br /></p>

How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make and Keep Friends | Dr. Marisa G. Franco

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p>Did you know that having friends can make you less depressed? One survey found that the average American had not made a new friend in the last five years but 45% of people said they would go out of their way to make a new friend if they only knew how.   </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Our guest today, Dr. Marisa G. Franco, has written a bestselling book about how understanding your own psychological makeup and attachment style can help you make and keep friends. Franco is a psychologist and a professor at the University of Maryland. Her book is called <a href= "https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/676695/platonic-by-marisa-g-franco-phd/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make–and Keep–Friends</em></a>.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><em>This is episode three of a four part series in which we are doing some counter programming against the typical Valentine's Day fair. </em></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>Why friendship is undervalued in our society (while romantic love is overvalued) and why this is damaging on both a societal and individual level</li> <li>The impact of technology on our relationships as explained by something called "displacement theory"</li> <li>The biological necessity of social connection and the devastating physiological and psychological impacts of loneliness </li> <li>Attachment style and its relationship to our friendships</li> <li>What you can do to make friends, including being open or vulnerable (without oversharing)</li> <li>How to reframe social rejection</li> <li>The importance of generosity</li> <li>How to handle conflict with your friends</li> <li>The difference between flaccid safety and dynamic safety in your friendships</li> <li>When to walk away from a relationship </li> <li>How to make friends across racial, gender, and socioeconomic lines</li> <li>How to deal with social anxiety</li> <li>And how our evolutionarily wired negativity bias can impact the process of making friends</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/marisa-g-franco-561" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/marisa-g-franco-561</a></p>

How to Handle Family Drama | Nedra Glover Tawwab

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p>If you're part of a family, you've probably experienced some level of drama. Maybe it's minor annoyances, like an uncle who chews too loudly. Maybe it's divorce, sibling rivalry, or abuse. There are lots of flavors in this noxious cornucopia.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Nedra Glover Tawwab is a licensed clinical social worker and the author of the new book <a href= "https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/706826/drama-free-by-nedra-glover-tawwab/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships</em></a><em>.</em> She's here to talk about how to handle family drama of all types.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><em>This is episode two of a four part series in which we are doing some counter programming against the typical Valentine's Day fair. </em></p> <p><br /></p> <p><em>Content Warning: There are some brief mentions of rape and incest in this conversation. We also talk about substance abuse, sexual abuse, and domestic abuse.</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>Nedra's own experiences with family dysfunction</li> <li>The terms boundary issues, enmeshment, and codependency</li> <li>The uncomfortable realization that you might be (at least part of) the problem</li> <li>The limits of compassion</li> <li>What to remember if you choose to spend time with a family member with whom you have a difficult relationship</li> <li>Why you should not "un-become" yourself just to fit in with your family</li> <li>Why shaming people doesn't make them better–and what does</li> <li>The temptation of receding into a victim mentality, and how to avoid it</li> <li>When to end a relationship</li> <li>What the term "toxic forgiveness" means</li> <li>Some of the myths about forgiveness</li> <li>And her remedies for various family drama scenarios, including: How do you get your mom to see a therapist?</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/nedra-glover-tawwab-559" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/nedra-glover-tawwab-559</a></p>

Myths of Love, Sex, Dating, and Relationships | Myisha Battle

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p>This episode is part one of our four-part series where we're counter-programming against the way Valentine's Day is often celebrated, and examining different kinds of relationships including romantic, friendship, and family. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Today's guest hews a bit more closely to the traditional Valentine's Day theme and will do some myth-busting around all the things we tend to get wrong when we talk about romantic relationships. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Myisha Battle is the author of the book, "This Is Supposed to Be Fun: How To Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between." She also hosts the podcasts Down for Whatever, and Dating White. Much of her public work focuses on the early stages of relationships, but in her private practice, she counsels people at all stages, and in all kinds of relationships. </p> <p><br /></p> <p><em>Content Warning: Explicit language and conversations about sex. </em></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>Five ways to improve intimacy and connection in romantic partnership</li> <li>The nuts and bolts of sex, and how we often get intimacy and sex confused in unhelpful ways</li> <li>Understanding men's and women's cycles to depersonalize issues in sex and relationships</li> <li>The myth of finding "the one"</li> <li>The orgasm gap</li> <li>Bromance</li> <li>And if you're looking, tips on how to make finding a partner easier</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/myisha-battle-558" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/myisha-battle-558</a></p>

Deep Genealogy | Spring Washam

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p>So many people are interested in their family tree. What kind of lives did our ancestors lead and what do their stories say about us? Today's guest, Spring Washam, asks us to reckon with the people who have come before us in order to fully understand who we are and why we do the things we do.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Washam is a well-known teacher, author, and visionary leader based in Oakland, California. She is the author of <a href= "https://www.hayhouse.com/a-fierce-heart" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>A Fierce Heart: Finding Strength, Courage and Wisdom in Any Moment</em></a> and her newest book<em>,</em> <a href="https://www.springwasham.com/the-spirit-of-harriet-tubman" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>The Spirit of Harriet Tubman: Awakening from the Underground</em></a><em>.</em> Spring is considered a pioneer in bringing mindfulness-based meditation practices to diverse communities. She is one of the founding teachers at the <a href="https://eastbaymeditation.org/" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>East Bay Meditation Center</em></a><em>,</em> located in downtown Oakland, CA and has practiced and studied Buddhist philosophy in both the Theravada and Tibetan schools of Buddhism since 1999.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>How Spring came to write about Harriet Tubman's life</li> <li>Her work with plant medicine and the shamanic traditions</li> <li>The dream and the "conversations" Spring had with Tubman</li> <li>Why we are all so interested in ancestry</li> <li>How we can deepen our relationship with our ancestors </li> <li>Family Constellation Therapy as a modality for doing ancestry work </li> <li>Spring's own family history</li> <li>Why she is still processing the experience of writing her book about Harriet Tubman </li> <li>What she means by the "inner underground railroad" and how it is alive today</li> <li>And, how, in the inner underground railroad, freedom equates to nirvana </li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><em>Content Warning: mentions of suicide</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/spring-washam-556" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/spring-washam-556</a></p>

Can You Really Trust Your Gut? | Amber Tamblyn

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p>There may be a temptation in some circles to dismiss intuition as witchy, folkloric, or unscientific but there's actually a ton of science around this. Our guest, author, actress and director, Amber Tamblyn will guide us through this. Tamblyn argues that intuition is a trainable skill but that this south-of-the-neck intelligence is often obscured by being too stuck in our heads and out of touch with our bodies. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Tamblyn has been nominated for Emmy®, Golden Globe, and Independent Spirit Awards. Her work in television spans over two decades including starring roles on <em>House M.D</em>., and <em>Two and a Half Men</em>. On the big screen, she starred in movies such as <em>The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants</em> and <em>127 Hours</em>. She's written seven books, including her latest, which is called <a href= "https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780778333333" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Listening in the Dark: Women Reclaiming the Power of Intuition</em></a>. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li>How she defines intuition, and the role it plays as a bridge between the conscious and unconscious parts of our minds</li> <li>Why we are conditioned to validate rational intelligence over intuitive intelligence  </li> <li>The gut/brain connection, and why the enteric nervous system is known as the "second brain"</li> <li>Practical tips for getting better at listening to our bodies</li> <li>The role of meditation in boosting intuition</li> <li>The scientific research that points towards the importance of having a relationship with nature, and how this can improve our intuition</li> <li>The relationship between intuition and creativity</li> <li>How we should think about dream life</li> <li>What to do when you're not sure whether you should trust your gut</li> <li>How to recognize the difference between anxiety and intuition</li> <li>And why our society has downplayed the importance of intuition, which has been a tool used against women and men</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/amber-tamblyn-555" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/amber-tamblyn-555</a></p>

Meditation Party: The "Sh*t Is Fertilizer" Edition | Sebene Selassie &amp; Jeff Warren

<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p>Today's episode is the first in an experimental new series called Meditation Party. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Dan takes listener calls with fellow meditators Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren and get candid about their practices and dealing with life</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Sebene Selassie is based in Brooklyn and describes herself as a "writer, teacher, and immigrant-weirdo." She teaches meditation on the Ten Percent Happier app and is the author of a great book called, <em>You Belong</em>. Jeff Warren is based in Toronto and is also a writer and meditation teacher who co-wrote the book, <em>Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics</em> with Dan Harris. Jeff also hosts the Consciousness Explorers podcast.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Call (508) 656-0540 to have your question answered during the Meditation Party!</p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/sebene-selassie-jeff-warren-553" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/sebene-selassie-jeff-warren-553</a></p>