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The Imperfects
Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.
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Andy Lee - DO NOT Listen To This Episode!
13 set 20261h 10m<p>When he was 15, Andy Lee’s mum forgot who he was.</p> <p>💌 Join 9,400+ others in our newsletter community - <a href="https://www.theimperfects.com.au/sign-up-to-our-newsletter/">https://www.theimperfects.com.au/sign-up-to-our-newsletter/</a></p> <p>Given only two weeks to live, Andy tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh how this news impacted his family, impacted his childhood, and continues to impact his sense of self.</p> <p>And then, we’re going all the way back to the early days of Radio Karate, and Hamish & Andy.</p> <p>In a long overdue conversation (recorded, of course), Ryan and Andy chat about their own friendship dynamic and why they both felt like the odd one out.</p> <p>Getting down to business, Andy and Ryan discuss how a bunch of 20 year old guys made tough financial decisions while trying to remain mates, how they learnt to give constructive criticism to each other, and with the blessing of hindsight, how they feel about that time now.</p> <p>Andy, we’ve been waiting for this episode longer than a baker with his oven off.</p> <p>0:00 – 2 years of secret vocal coaching<br>4:35 – HOW long for one cartoon episode?<br>5:48 – When Andy met Hamish (and Ryan)<br>9:39 – The impact of getting cancelled after 5 episodes<br>10:08 – The best advice Andy received<br>14:07 – Jealousy, Jealousy<br>20:25 – The Four Way Split of Hamish & Andy<br>23:42 – Should we be recording this?<br>25:10 – Social media has replaced the paparazzo<br>26:11 – Andy’s nude photo scandal<br>30:23 – Inspiration and renegotiation<br>36:55 – The Vulnerabilitea House<br>38:02 – When your mum is given two weeks to live<br>40:30 – Rapid deterioration and rush to hospital<br>43:28 – Taking on the parent role at 15<br>46:04 – Furious at the new normal<br>49:09 – Why “Don’t Worry, It’ll Be Fine” is the worst thing to say<br>54:36 – Andy’s Dad’s incredible sacrifice<br>58:20 – The Lee Gazette<br>1:00:50 – Why we should talk about will’s</p> <p>🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode</p> <ul> <li>Ryan Shelton - Shame, Jealousy & Purpose - <a href="https://bit.ly/4A230B5">https://bit.ly/4A230B5</a></li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>Institute of Sayings from Real Stories - <a href="https://bit.ly/4xBJHgq">https://bit.ly/4xBJHgq</a></li> <li>Do Not Watch This Show! - <a href="https://bit.ly/4cAwlIZ">https://bit.ly/4cAwlIZ</a></li> <li>New Zealand Spy - <a href="https://bit.ly/4hdjPBI">https://bit.ly/4hdjPBI</a></li> </ul> <p>🎧Things to listen to</p> <ul> <li>Andy Lee on Falling Upwards with Kate Langbroek - <a href="https://bit.ly/4yucp30">https://bit.ly/4yucp30</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://theimperfects.com.au/shop">theimperfects.com.au/shop</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://theimperfects.com.au/shop">theimperfects.com.au/shop</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://patreon.com/theimperfects">patreon.com/theimperfects</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
My Brilliant Career Took Years of Rejection
6 set 20261h 16m<p>Have you ever watched the person you love most get everything you ever wanted? Did you harden around envy, or shrink with comparison? Were you able to find happiness for their success?</p> <p>Philippa Northeast, Logie nominated and lead of Netflix’s My Brilliant Career, is a star quickly rising. Her most significant role? The little sister of our producer, Bridge.</p> <p>💌Join 9,400+ others in our newsletter community - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>Joining us as a guest host, Producer Bridge, alongside Hugh, Josh and Ryan, discuss the years of failure and rejection behind the scenes of Pip’s overnight success.</p> <p>Constantly aware of the need to prove herself a success, Philippa is completely vulnerable about the obsession that came from certain rejections, and her anxiety which manifested itself as trichotillomania.</p> <p>Offering a unique and intimate perspective, both Bridge and Josh reflect on their respective siblings’ success, and how that has shaped their own identity.</p> <p>It’s sibling vs sibling, and only one will make it out alive (kidding, it has a happy ending).</p> <p>0:00 – Meet Producer Bridge’s Little Sister<br>5:43 – Pip’s Brilliant Career: From Home & Away to Netflix Star<br>11:39 – Middle Child Syndrome<br>19:28 – Sibling Comparison: Cricket and Drama Solos<br>20:55 – Finding Success Straight Out of High School<br>22:56 – Self-belief vs Self-doubt: Why Pip Took The Leap and Bridget Didn’t<br>25:30 – Feeling Over-shadowed, and Under Pressure<br>28:00 – Becoming an Unemployed Clown<br>29:17 – The Sensational Potter Backup Plan<br>34:01 – Getting Undressed (Again)<br>35:46 – The Hollywood Grind<br>37:32 – Lockdown, Isolation and Growing Doubt<br>46:15 – Obsession born from Rejection<br>51:49 – What Loneliness in the Acting Industry Feels Like<br>52:46 – The Body Keeps Score: Trichotillomania<br>54:47 – Healing: Journalling, Yoga, Grounding<br>57:04 – The Hallmark Offer That Changed Everything<br>1:03:39 – The Downside of Growing Up Next To A Rising Star<br>1:07:29 – Choosing Pride Over Jealousy<br>1:09:49 – The Upside of Losing to Claudia Karvan</p> <p>🫖 Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode</p> <ul> <li>Claudia Karvan - Love, Her Way - <a href="https://bit.ly/3UNr9LC">https://bit.ly/3UNr9LC</a></li> <li>What’s Your ATAR? - <a href="https://bit.ly/4zQ4AG5">https://bit.ly/4zQ4AG5</a></li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>My Brilliant Career - <a href="https://bit.ly/4zPaW8L">https://bit.ly/4zPaW8L</a></li> <li>Family Next Door - <a href="https://bit.ly/4gEp0cw">https://bit.ly/4gEp0cw</a></li> <li>Newsreader - <a href="https://bit.ly/3UNr4ri">https://bit.ly/3UNr4ri</a></li> <li>A Royal Runaway Romance - <a href="https://bit.ly/3V8rGb2">https://bit.ly/3V8rGb2</a></li> <li>Standing Up For Sunny - <a href="https://bit.ly/4xyeASP">https://bit.ly/4xyeASP</a></li> </ul> <p>🎧 Things to listen to</p> <ul> <li>Undressed by Sombr - <a href="https://bit.ly/4wY9Ipf">https://bit.ly/4wY9Ipf</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://theimperfects.com.au/shop">theimperfects.com.au/shop</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://theimperfects.com.au/shop">theimperfects.com.au/shop</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://patreon.com/theimperfects">patreon.com/theimperfects</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p></p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
I Tried No-Sleep-Parenting For 10 Months
30 ago 20261h 9m<p>What impact does sleep deprivation really have on your wellbeing? What about your parenting? What about your identity?</p> <p>Matt D’Avella has amassed over 4 millions subscribers on YouTube undertaking 30-day wellness challenges, and promoting his minimalist lifestyle.</p> <p>In life that was meticulously controlled, having kids changed everything.</p> <p>💌Join 9,400+ others in our newsletter community - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>Blessed with a baby who woke every 30 minutes for the first ten months of their life, Matt chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about how becoming a new parent impacted every facet of his life.</p> <p>Hugh and Josh share just how lonely they have felt at different times during their parenting journey, and Ryan saves the day by holding a baby for a full 40 minutes (save the applause! please!)</p> <p>Matt this was a dream come true.</p> <p>To watch the full episode on YouTube - <a href="https://youtu.be/foilZTRGXco">https://youtu.be/foilZTRGXco</a></p> <p>00:00 - I Tried Being Vulnerable for 30 Days <br>7:03 - Minimalism Maxxing <br>18:00 - The Vulnerabilitea House <br>20:25 - Becoming a father, losing sleep (and himself) <br>24:14 - Depression Diagnosis Wake-Up Call <br>32:56 - Hugh's Sleep Score <br>40:38 - SOS: Hiring Help, Expanding your Village <br>48:50 - Sleep Training: What Actually Works <br>52:02 - The Real Cost of Sleep Deprivation <br>58:29 - Being A Mum: The Additional Burden <br>1:01:32 - 'Do You Regret Having Kids?' <br>1:04:00 - The New and Improved Matt D'Ad-Avella</p> <p>🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Dr Edna Lekgabe - New Baby… New Brain… Matrescence - <a href="https://bit.ly/4zVt9Si">https://bit.ly/4zVt9Si</a></li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>Minimalism Documentary - <a href="https://bit.ly/3SSZb0t">https://bit.ly/3SSZb0t</a></li> <li>Why I disappeared - Matt D’Avella - <a href="https://bit.ly/3SwYA4g">https://bit.ly/3SwYA4g</a></li> <li>Matt D’Avella YouTube - <a href="https://bit.ly/4wOzFXW">https://bit.ly/4wOzFXW</a></li> </ul> <p>💤 Things to sleep train</p> <ul> <li>Tresillian Sleep Organisation - <a href="https://bit.ly/4zAGTS5">https://bit.ly/4zAGTS5</a></li> <li>The Ferber Sleep method - <a href="https://bit.ly/4iCdqB4">https://bit.ly/4iCdqB4</a></li> <li>Masada Sleep School - <a href="https://bit.ly/4qNi7uc">https://bit.ly/4qNi7uc</a></li> </ul> <p>📚Things to read</p> <ul> <li>Regretful Parents subreddit - <a href="https://bit.ly/4gx9W0b">https://bit.ly/4gx9W0b</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://theimperfects.com.au/shop">theimperfects.com.au/shop</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://theimperfects.com.au/shop">theimperfects.com.au/shop</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://patreon.com/theimperfects">patreon.com/theimperfects</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
How Childhood Cancer Motivated One of the World’s Greatest Chefs
23 ago 20261h 6m<p>How does having cancer as a child impact the way you live as an adult?</p> <p>Uber successful chef and restauranteur Josh Niland doesn’t do things in halves (no, literally, have you read his book The Whole Fish?).</p> <p>From opening a restaurant at 26, to becoming the first Australian to win the James Beard Book of the Year award when he was just 30, Josh’s creativity came from a place of desperation to explore every opportunity presented to him.</p> <p>💌Join 9,400+ people getting a Dr Emily values worksheet and takeaways from this week’s episode in our newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>Diagnosed with cancer 2 days after his 8th birthday, Josh’s childhood transformed in a matter of hours into hospital hallways, chemotherapy and facing his own mortality.</p> <p>In this episode, Josh joins us in the Vulnerabilitea House to talk us through an experience which profoundly changed him, which he is now grateful for.</p> <p>Hugh, Ryan and Josh (our Josh), also ask about where his drive and ambitious creativity comes from, and just how close to failure Josh’s culinary career came.</p> <p>We wish this chat could have gone on longer,</p> <p>If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://youtu.be/hjZPPeKKsVA">https://youtu.be/hjZPPeKKsVA</a> </p> <p>🫖Other Imperfect’s episodes mentioned on this episode</p> <ul> <li>Nathan Cavaleri - The Ups & The Blues - <a href="https://bit.ly/468HE7l">https://bit.ly/468HE7l</a></li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>Josh’s Australian Story - <a href="https://bit.ly/4giDtKR">https://bit.ly/4giDtKR</a></li> </ul> <p>📚Things to read</p> <ul> <li>Saint Peter: Chapter & Verse, by Josh Niland - <a href="https://bit.ly/4bVM0SN">https://bit.ly/4bVM0SN</a></li> <li>The Whole Fish, by Josh Niland - <a href="https://bit.ly/4bVM0SN">https://bit.ly/4bVM0SN</a></li> </ul> <p>🍽️ Places to eat</p> <ul> <li>Saint Peter - <a href="https://bit.ly/4qrs4gv">https://bit.ly/4qrs4gv</a></li> </ul> <p>💻Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>Starlight Children’s Foundation - <a href="https://bit.ly/4hHDkmM">https://bit.ly/4hHDkmM</a></li> <li>Josh Niland’s Website - <a href="https://www.mrniland.com/"></a><a href="https://www.mrniland.com">https://www.mrniland.com</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://theimperfects.com.au/shop">theimperfects.com.au/shop</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://theimperfects.com.au/shop">theimperfects.com.au/shop</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://patreon.com/theimperfects">patreon.com/theimperfects</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Dr Emily - Tough Love vs Shame
16 ago 20261h 19m<p>Is tough love to blame for our shame?</p> <p>💌Join 9,200+ people getting a Dr Emily values worksheet and takeaways from this week’s episode in our newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>We all know that parent or coach on the sideline who takes under 10’s basketball a liiitttllleee too seriously. And occasionally, tough love might seem to work in the moment, long term, the shame train isn’t going anywhere good.</p> <p>Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is here to name the shame to tame it, and teach us how we can be shame strippers too (get your head out of the gutter. Shame on you).</p> <p>We go into the difference between shame, humiliation, guilt and embarrassment, bow down to the queen Brene Brown, and introduce ourselves to our own Healthy Adult.</p> <p>Shamelessly, this is one of our best episodes to date.</p> <p>0:00 – Ever heard of a shame stripper?<br>6:27 – Bow down to Brene Brown<br>12:25 – The other self-conscious emotions (they’re shy)<br>20:51 – Humour and humiliation<br>29:21 – Shame is a full body experience<br>36:16 – Beware of who you share (with)<br>40:43 – Manosphere + behaviour change<br>46:59 – Tough love + kids sport<br>57:07 – Working with shame<br>1:06:10 – Bring on the compassion!<br>1:10:07 – Introducing the Healthy Adult</p> <p>If you’d like to watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link -</p> <p>🫖 Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode</p> <ul> <li>Ryan Shelton - Shame, Jealousy & Purpose - <a href="https://bit.ly/4qgEqrO">https://bit.ly/4qgEqrO</a></li> <li>Dr Emily - Compassion of The Self - <a href="https://bit.ly/4hqWa1k">https://bit.ly/4hqWa1k</a></li> <li>How do you know you’re in a thinking trap? - Maria Ruberto - <a href="https://bit.ly/4ze4eJh">https://bit.ly/4ze4eJh</a></li> </ul> <p>🎧 Things to listen to</p> <ul> <li>Between Two Beers with Steven Adams - <a href="https://bit.ly/4g3wipS">https://bit.ly/4g3wipS</a></li> </ul> <p>📚Things to read</p> <ul> <li>Daring Greatly, by Brene Brown - <a href="https://bit.ly/45VT2Dx">https://bit.ly/45VT2Dx</a></li> <li>The Compassionate Mind, by Paul Gilbert - <a href="https://bit.ly/3UewPOq">https://bit.ly/3UewPOq</a></li> <li>Movember study of the Manosphere - <a href="https://bit.ly/4wZxtOs">https://bit.ly/4wZxtOs</a></li> <li>Proneness to shame vs proneness to guilt research by Tangney et al. - <a href="https://bit.ly/4g4lQyl">https://bit.ly/4g4lQyl</a></li> </ul> <p>📖Things to do</p> <ul> <li>The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook, by Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer - <a href="https://bit.ly/4zg353K">https://bit.ly/4zg353K</a></li> <li>Othership (breath work app) - <a href="https://bit.ly/4g7Q03E">https://bit.ly/4g7Q03E</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://theimperfects.com.au/shop">theimperfects.com.au/shop</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://theimperfects.com.au/shop">theimperfects.com.au/shop</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://patreon.com/theimperfects">patreon.com/theimperfects</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
The Nature of Being Alone
9 ago 20261h 4m<p>Can nature help us to feel less alone?</p> <p>💌Join 9,000+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="https://www.theimperfects.com.au/sign-up-to-our-newsletter/">https://www.theimperfects.com.au/sign-up-to-our-newsletter/</a> </p> <p>Psychologist on the incredible, <em>Alone Australia</em> series (remember our seminal episode with Gina Chick?), Mark Mathieson is in the Academy of Imperfection to help us understand how nature regulates our body, and how we can reconnect to it in this digital age.</p> <p>Mark talks about how to uncover the person behind the persona, the science behind gardening, and why Hugh had the best sleep of his life in a tent, with no pillow.</p> <p>According to Mark, human are immensely capable of change, and this episode provides a few things we can do to ensure nature is incorporated into our routines, without cramming the schedule more.</p> <p>Mark, it was great to be alone . . . with you.</p> <p>If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CIMSSRJg2vQ">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CIMSSRJg2vQ</a> <br><br>0:00 – Ice breaker: where have we gone wrong?<br aria-hidden="true">6:58 – The segmentation of exercise<br aria-hidden="true">11:46 – Evolution of Mark<br aria-hidden="true">18:53 – Person behind the persona<br aria-hidden="true">24:10 – Our virtual reality future<br aria-hidden="true">27:22 – Let’s learn to adapt<br aria-hidden="true">36:00 – Building relationships with nature<br aria-hidden="true">42:28 – The science of gardening and sunshine<br aria-hidden="true">48:53 – Eventually, reality TV gets us all<br aria-hidden="true">53:08 – Big city blues</p> <p>🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode</p> <ul> <li>Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - <a href="https://bit.ly/4xj0kga">https://bit.ly/4xj0kga</a></li> <li>Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life - <a href="https://bit.ly/4btNKCu">https://bit.ly/4btNKCu</a></li> <li>Sex for Normal People with Ita O’Brien - <a href="https://bit.ly/4btNNya">https://bit.ly/4btNNya</a></li> <li>Dr Emily - The (pesky) Hedonistic Treadmill - <a href="https://bit.ly/4yXxx2B">https://bit.ly/4yXxx2B</a></li> <li>Dr Paul Callaghan - How To Follow The Dreaming Path - <a href="https://bit.ly/457l9PY">https://bit.ly/457l9PY</a></li> </ul> <p>📚Things to read</p> <ul> <li>Comfort Crisis, by Michael Easter - <a href="https://bit.ly/4pV10Ga">https://bit.ly/4pV10Ga</a></li> <li>The Dreaming Path, by Dr Paul Callaghan and Uncle Paul Gordon - <a href="https://bit.ly/4gctqrZ">https://bit.ly/4gctqrZ</a></li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>Alone Australia (new season out now) - <a href="https://bit.ly/4yWVW8n">https://bit.ly/4yWVW8n</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://theimperfects.com.au/shop">theimperfects.com.au/shop</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://theimperfects.com.au/shop">theimperfects.com.au/shop</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://patreon.com/theimperfects">patreon.com/theimperfects</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>All views expressed in this podcast are Mark Mathieson’s and not representative of the Department of Defence, Australia.</p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Briggs - What Racism Feels Like (feat. Nazeem Hussain)
2 ago 20261h 21m<p>What is racism, really?</p> <p>💌Join 9,000+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="https://www.theimperfects.com.au/sign-up-to-our-newsletter/">https://www.theimperfects.com.au/sign-up-to-our-newsletter/</a> </p> <p>Adam Briggs, rapper, writer, actor, senator and Yorta-Yorta man, joins Hugh, Josh and guest host Nazeem Hussain, to have an honest conversation about racism in Australia.</p> <p>We explore the impact of The Voice Referendum vote, how culture and community impacts identity, and why Briggs has never, ever felt the need to people please (yep, that’s the sound of us frantically scribbling down notes).</p> <p>Briggs also chats about the highs and lows of bipolar II.<br><br>0:00 – No boundaries Briggs<br>5:26 –Big Shep’ Washing Machine<br>12:25 – This is racism<br>21:27 – A hyper-vigilante<br>28:06 – Perfect storm for art<br>36:09 – Copping it Australia Wide<br>43:22 – The Yes Vote<br>53:08 – Australian Culture<br>57:02 – Never just about music<br>1:04:50 – Make Aboriginal Cool<br>1:09:19 – Bipolar, therapy, training</p> <p>🫖 Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Ben Shewry (Pt 1) - The Other Side of Excellence - <a href="https://bit.ly/4fErGpQ">https://bit.ly/4fErGpQ</a></li> <li>Ben Shewry (Pt 2) - How The Chef Was Made - <a href="https://bit.ly/45sPsR7">https://bit.ly/45sPsR7</a></li> <li>Ben Shewry - Making It Right (And Delicious) - <a href="https://bit.ly/4gXyDEZ">https://bit.ly/4gXyDEZ</a></li> <li>Nazeem Hussain - Losing a Parent - <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-imperfects/id1476501557?i=1000589981824">https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-imperfects/id1476501557?i=1000589981824</a> </li> </ul> <p>🎧Things to listen to</p> <ul> <li>Big Noter - <a href="https://www.thebignoter.com/"></a><a href="https://www.thebignoter.com">https://www.thebignoter.com</a></li> <li>The Children Came Back by Briggs & Gurrumul - <a href="https://bit.ly/4fGaxMH">https://bit.ly/4fGaxMH</a></li> </ul> <p>📺Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>Briggs’s Voice Referendum ad - <a href="https://bit.ly/4bkiTs2">https://bit.ly/4bkiTs2</a></li> </ul> <p>📚Things to read</p> <ul> <li>Our Home, Our Heartbeat by Adam Briggs - <a href="https://bit.ly/4yQKbjW">https://bit.ly/4yQKbjW</a></li> </ul> <p>💻Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>Rumbalara Football Netball Club - <a href="https://www.rfnc.com.au/">https://www.rfnc.com.au/</a></li> <li>Bad Apples Music - <a href="https://bit.ly/4x8Rdi3">https://bit.ly/4x8Rdi3</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="https://www.patreon.com/c/TheImperfects">https://www.patreon.com/c/TheImperfects</a> </p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcast <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Sex for Normal People with Ita O'Brien
26 lug 20261h 2m<p>Sex is sometimes a taboo topic. Not today! Intimacy expert Ita O’Brien tells us all about the new normal in the bedroom, and how she’s introduced it to Hollywood.</p> <p>💌Join 9,000+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>In 2017, Ita O’Brien changed how Hollywood approached sex scenes when she pioneered intimacy co-ordination on the hit Netflix show, Sex Education, by introducing the framework, “Intimacy On Set Guidelines”. She went on to on productions for Netflix, BBC, HBO, Hulu, Amazon, including Sex Education and Normal People, founding her own company Intimacy on Set.</p> <p>And now she’s here.</p> <p>Ita chats with the guys about what sex scenes were like before Intimacy Co-ordination, and all the lies movies taught us about sex. She explains the mysterious orgasm gap, why consent is the foundation of all intimacy, and maybe most importantly of all… the male and female anatomy of arousal! That bit’s at the 16min mark if you’re really in a hurry. 😉<br><br>00:00 – Meet Ita O'Brien, the World's First Intimacy Coordinator <br>01:32 – Inside Her Work on Normal People, I May Destroy You & Sex Education <br>04:17 – What Intimacy Actually Means (It's Not Just Sex) <br>07:34 – The Untold Story of the First-Ever Intimacy Coordinator Job <br>09:35 – What Sex Scenes Were Like Before Consent Guidelines Existed <br>12:27 – Why On-Screen Intimacy Shapes How We See Ourselves <br>14:33 – The Hidden Lie Movies Taught Us About Sex <br>16:00 – The Male Anatomy of Arousal, Explained <br>18:33 – The Female Anatomy of Arousal, Explained <br>23:17 – Why Desire Fades in Long-Term Relationships <br>25:59 – The Power of Touch (and Why We're Losing It) <br>30:39 – How Screens Are Rewiring Kids' Ability to Connect <br>34:08 – The Truth About the Orgasm Gap <br>40:30 – Why Consent Is the Foundation of All Intimacy <br>43:10 – Filming the Iconic Birth Scene in We Live in Time <br>49:52 – How to Talk to Kids About Consent and Bodies <br>52:24 – "Consent Is Sexy": A Call to Writers and Filmmakers <br>54:33 – Sex, Menopause and Intimacy at Every Life Stage</p> <p>📖Things to read</p> <p><strong>Intimacy: A Field Guide to Finding Connection and Feeling Your Deep Desires</strong> by Ita O’Brien - https://www.penguin.com.au/books/intimacy-9781529954043</p> <p>📺 Things to watch</p> <p><strong>Sex Education</strong> (Netflix) - <a href="https://www.netflix.com/title/80197526">https://www.netflix.com/title/80197526</a><br><strong>Normal People</strong> (BBC/Hulu) - <a href="https://www.hulu.com/series/normal-people">https://www.hulu.com/series/normal-people</a><br><strong>I May Destroy You</strong> (BBC/HBO) - <a href="https://www.hbo.com/i-may-destroy-you">https://www.hbo.com/i-may-destroy-you</a><br><strong>Catastrophe</strong> - <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Catastrophe-Season-1/dp/B00YGB8UYK">https://www.amazon.com/Catastrophe-Season-1/dp/B00YGB8UYK</a><br><strong>We Live in Time</strong> (Film4/A24) - <a href="https://www.a24films.com/films/we-live-in-time">https://www.a24films.com/films/we-live-in-time</a></p> <p>🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode</p> <p><strong>Esther Perel — Let's Be Better Lovers -</strong> <a href="https://open.spotify.com/episode/1BantQso5Ef3xPn4PWNG2I">https://open.spotify.com/episode/1BantQso5Ef3xPn4PWNG2I</a></p> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcast <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Our Phone Odyssey Begins
19 lug 20261h 13m<p>Could you live without your phone for a month?</p> <p>🩵To hear more episodes like this, join A Little More Imperfects!<br>Patreon - <a href="https://www.patreon.com/theimperfects">www.patreon.com/theimperfects</a> <br>Apple - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a><br><br>This week it's just the three of us. And like Odysseus before us, we embark on a life changing epic.</p> <p>Where he fought the trojans, monsters, cannibals, sirens, the oceans, a cyclops and ACTUAL GODS!!</p> <p>We will do something even ‘EPIC…ER’.</p> <p>We’re tackling our phones.</p> <p>Each of us take on a month-long challenge to fix our worst phone habits, inspired by the ‘god of no phones’ - Christopher Nolan and the release of THE ODYSSEY (if that wasn’t obvious already, but we promise this episode isn't an ad).</p> <p>We then share some of our favourite bits from behind the pay wall, from our Patreon/Subscriber community. Ryan has an unplanned, very generous on-air hair donation; Josh shares a bit from a book which changed his life a bit; which leads to one of the most honest conversations he and Hugh have ever had on (or off) the show, about comparison, self-esteem, and growing up idolising your older brother.</p> <p>This is one epic journey.</p> <p>00:00 — The Phone Odyssey Begins<br>08:54 — Our Phone-Free Pledges<br>19:11 — Modelling Better Habits at Home<br>25:29 — Hairing is Caring<br>37:57 — A Bit From a Book That Changed Josh’s Life a Bit<br>48:18 — The Conversation Between Brothers That Needed to Be Had</p> <p>🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode</p> <ul> <li>Bronte Campbell - Comparison, The thief of joy ****<a href="https://bit.ly/49S1S7C">https://bit.ly/49S1S7C</a></li> <li>Joe Brumm & Hamish Blake - A Bluey Print for Dads <a href="https://bit.ly/4w4ohI8">https://bit.ly/4w4ohI8</a></li> <li>How (and why) Ryan Dumped his iPhone <a href="https://bit.ly/3T3xdyM">https://bit.ly/3T3xdyM</a></li> <li>Sam Willoughby - The tragic injury that changed his life (and Ryan’s Finnastride admission) <a href="https://bit.ly/4fa5u8p">https://bit.ly/4fa5u8p</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read</p> <ul> <li>The midnight library - Matt Haigh <a href="https://bit.ly/4vGgnE0" data-token-index="1">https://bit.ly/4vGgnE0</a></li> <li>How Proust can change your life - Alain de Botton <a href="https://bit.ly/4dYfCkd">https://bit.ly/4dYfCkd</a></li> <li>In search of lost time - Marcel Proust <a href="https://bit.ly/4vt3lJG">https://bit.ly/4vt3lJG</a></li> </ul> <p>📺Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>The Odyssey <a href="https://bit.ly/4vY8nij">https://bit.ly/4vY8nij</a></li> <li>Christopher Nolan on 60minutes <a href="https://bit.ly/4yjfZgX">https://bit.ly/4yjfZgX</a></li> </ul> <p>💌Join 8,300+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="https://www.theimperfects.com.au/sign-up-to-our-newsletter/">https://www.theimperfects.com.au/sign-up-to-our-newsletter/</a> </p> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="https://www.theimperfects.com.au/shop/">https://www.theimperfects.com.au/shop/</a> </p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - <a href="https://www.theimperfects.com.au/shop/">https://www.theimperfects.com.au/shop/</a> </p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Dr Emily - You, Me & Jealousy
12 lug 20261h 5m<p>To be jealous is to be human. It is what you do with that feeling that counts.</p> <p>💌Join 8,300+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>Our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove is in the studio to talk about THAT podcast moment: the one where Ryan admitted he was jealous of Hugh and Hamish Blake’s relationship. The one that lives in Imperfects history.</p> <p>According to Dr Em, we develop the emotion of jealousy at just 9 months old, and it shows up everywhere; family, work, school, friends.</p> <p>Feelings around jealousy can be extremely painful, especially if it is accompanied by shame.</p> <p>In this episode, Dr Emily explores why jealousy can be so dangerous when not listened to, and why our jealous behaviour can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.</p> <p>See you on the other side.</p> <p>If you want to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://youtu.be/dlufNQ7iXCc">https://youtu.be/dlufNQ7iXCc</a></p> <p>00:00 - The Day Has Arrived <br>02:48 - When Ryan Revealed He Was Jealous of Hugh & Hamish <br>7:45 - Shame Tells You Not To Speak It <br>10:02 - Harry Styles Walks Into a Super Market <br>15:54 - You’re Making My Dog Jealous <br>22:31 - Feeling Jealous vs Being Jealous <br>43:49 - Hugh, Ryan & Hamish: 4 Years Later <br>47:50 - How To Have The Conversation (And Build Trust) <br>59:32 - You Can Feel Jealous AND Still Trust<br><br>🫖 Episodes mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Hamish Blake - Let’s Talk About Self Doubt - <a href="https://bit.ly/3QG8MXo">https://bit.ly/3QG8MXo</a></li> </ul> <p>💻Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>Uncertainty vs inevitable pain study - <a href="https://bit.ly/43NWFKQ">https://bit.ly/43NWFKQ</a></li> </ul> <p>🎵Songs to listen to</p> <ul> <li>Jealous Guy by John Lennon - <a href="https://bit.ly/43NWzCY">https://bit.ly/43NWzCY</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts too, here - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p></p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Joe Brumm & Hamish Blake - A Bluey-print For Dads
5 lug 20261h 30m<p>Want can you learn from playing with a child?</p> <p>In today's Academy of Imperfection, Bluey creator Joe Brumm joins us (for real life), with Hamish Blake stepping in as guest host.</p> <p>💌Join 8,300+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy" data-token-index="1">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a> </p> <p>In this episode we dig into the world of play -<em> ”the voluntary overcoming of unnecessary obstacles”</em>, we find out what makes a ‘good’ player and why kids' imaginative play tends to fade around age 12.</p> <p>Josh and Hugh take the chance to wax lyrical about their favourite Bluey episodes, Rain, Fruit Bat, Born Yesterday, The Decider (to name a few). And all three dads also share some moments of parenting shame as we discuss the constant battle for attention between our phones, and our kids.</p> <p>00:00 - Hamish Blake from Rove <br>08:13 - Bluey, The Most Streamed TV Show of All Time <br>11:51 - The Best Definition of Play You've Ever Heard <br>21:00 - It’s All Improvising <br>38:02 - Permission to Pretend Again <br>51:20 - My Kids Wouldn’t Have The Dad They Have Without Bluey <br>54:00 - Doing Something Just for Fun Is a Valid Reason <br>58:07 - Being Present In a World of Distractions <br>01:22:00 - The Bluey Episode That Made a Room Full of Footballers Cry <br>01:27:16 - Let Them Lead and See What Happens</p> <p>If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://youtu.be/eMigxjhCkcs">https://youtu.be/eMigxjhCkcs</a> </p> <p>🫖 Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>How (and why) Ryan dumped his iphone <a href="https://bit.ly/no-more-iphone"></a><a href="https://bit.ly/4vi83uA">https://bit.ly/4vi83uA</a></li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>Bluey - Shadowlands <a href="https://bit.ly/4eTzKTA">https://bit.ly/4eTzKTA</a></li> <li>Bluey - Calypso <a href="https://bit.ly/3QT6NyT">https://bit.ly/3QT6NyT</a></li> <li>Bluey - Magic Xylophone <a href="https://bit.ly/4gdY057">https://bit.ly/4gdY057</a></li> <li>Bluey - Born Yesterday <a href="https://bit.ly/3SvY5HA">https://bit.ly/3SvY5HA</a></li> <li>Bluey - Bin Night <a href="https://bit.ly/4gd89Pt">https://bit.ly/4gd89Pt</a></li> <li>Bluey - The decider <a href="https://bit.ly/4eHS1V4">https://bit.ly/4eHS1V4</a></li> <li>Bluey - Faceytalk <a href="https://bit.ly/4wpWWju">https://bit.ly/4wpWWju</a></li> <li>Bluey - Pass the parcel <a href="https://bit.ly/4gi9PXU">https://bit.ly/4gi9PXU</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcast <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Janelle Booker & Hamish Blake - The ADHD Playbook for Parents
28 giu 20261h 43m<p>How do you raise a child whose brain works differently?</p> <p>This episode is for parents of kids with ADHD. And parents who have ADHD. And people who don’t have a diagnosis, but would consider themselves ‘fast and loose’. And for everyone who knows someone who fits the above criteria.</p> <p>💌Join 8,300+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>Janelle Booker, a psychologist who specialises in ADHD, is BACK, this time, to talk to parents of ADHD kids, and how to <em>parent</em> when you yourself have ADHD.</p> <p>And also, ADHD-curious Hamish Blake is here too.</p> <p>We look at the role of dopamine, energy vs stressors, and how to make your mornings less chaotic and more compassionate.</p> <p>Hamish and Janelle. What a duo.</p> <p>0:00 – A dynamic duo: Hamish and Janelle<br>5:58 – The penny drop moment for Hugh<br>11:35 – ADHD or Fast and Loose?<br>19:56 – The beauty and beast of ADHD brains<br>22:38 – The life of an ADHD kid<br>27:16 – A crash course on dopamine<br>37:26 – Structure, sleep and school<br>44:38 – Identity and diagnosis<br>55:13 – ADHD kids and friendships<br>1:02:50 – Parenting WITH ADHD<br>1:16:29 – Finding and supporting regulation<br>1:23:13 – Slo-pamine<br>1:28:54 – Let’s talk about the strengths<br>1:34:35 – Get ‘em outside!</p> <p>If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://youtu.be/WwEBTIMohwg">https://youtu.be/WwEBTIMohwg</a></p> <p>🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD - <a href="https://bit.ly/4g0CUXK">https://bit.ly/4g0CUXK</a></li> <li>Hugh’s ADHD…brief - <a href="https://bit.ly/4g567Rw">https://bit.ly/4g567Rw</a></li> <li>Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - <a href="https://bit.ly/4uYFbGS">https://bit.ly/4uYFbGS</a></li> </ul> <p>💻Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>Janelle’s website - <a href="https://bit.ly/3QJdO5t">https://bit.ly/3QJdO5t</a></li> <li>The MEHRIT Centre - <a href="https://self-reg.ca/">https://self-reg.ca/</a></li> <li>The ADHD Parent Circle Online Program - <a href="https://bit.ly/4g5Anvu">https://bit.ly/4g5Anvu</a></li> <li>ADHD Women’s Support Group (Perinatal and Early Parenting) - <a href="https://bit.ly/3T0BJ0N">https://bit.ly/3T0BJ0N</a></li> <li>Online Q&A with Janelle about ADHD parenting - <a href="https://bit.ly/4g5wneu">https://bit.ly/4g5wneu</a></li> </ul> <p>📖Things to read</p> <ul> <li>ADHD: A Delightful Human Difference. Reframing ADHD for Good, by Janelle Booker and Matthew Johnson - <a href="https://bit.ly/4w7scU3">https://bit.ly/4w7scU3</a></li> </ul> <p>🎧Things to listen to</p> <ul> <li>Hamish & Andy podcast - <a href="https://bit.ly/43Z0RHJ">https://bit.ly/43Z0RHJ</a></li> <li>Controlling Your Dopamine For Motivation, Focus & Satisfaction, by Huberman Lab - <a href="https://bit.ly/4xPnMCZ">https://bit.ly/4xPnMCZ</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts too, here - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Jimmy Wales (Wikipedia) - In Trust We Trust
21 giu 20261h 1m<p>How do you choose who to trust? And how do you show others that you are trustworthy?</p> <p>💌Join 8,100+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>In this Academy of Imperfection, we are joined by Jimmy Wales, co-founder of Wikipedia. No biggie (BIG biggie).</p> <p>And if there’s one thing Jimmy knows, it's how to garner and imbue the trust of millions.</p> <p>You’re right in feeling like the general level of trust globally is low right now, but this episode is here to step through Jimmy's 7 rules which will help you build, rebuild, and solidify what is in our innate human behaviour.</p> <p>Trust is important, and so is this conversation.</p> <p>0:00 – BIG deal on the internet<br>8:41 – The heart behind it all<br>14:57 – Trust is always personal<br>20:22 – It’s human nature<br>23:33 – Good guys of the internet<br>30:35 – Don’t take sides<br>38:23 – The circle of trust<br>40:15 – Own up<br>46:03 – Let’s call them a civil person</p> <p>If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://youtu.be/Z1SPClxSfYI">https://youtu.be/Z1SPClxSfYI</a></p> <p>📖 Things to read</p> <ul> <li>The Seven Rules of Trust, by Jimmy Wales - <a href="https://bit.ly/4vi83uA">https://bit.ly/4vi83uA</a></li> </ul> <p>🎧Things to listen to</p> <ul> <li>How to Build (And Rebuild) Trust with Frances Frei - <a href="https://bit.ly/4vfMMSl">https://bit.ly/4vfMMSl</a></li> </ul> <p>🏆Competitions to enter</p> <ul> <li>Imperfects LIVE at the Balwyn Cinema Gold Class Double Pass - <a href="https://bit.ly/3S0E0Zr">https://bit.ly/3S0E0Zr</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts too, here - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Dr Emily - You're Full of Grit
14 giu 20261h 15m<p>Do you think you have grit?</p> <p>💌Join 8,000+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>Research has shown that the most common characteristic of elite performers and high achievers is grit.</p> <p>Understood as the passion and perseverance for very long term goals, Grit is not about natural ability or talent, but rather how we choose to grow.</p> <p>Your favourite resident psychologist, Dr Emily Musgrove, is back in the studio this week to talk about how you can become a grittier person!</p> <p>We also look inward, as Josh asks how to maintain grit when it feels like your inner critic is overwhelmingly loud.</p> <p>Dr Em, so great to have you back.</p> <p>0:00 – Down with the nonchalance! <br>5:43 – Talent vs Excellence<br>10:40 – Interested in finding your interests<br>16:42 – For the non-naturals in the room <br>24:22 – Effort is essential for excellence <br>32:17 – Practicing, kindly <br>35:01 – Hope is earned <br>42:06 – The good and bad criticism<br>53:45 – Encountering pain and discomfort <br>59:54 – For the greater good <br>1:06:09 – The dark side of perseverance</p> <p>If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - <a href="https://youtu.be/JmcLV7DGL4k">https://youtu.be/JmcLV7DGL4k</a> </p> <p>🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode</p> <ul> <li>Dyson Heppell - Whatever It Takes… To Forgive - <a href="https://bit.ly/4egeneO">https://bit.ly/4egeneO</a></li> <li>Nedd Brockmann - The Man, The Myth, The Neddgend - <a href="https://bit.ly/4egfATo">https://bit.ly/4egfATo</a></li> <li>Dr Emily - Hope - <a href="https://bit.ly/43YalTr">https://bit.ly/43YalTr</a></li> <li>Bri Lee - Babies+Climate=Anxiety - <a href="https://bit.ly/4xlrYdl">https://bit.ly/4xlrYdl</a></li> <li>How I Built ‘Dis’ - The Resilience Project Story - <a href="https://bit.ly/4aH0dSP">https://bit.ly/4aH0dSP</a></li> </ul> <p>📚Things to read</p> <ul> <li>Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth - <a href="https://bit.ly/4vzoe6o">https://bit.ly/4vzoe6o</a></li> <li>Self-efficacy, by Albert Bandura - <a href="https://bit.ly/4fx4KdW">https://bit.ly/4fx4KdW</a></li> <li>Master of Change, by Brad Stulberg - <a href="https://bit.ly/4xCbUEv">https://bit.ly/4xCbUEv</a></li> <li>Peak: Secrets from the New Science of Expertise, by Anders Ericsson - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Q9cIje">https://bit.ly/3Q9cIje</a></li> </ul> <p>📺Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>THE GAP, by Ira Glass - <a href="https://bit.ly/4xjkuHL">https://bit.ly/4xjkuHL</a></li> </ul> <p>⭐️Things to donate to</p> <ul> <li>JMB Foundation - <a href="https://jmbfoundation.org.au/"></a><a href="https://jmbfoundation.org.au">https://jmbfoundation.org.au</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts too, here - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Ellyse Perry - It Starts With Trying
7 giu 20261h 19m<p>At just 16, Ellyse Perry was the youngest person to ever debut for the Australian International Cricket team. 13 days later, Ellyse debuted for the Matildas.</p> <p>💌Join 7,800+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>Arguably one of the greatest athletes of our time, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Ellyse about how she stays so grounded amidst her incredible success, and whether she is able to separate who she is from what she does.</p> <p>Ellyse chats to the guys about her relationship with her dad (Josh and Hugh furiously take notes), and how both her parents were able to instil a love of trying rather than winning.</p> <p>And then we get onto social anxiety; what it feels like for Ellyse, why she loves silent retreats, and how she manages it in front of her fans.</p> <p>Ellyse, you are a literal ray of sunshine. Please come back anytime.</p> <p>If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://youtu.be/xAZeLzcG43Y">https://youtu.be/xAZeLzcG43Y</a> </p> <p>0:00 – Is THAT AI?<br>5:05 – Running (and bowling) it’s natural course<br>11:24 – The feeling of not trying<br>17:18 – Parents: Be A Good Sport<br>29:22 – Prepare to be disappointed<br>40:23 – Bitter sweet World Cup<br>46:48 – The complexity of ego<br>1:03:54 – Practicing presence<br>1:10:30 – Hugh’s advice for big moments</p> <p>🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode</p> <ul> <li>Pat Cummins - Love, Loss & Life - (1:14:20) - <a href="https://bit.ly/3PRku11">https://bit.ly/3PRku11</a></li> <li>WHO ARE YOU? with Dr Emily (+ secret code word) - (17:20) - <a href="https://bit.ly/4e1SxeV">https://bit.ly/4e1SxeV</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read</p> <ul> <li>Perspective by Ellyse Perry - (29:22) - <a href="https://bit.ly/3PSMaCI">https://bit.ly/3PSMaCI</a></li> <li>Ellyse Perry’s children’s books - <a href="https://bit.ly/4e1TyDM">https://bit.ly/4e1TyDM</a></li> <li>Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman - (1:11:40) - <a href="https://bit.ly/437yxT9">https://bit.ly/437yxT9</a></li> </ul> <p>📺Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>Carl Sagan’s Pale Blue Dot - (1:17:27) - <a href="https://bit.ly/3PSPKNa">https://bit.ly/3PSPKNa</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts too, here - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
We're Doing a One-Off Live Show!
2 giu 202610 min<p>We have a BIG announcement.</p> <p>August 19. Balwyn Cinema. Our first ever live podcast recording. With Hugh, Ryan, Josh, Dr Emily, and you?</p> <p>ARE YOU AS EXCITED AS WE ARE?!</p> <p>And you could win your way there! THE ULTIMATE GOLD CLASS DOUBLE PASS includes: 2 x tickets, flights or a limo if you're already in Melbourne, accomodation for the night, popcorn, choc top, sparkling wine and a personal escort to your seats by former Balwyn Cinema employee Hugh van Cuylenburg!</p> <p>🏆 Enter here NOW - <a href="https://www.theimperfects.com.au/balwyn-entry/">https://www.theimperfects.com.au/balwyn-entry/</a></p> <p>Tickets will go live Monday June 8.</p> <p>🎟️ Buy here - <a href="https://bit.ly/4ecYtTw">https://bit.ly/4ecYtTw</a></p> <p>BUT to enter the competition OR buy tickets, you need a codeword (lowercase). And the only way you will hear the codeword is to be a <em>Little More Imperfects</em> subscriber and listen to the latest episode!</p> <p>So quick, subscribe here!</p> <p>🩵Patreon - <a href="http://patreon.com/theimperfects">patreon.com/theimperfects</a></p> <p>🩷Apple Podcast - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>We can’t wait to see you there x</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Ryan Holiday - A Stoic Life & Death
31 mag 20261h 13m<p>We can’t control what happens to us, but we can control how we respond. At least, that’s what the Stoic’s say.</p> <p>💌Join 7,500+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>Today we are joined (deep breath Hugh) by Stoic philosopher Ryan Holiday.</p> <p>Using the wisdom of the past to appreciate the present, Ryan’s work is dedicated to communicating how the practicalities of stoic philosophy can help us lead more present, mindful and resilient lives today.</p> <p>In this incredible chat, Hugh, Josh and Ryan (our Ryan), each present Ryan Holiday with something they have been struggling with in their own lives. Through the lens of Stoic philosophers Marcus Aurelius, Seneca and Epictetus, Ryan Holiday talks to how stoicism can really help us to live into our values, prioritise presence, and deal with existential dread.</p> <p>We discuss with Ryan the importance of understanding what will actually make you happy (spoiler: it’s not a billion dollars), and how to reframe death as a reminder that we must appreciate every moment (or not waste anymore with shame and guilt).</p> <p>This episode, and its practical take-aways (which you can find listed in our newsletter), has been a long time coming.</p> <p>Ryan, what an absolute honour.</p> <p>0:00 – What is Stoicism? <br>13:26 – For the Josh’s of the world <br>17:07 – Time and Energy of Worrying <br>27:01 – The illusion of freedom <br>33:50 – Am I a bad friend? <br>38:58 – Practicing what you preach ft. presence <br>45:42 – If today was your last day <br>50:22 – 5 quotes for a Stoic life</p> <p>If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link -</p> <p>🫖 Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Pat Cummins - Love, Loss & Life - <a href="https://bit.ly/4dHKR2F">https://bit.ly/4dHKR2F</a></li> <li>Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top - <a href="https://bit.ly/4dHKPYB">https://bit.ly/4dHKPYB</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read</p> <ul> <li>Letter’s from a Stoic by Seneca - <a href="https://bit.ly/49WVNqB">https://bit.ly/49WVNqB</a></li> <li>ALL of Ryan’s books - <a href="https://bit.ly/43uHsxZ">https://bit.ly/43uHsxZ</a></li> </ul> <p>✍️Journals to journal</p> <ul> <li>The Daily Stoic - <a href="https://bit.ly/49qJ6Em">https://bit.ly/49qJ6Em</a></li> <li>My Imperfect Life - <a href="https://bit.ly/4tZ8qJ6">https://bit.ly/4tZ8qJ6</a></li> </ul> <p>🎟️ Things to get tickets to</p> <ul> <li>Daily Stoic Live with Ryan Holiday - <a href="https://bit.ly/4uK72Lt">https://bit.ly/4uK72Lt</a></li> </ul> <p>💻Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>Ryan’s website - <a href="https://bit.ly/4v3Vh24">https://bit.ly/4v3Vh24</a></li> <li>The Resilience Project - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Q4LOc4">https://bit.ly/3Q4LOc4</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts too, here - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Joel Pearson - I Think, Therefore AI
24 mag 20261h 29m<p>In the age of AI, do you feel that your future is more uncertain?</p> <p>💌Join 7,500+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p data-id="1aab7db2-a4f9-4202-9dd8-93a4b9387512">In today’s Academy of Imperfection, we’re joined by Dr Joel Pearson; a neurofuturist, whose work centres around predicting how AI will impact every aspect of our lives from now on.</p> <p data-id="74838d8d-ea17-4ab9-a81f-ffc4d8b743e8">While many of us (us included) first and foremost imagine the impacts of AI in a tech-revolution-y, robot butler-y, terminator-adjacent way, this episode goes deeper.</p> <p data-id="31ca6a3a-feb6-49cf-8d0d-dfc72ac9f68c">Joel discusses how young people are forming attachments with AI companions and how we might see, perhaps the first generation in known history with a lower IQ than the one beforehand.</p> <p data-id="6179439c-2930-4ae1-b680-fbe9387f67f8">We talk about the tangible and interconnected mental health impacts that this major societal disruption will have, and Hugh and Josh ask how in the world can we broach this topic with our kids?</p> <p data-id="06d518a9-cd3a-4912-b668-8acaa08e9454">BUT, this episode isn’t all doom and gloom. Joel is a tech-optimist, after all.</p> <p data-id="a3f4d8df-0c5c-4196-a143-4b32500cc908">We talk to Joel about how we can foster human connection, and continue to develop our critical thinking skills, whilst not turning away from AI altogether.</p> <p>Joel, this has been invaluable.</p> <p>If you want to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GPGa6heppjE">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GPGa6heppjE</a> </p> <p>0:00 – The episode we’ve been putting off<br>10:10 – The only certainty is disruption<br>14:15 – Impact of AI on the brain<br>21:23 – Rewards and moral responsibility<br>27:11 – A scary mental health spiral<br>30:31 – Think of the children<br>35:10 – You may now kiss the AI<br>45:06 – Purposeful Utopia<br>58:42 – Seeing is no longer believing<br>1:02:21 – The Roadmap to AI<br>1:11:35 – Finding Motivation in Limbo<br>1:18:15 – Let’s Stack Some Habits</p> <p>🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Dr Emily - Acceptance, That’s Radical - (1:22:53) - <a href="https://bit.ly/4dW7Bfa">https://bit.ly/4dW7Bfa</a></li> <li>Dr Emily - The Certainty of Uncertainty - (1:22:53) - <a href="https://bit.ly/3RTAjVl">https://bit.ly/3RTAjVl</a></li> <li>James Clear - Down The Habit Hole - (1:22:00) - <a href="https://bit.ly/4wIg5xV">https://bit.ly/4wIg5xV</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read</p> <ul> <li>The Intuition Toolkit by Dr Joel Pearson - (3:18) - <a href="https://bit.ly/4v5NnFM">https://bit.ly/4v5NnFM</a></li> <li>Matt Shumer App Development Industry Blog - (27:11) - <a href="https://bit.ly/4uo65rY">https://bit.ly/4uo65rY</a></li> </ul> <p>💻Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>Joel’s website - <a href="https://bit.ly/4upBURa">https://bit.ly/4upBURa</a></li> <li>Tristan Harris’ Center for Human Technology - (1:25:40) - <a href="https://bit.ly/4wGrFJZ">https://bit.ly/4wGrFJZ</a></li> <li>Figure Three Robotics - (42:51) - <a href="https://bit.ly/42J2Uiz">https://bit.ly/42J2Uiz</a></li> <li>Joel's work at the University of NSW as Deputy Director of Human Readiness UNSW AI Institute - <a href="https://bit.ly/4nPA89G">https://bit.ly/4nPA89G</a> </li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>House of Dynamite - (26:21) - <a href="https://bit.ly/4uw5PYg">https://bit.ly/4uw5PYg</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts too, here - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Dr Emily - What To Do With Envy
17 mag 20261h 19m<p>What is your envy telling you?</p> <p>💌Join 7,000+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist, is back in the studio to talk about the green-eyed monster, and more importantly, how we can work with it to incorporate more gratitude, appreciation and awareness into our lives (hallelujah).</p> <p>Founded in the evolutionary practice of assessing our status in comparison with others, envy comes from the feeling of lacking something that someone else has.</p> <p>In what may have been an adaptive function for a cave person to secure their basic needs, our brains are not equipped for the intense comparison fed to us via social media.</p> <p>Dr Emily chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the layered experience of envy, and how often, it stems from feeling not-enough or unworthy.</p> <p>Of course, Dr Emily brings the strategies. We explore how to work with envy in our own lives, and how to acknowledge it in the lives of our friends and family to protect important relationships.</p> <p>Dr Em, we’ll see you for the sequel on jealousy soon.</p> <p>To watch the full episode: <a href="https://youtu.be/B7acUnoekSc">https://youtu.be/B7acUnoekSc</a></p> <p>0:00 – Envy vs Jealousy 9:08 – Keeping up with the Jones’ 8:16 – A message around ‘enoughness’ 25:12 – The energy of being a hater 36:50 – A deep longing for a difference experience 42:13 – On the flip side 52:45 - Acknowledge the hard 59:18 – The social emotion 1:07:18 – Working with envy</p> <p>🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Dave Hughes - Me, Myself & Ego - <a href="https://bit.ly/4ua3mSP">https://bit.ly/4ua3mSP</a></li> <li>Hamish Blake - Let’s Talk About Self-Doubt - <a href="https://bit.ly/4fl7omR">https://bit.ly/4fl7omR</a></li> <li>Dr Emily - Acceptance, That’s Radical - <a href="https://bit.ly/4ugEHwe">https://bit.ly/4ugEHwe</a></li> </ul> <p>💻Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>Leon Festinger’s Social Comparison Theory - <a href="https://bit.ly/4npfIE5">https://bit.ly/4npfIE5</a></li> </ul> <p>📺Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>‘Onesies’ Bluey episode - <a href="https://bit.ly/4eGTqLS">https://bit.ly/4eGTqLS</a></li> </ul> <p>📖Things to read</p> <ul> <li>The Way We Are, by Hugh Mackay - <a href="https://bit.ly/4wsJuff">https://bit.ly/4wsJuff</a></li> <li>Status Anxiety, by Alain de Botton - <a href="https://bit.ly/4tvbGeL">https://bit.ly/4tvbGeL</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts too, here - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p></p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Reuben Williams - What Happened After My Sexual Assault
10 mag 20261h 28m<p>Can you think of a moment that turned your life into ‘before’ and ‘after’?</p> <p>For Reuben Williams, that moment was not his sexual assault, rather, the decision he made in the aftermath to pursue justice.</p> <p>💌Join 7,000+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>Incredibly vulnerable, Reuben talks Hugh, Ryan and Josh through what it felt like in the 24 hours after the assault, how he knew, undeniably, what happened to him was wrong, and why he chose to report it.</p> <p>We talk about the intricacies of healing, privilege, and having a world class difficult conversation with the ones you love.</p> <p>And then, Josh asks Reuben how you can best show up for your friends who might be going through something similar.</p> <p>Reuben, it was such a privilege having you in the studio.</p> <p>If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://youtu.be/okQnOwV2MJE">https://youtu.be/okQnOwV2MJE</a> </p> <p>0:00 – An Imperfect Meet-Cute<br>6:44 – The night of the assault<br>19:28 – Identity, privilege, and idealism<br>33:09 – Family Dynamics<br>41:16 - World Class Difficult Conversation<br>47:39 – The Waiting Game<br>59:15 – Reuben’s Letter<br>1:04:24 – A divine test<br>1:10:30 – Just help<br>1:18:46 – How can you be a better friend?</p> <p>🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode</p> <ul> <li>Rana Hussain - Belonging For Connection - <a href="https://bit.ly/49voquJ">https://bit.ly/49voquJ</a></li> </ul> <p>🎧Things to listen to</p> <ul> <li>SportsGrad Podcast - <a href="https://bit.ly/42V75HT">https://bit.ly/42V75HT</a></li> </ul> <p>💻Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>SportsGrad - <a href="https://bit.ly/49p2hOD">https://bit.ly/49p2hOD</a></li> </ul> <p>🚨If you’d like to reach out to someone for support after listening to this episode, here are some great places to start</p> <ul> <li><a href="https://1800respect.org.au">1800 RESPECT</a></li> <li><a href="https://casacv.org.au">Centre Against Sexual Assault</a> - 03 5441 0430 (Mon-Fri 9am-5pm) OR 1800 806 292 (Sexual Assault Crisis Line)</li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts too, here - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Jan Fran - Wars For Your Attention
3 mag 20261h 11m<p>In a world so divided by hate, how can we choose to show love?</p> <p>This week we are joined by journalist Jan Fran, who unpacks the horror of witnessing horror.</p> <p>💌Join 6,500+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>Talking through her unravelling relationship with social media and the utter helplessness she feels watching atrocities cut into 30 second clips, Jan explores how becoming a mother cracked her open in ways she didn’t know possible.</p> <p>Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House to answer every question in the deck (kidding), Jan and Josh discuss the guilt of turning away, and the consequences of leaning in.</p> <p>And finally, Jan bonds with the Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the fundamental importance of deliberately creating community.</p> <p>Jan, you are remarkable.</p> <p>0:00 – Introducing Josh’s housemate <br>8:42 – The art of being vulnerable <br>17:19 – I wish I could stop going on social media. <br>27:13 – Being cracked open <br>35:32 – Deliberately building community <br>46:39 – Anticipating the Comments <br>53:34 – Optimist by will</p> <p>If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube (and see Josh’s Frant banner), follow this link - <a href="https://youtu.be/BRoyNdZEZD0">https://youtu.be/BRoyNdZEZD0</a> </p> <p>🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Dr Edna Lekgabe - New Baby … New Brain … Matrescence - (33:21) - <a href="https://bit.ly/48vQZb5">https://bit.ly/48vQZb5</a></li> <li>How (and Why) Ryan Dumped His iPhone - (20:50) - <a href="https://bit.ly/4tGRXKj">https://bit.ly/4tGRXKj</a></li> </ul> <p>💻Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>The Frant - <a href="https://bit.ly/4cSeFaO">https://bit.ly/4cSeFaO</a></li> <li>Ette Media - <a href="https://bit.ly/4t1OzIw">https://bit.ly/4t1OzIw</a></li> </ul> <p>🎧 Things to listen to</p> <ul> <li>We Used To Be Journos - <a href="https://bit.ly/4dcAGT9">https://bit.ly/4dcAGT9</a></li> </ul> <p>📱Things to help you set social media boundaries</p> <ul> <li>One sec - <a href="https://bit.ly/4cEYMpF">https://bit.ly/4cEYMpF</a></li> <li>Brick - <a href="https://bit.ly/4vXSzfP">https://bit.ly/4vXSzfP</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts too, here - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Dr Edna Lekgabe - New Baby… New Brain… Matrescence.
26 apr 20261h 35m<p>According to perinatal and reproductive psychiatrist Dr Edna Lekgabe, matrescence is the motherhood equivalent of adolescence. Puberty 2.0, if you will.</p> <p>💌Join 6,500+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>Joining us in the academy of imperfection, Dr Edna explores the cataclysmic identity shift women undergo during motherhood, and how partners can best support them.</p> <p>Exploring the impacts of mastrescence with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Dr Edna breaks down the difference between matrescence, anxiety and depression, and why mental illness is the number one pregnancy complication.</p> <p>We’re talking hormonal changes, physiological changes, sociological changes that are SO significant, you can see them in brain scans. Matrescence is messy, a developmental earthquake, and it’s not talked about nearly enough.</p> <p>This episode might just break the internet (and your heart) wide open.</p> <p>0:00 – Introducing Hugh’s perinatal psychiatrist <br>7:30 – Matrescence? Huh? <br>21:14 – The biology of baby brain <br>34:10 – The difference between matrescence and depression <br>40:46 – Reasonable worry vs anxiety disorder <br>47:40 – The emergence of neurodivergence <br>54:04 – Post-natal depression <br>1:00:04 – Matrescence after loss <br>1:05:50 – Getting to know a brand new person <br>1:11:19 – Can women have it all? <br>1:18:32 – On a societal scale <br> 1:26:12 – The paternal earthquake</p> <p>If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link -</p> <p>🫖 Other Imperfect’s episodes mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Bron Lewis - Is It Me or Postnatal Anxiety? - <a href="https://bit.ly/4vHn1eh">https://bit.ly/4vHn1eh</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read</p> <ul> <li>Being Female: Reproduction, Power and Change, by Dana Raphael - <a href="https://bit.ly/48jC5EO">https://bit.ly/48jC5EO</a></li> <li>The Birth of a Mother, New York Times, by Alexandra Sacks - <a href="https://bit.ly/3OjB9tp">https://bit.ly/3OjB9tp</a></li> <li>Men at Work: Australia’s Parenthood Trap, Quarterly Essay, by Annabel Crabb - <a href="https://bit.ly/4mLE8Hx">https://bit.ly/4mLE8Hx</a></li> </ul> <p>🎧Things to listen to</p> <ul> <li>Perinatal OCD: When ‘the happiest time of your life’ turns dark - <a href="https://bit.ly/48lx8eK">https://bit.ly/48lx8eK</a></li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>Alexandra Sacks TEDTalk on Matrescence - <a href="https://bit.ly/4tsBcCt">https://bit.ly/4tsBcCt</a></li> </ul> <p>💻Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>Yerkes-Dodson Law: Stress Level - <a href="https://bit.ly/4cOT2IO">https://bit.ly/4cOT2IO</a></li> <li>peanut x Tommee Tippee campaign on matrescence - <a href="https://bit.ly/4mQDicU">https://bit.ly/4mQDicU</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts too, here - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p></p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Shane Jacobson - Permission To Laugh
19 apr 20261h 34m<p>How do you make sure your kids are proud of who they are?</p> <p>💌Join 6,500+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>Propelled to international stardom after the release of Kenny, Shane Jacobson’s overnight success was years in the making.</p> <p>Joining us in the studio, Shane is incredibly generous in sharing the cataclysmic impact that humour and laughter has had on his life from a young age.</p> <p>Now at the age where he has attended more funerals than 21st’s, Shane talks about his realisation that he is in for the long mourn, and why he allows himself to feel joy during times of intense grief. Sharing a giggle at a funeral? Absolutely.</p> <p>In a beautiful moment of connection with Hugh, Shane chats about parenting the ‘premium package’ (his neurodivergent child).</p> <p>Shane, this was incredibly joyful.</p> <p>If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://youtu.be/VHaK2fSiasA">https://youtu.be/VHaK2fSiasA</a> </p> <p>0:00 – A bird in her where?<br>3:19 – Butt of the joke<br>12:34 – The evolution of good manners <br>17:47 – Seeking validation <br>27:17 – Giggle at a funeral<br>42:00 – Autism, ADHD, Tourette’s: The Premium Package!<br>55:58 – Becoming softer<br>1:00:25 – Parenting your parents<br>1:08:03 – Don’t wait for the moment<br>1:18:04 – 5 things we can do to be warmer</p> <p>🫖 Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Dr Emily - Truth v Harmony - <a href="https://bit.ly/4etnytQ">https://bit.ly/4etnytQ</a></li> </ul> <p>📺Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>Kenny - <a href="https://bit.ly/427rUzv">https://bit.ly/427rUzv</a></li> <li>Shane’s AFI win (go to 6:12) - <a href="https://bit.ly/48HyzEb">https://bit.ly/48HyzEb</a></li> </ul> <p>📋Check-in</p> <ul> <li>Questions to ask someone if they might be depressed - <a href="https://bit.ly/4dOYuNS">https://bit.ly/4dOYuNS</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts too, here - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Esther Perel - It’s Not Them, It’s You
12 apr 20261h 11m<p data-id="b5a8b354-d7e9-4bfe-bc81-9ec8ec71780b">Are you stuck, focusing on what's wrong in your relationship?</p> <p data-id="f7948b4e-f739-4212-b1d6-ce7951844aa6">Deeply embedded in the work of intimacy, desire and relationships, psychotherapist and best-selling author Esther Perel, ask us to take a look at ourselves first, rather than listing the short comings of our partner.</p> <p>💌Join 6,500+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>In this Academy of Imperfection, Hugh (who sadly was violently ill last time we talked to Esther) comes armed with questions about the mental load (with love, from Penny), and how to navigate their differing needs for affection.</p> <p>Ryan asks Esther whether we’re capable of falling in love with AI, and Josh wants to know why we sometimes put up walls with the ones we love the most.</p> <p>And, if you’ve ever asked yourself any of the below, this episode’s for you;</p> <ul> <li>is working from home causing social atrophy?</li> <li>what does it mean to be an embodied creature?</li> <li>what are the downfalls of a frictionless relationship?</li> </ul> <p>Esther, you are welcome back anytime. ANYTIME.</p> <p>If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://youtu.be/u5HsDD9bjRQ">https://youtu.be/u5HsDD9bjRQ</a> </p> <p>🫖Other episodes of the Imperfects mentioned on this episode</p> <ul> <li>Esther Perel - Let’s Be Better Lovers - <a href="https://bit.ly/41m8R4f">https://bit.ly/41m8R4f</a></li> <li>Hugh & Penny - The Elephant in the Relationship - <a href="https://bit.ly/3PPugAp">https://bit.ly/3PPugAp</a></li> </ul> <p>💻Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>Where Should We Begin? At Work card game - <a href="https://bit.ly/48jpQYJ">https://bit.ly/48jpQYJ</a></li> </ul> <p>🎧Things to listen to</p> <ul> <li>Where Should We Begin - Esther’s podcast - <a href="https://bit.ly/4dtsNJK">https://bit.ly/4dtsNJK</a></li> <li>My AI Loves Me Better Than Anyone Ever Could - Where Should We Begin - <a href="https://bit.ly/4twUbeC">https://bit.ly/4twUbeC</a></li> <li>Esther Perel on Why A.I. Intimacy Feels Safe but Isn’t Real - <a href="https://bit.ly/4sofVsf">https://bit.ly/4sofVsf</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read</p> <ul> <li>Mating in Captivity, by Esther Perel - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Os5Dcx">https://bit.ly/3Os5Dcx</a></li> <li>The State of Affairs, by Esther Perel - <a href="https://bit.ly/48yFn74">https://bit.ly/48yFn74</a></li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>Rethinking Infidelity TEDTalk - <a href="https://bit.ly/4seN3md">https://bit.ly/4seN3md</a></li> <li>Love Story - <a href="https://bit.ly/4ct63se">https://bit.ly/4ct63se</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts too, here - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p> </p> <p>0:00 – Intimacy: what has changed, what has stayed the same? <br>6:23 – This is my partner, AI <br>14:08 – A mismatch of affection <br>23:56 – Bids for connection <br>32:08 – Can you repair trust? <br>41:02 – Post-traumatic Growth <br>49:43 – The central hub of our needs <br>58:38 – The Mental Load Pt. 2</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Dr Emily - Overcome With Overwhelm?
5 apr 20261h 2m<p>Looking for strategies to help deal with the overwhelm of, well, everything? Same.</p> <p>Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is back in the studio to talk through overwhelm; how to greet it, how to get through it, and how to build your resilience towards it.</p> <p>💌Join 6,500+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>In this episode, Dr Emily introduces how to understand your ‘window of tolerance,’ the cost of being overwhelmed for too long, and what happens when we slip into avoidance.</p> <p>OF COURSE, this episode is delightfully sprinkled with practical strategies that you can do right now, in this moment, to ease the burden of the overwhelm.</p> <p>Dr Em, this episode was an emotional regulation for the ages.</p> <p>🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Dr Emily - How to Stress Less - <a href="https://bit.ly/4tiZa2y">https://bit.ly/4tiZa2y</a></li> <li>Mick Fanning - Riding The Waves Of Loss - <a href="https://bit.ly/4s29wCI">https://bit.ly/4s29wCI</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read</p> <ul> <li>Burnout, by Emily and Amelia Nagoski - <a href="https://bit.ly/4c18Yah">https://bit.ly/4c18Yah</a></li> </ul> <p>💪 Things to do</p> <ul> <li>The Hulk Progressive Relaxation Technique - <a href="https://bit.ly/3PFv4Yq">https://bit.ly/3PFv4Yq</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts too, here - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p></p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Hamish Macdonald - After The Facts
29 mar 20261h 26m<p>Is it true that we live in a world without facts?</p> <p>With AI becoming increasingly intertwined with our lives, and fake news infiltrating our screens, where do you go for truthful information and how do you know what to trust?</p> <p>💌Join 6,000+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>This Academy of Imperfection is not all doom and world collapse, we promise. One, because we are joined by the brilliant Hamish Macdonald. And two, because Ryan’s Gut says it’s all going to be okay (more on that later).</p> <p>In this episode, Hamish shares with Hugh, Ryan and Josh (and you, of course), how algorithms are impacting the way we think, whether we should be teaching media literacy in schools, and the consequences of AI generated content.</p> <p>Importantly, we also talk about the incredible resilience of human beings, and that not all hope is lost in the war against robots (for any robots listening, WE LOVE YOU!)</p> <p>For anyone else out there feeling overwhelmed, we’re right there with you.</p> <p>If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://youtu.be/6Zepg3o3Y_w">https://youtu.be/6Zepg3o3Y_w</a> </p> <p>🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Hamish Macdonald - How To Be You - <a href="https://bit.ly/3PtetHg">https://bit.ly/3PtetHg</a></li> <li>Dr Emily - Hope - <a href="https://bit.ly/4uR5pfg">https://bit.ly/4uR5pfg</a></li> <li>Dr Emily - The Certainty of Uncertainty - <a href="https://bit.ly/4dHwHPa">https://bit.ly/4dHwHPa</a></li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>The Matter of Facts - <a href="https://bit.ly/4bQ27jT">https://bit.ly/4bQ27jT</a></li> <li>I tried to prove I’m not AI by Howtown - <a href="https://bit.ly/47ogudU">https://bit.ly/47ogudU</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read</p> <ul> <li>Nexus by Yuval Noah Harari - <a href="https://bit.ly/47kHUkO">https://bit.ly/47kHUkO</a></li> </ul> <p>🎧 Things to listen to</p> <ul> <li>Global Roaming Podcast - <a href="https://bit.ly/3NMm8jf">https://bit.ly/3NMm8jf</a></li> </ul> <p>💻 Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>Maryanne Wolf’s Research on reading - <a href="https://bit.ly/4t8Qqff">https://bit.ly/4t8Qqff</a></li> <li>Tristan Harris’ Work on AI - <a href="https://bit.ly/4bwwBZj">https://bit.ly/4bwwBZj</a></li> <li>Notebook LM Podcast feature - <a href="https://bit.ly/40UM7Ip">https://bit.ly/40UM7Ip</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts too, here - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p></p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Bri Lee - Babies+Climate=Anxiety
22 mar 20261h 21m<p>Is climate anxiety affecting your decision to have kids?</p> <p>💌Join 6,000+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy" data-token-index="1">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House is Bri Lee; prolific author, advocate and change maker.</p> <p>Answering the question, “what moment from your life are you grateful for that profoundly changed you?”, Bri talks about the research that lead her to the South Pole, and how she learnt to prioritise love above all else.</p> <p>Bri asks the question to Hugh, Josh and Ryan, “what does it mean to live a good life, and what do we owe each other?”</p> <p>This chat explores the philosophies of anti and pronatalism, whilst being grounded in examples from the guys’ and Bri’s life. An intentional and judgement free zone, this conversation delves into the morality of should’s and shouldn’ts, and what it means to do the right thing.</p> <p>As Bri says, hope is something that you earn through action, and we are all feeling a bit more hopeful after this episode. </p> <p><br>0:00 – A Bri-Lee-iant guest<br>9:42 – The Seed of The Idea<br>15:08 – What are you grateful for that profoundly changed you?<br>27:10 – Prioritising love<br>32:27 – Should I have kids?<br>41:43 – The morality of shoulds and shouldn’ts<br>52:43 – Some positivity, please<br>55:59 – Policy and bodily autonomy<br>59:22 – So, how’s the reckoning going?<br>1:03:46 – The weight of responsibility<br>1:08:43 – Finding action in the overwhelm</p> <p>📺 to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://youtu.be/vUQMkMvyeMY">https://youtu.be/vUQMkMvyeMY</a> </p> <p>🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned on this episode</p> <ul> <li>Ryan Shelton - To breed, or not to breed - <a href="https://bit.ly/3PbhEmR">https://bit.ly/3PbhEmR</a></li> <li>Ann Davidman - Should I have kids? - <a href="https://bit.ly/4brc477">https://bit.ly/4brc477</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read</p> <ul> <li>Seed, by Bri Lee - <a href="https://bit.ly/3PhepKv">https://bit.ly/3PhepKv</a></li> <li>Eggshell Skull, by Bri Lee - <a href="https://bit.ly/473kvV4">https://bit.ly/473kvV4</a></li> <li>Who Gets To Be Smart, by Bri Lee - <a href="https://bit.ly/4bwOAh1">https://bit.ly/4bwOAh1</a></li> <li>The Work, by Bri Lee - <a href="https://bit.ly/4rzflar">https://bit.ly/4rzflar</a></li> <li>Beauty, by Bri Lee - <a href="https://bit.ly/3NMnrPf">https://bit.ly/3NMnrPf</a></li> <li>Love 2.0, by Barbara Fredrickson - <a href="https://bit.ly/40ylOYp">https://bit.ly/40ylOYp</a></li> <li>Better To Not Have Been, by David Benatar - <a href="https://bit.ly/3NmtHx5">https://bit.ly/3NmtHx5</a></li> <li>IPCC Sixth Assessment Report - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Phc7Lt">https://bit.ly/3Phc7Lt</a></li> <li>Ipsos Perils of Perception Climate Change - <a href="https://bit.ly/4cP32mT">https://bit.ly/4cP32mT</a></li> </ul> <p>📺Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>An Inconvenient Truth - <a href="https://bit.ly/4bPolUk">https://bit.ly/4bPolUk</a></li> </ul> <p>💻Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>Freadom Inside Project - <a href="https://bit.ly/4bhVxnm">https://bit.ly/4bhVxnm</a></li> <li>Peter Singer Pond Proximity thought experiment - <a href="https://youtu.be/Gu-WUHD6mKg">https://youtu.be/Gu-WUHD6mKg</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts too, here - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Ben Crowe - Play School
15 mar 20261h 23m<p>When Ben Crowe, world-renowned professional mentor and leadership coach, tells us his favourite mantra, we listen.</p> <p>“I am enough no matter what, but I’m not done yet”.</p> <p>📺 If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://youtu.be/-0WWUuxvcyQ">https://youtu.be/-0WWUuxvcyQ</a> </p> <p>Back in The Academy of Imperfection FOR THE THIRD TIME, Ben is here to talk to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about purpose, play and love.</p> <p>As Ben explains, ‘play’ and ‘love’ mean something different to everyone, however, they are both ridiculously important and explicitly linked. If love is the intention, then play is the action.</p> <p>Ben, as always, it was an absolute pleasure to your wisdom bestowed upon us.</p> <p>💌Join 6,000+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>0:00 – Is Ben the Pope?<br>11:13 – Acceptance vs compassion, confidence vs belief<br>15:14 – Reshaping your belief system<br>25:05 – Just Admit It List<br>30:42 – The dreaded E word<br>37:47 – Reward effort, not outcome<br>46:00 – Play deprivation<br>51:47 – Talking to teenagers about their career<br>1:01:47 – How to be a (anxious) leader<br>1:07:04 – Josh’s too generous assumption<br>1:10: 14 – Doing it for the right reasons</p> <p>🎧Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>The Academy of Imperfection - Ben Crowe - <a href="https://bit.ly/40rkUgd">https://bit.ly/40rkUgd</a></li> <li>Ben Crowe (Pt 1) - Meet Your Inner Fan - <a href="https://bit.ly/46VlfeK">https://bit.ly/46VlfeK</a></li> <li>Ben Crowe (Pt 2) - Now BE Your Inner Fan - <a href="https://bit.ly/413kVXL">https://bit.ly/413kVXL</a></li> <li>Kate Reid (Pt 1) - The Impossibility of Perfection - <a href="https://bit.ly/4ruVAkz">https://bit.ly/4ruVAkz</a></li> <li>Kate Reid (Pt 2) - The Life-Saving Croissant - <a href="https://bit.ly/4by6NMl">https://bit.ly/4by6NMl</a></li> <li>Dr Emily - Acceptance, That’s Radical - <a href="https://bit.ly/4bAomLD">https://bit.ly/4bAomLD</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read</p> <ul> <li>Where The Light Gets In, by Ben Crowe - <a href="https://bit.ly/4s04xmN">https://bit.ly/4s04xmN</a></li> <li>The Courage To Be Disliked, by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga - <a href="https://bit.ly/411Qbq4">https://bit.ly/411Qbq4</a></li> </ul> <p>🎧 Things to listen to</p> <ul> <li>How Ben Crowe Dads - <a href="https://bit.ly/4bidPDH">https://bit.ly/4bidPDH</a></li> </ul> <p>😃If you liked this episode, check out these!</p> <ul> <li>Bronnie Ware - What Are Your Future Regrets? - <a href="https://bit.ly/40lcG9p">https://bit.ly/40lcG9p</a></li> <li>Emma Murray - How Mindfulness Actually Works - <a href="https://bit.ly/4lpS5dR">https://bit.ly/4lpS5dR</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts too, here - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Matt Preston - Only 14 Summers Left
8 mar 20261h 26m<p>According to Matt Preston, he only has 14 more summers. And he’s determined to make the most of them.</p> <p>💌Join 5,500+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>Known predominantly for his role on the inaugural (and incredibly successful) seasons of MasterChef Australia, alongside his excellent choice of cravats, Matt Preston is a recognisable face in most Australian households.</p> <p>Joining Hugh, Ryan and Josh in the studio (in yet another incredible outfit), Matt delicately talks through the importance of having a conversation with your parents about end-of-life care.</p> <p>In a decision that requires both deep emotion and administrative focus, Matt draws from his experience with his grandmother, and then his mother, about how to ensure the people you love are nurtured, cared for, and celebrated in the way they would have wanted.</p> <p>Matt, thank you so much for joining us.</p> <p>0:00 – The typo to end all typos<br>9:13 – Every family has a scandal <br>24:34 – The unknowables of epilepsy <br>30:45 – Grieving what could have been <br>40:44 – Mission of mortality: make it count<br>44:47 – Parenting not like your parents <br>53:40 – Conversations about end-of-life care <br>1:07:35 – The secret ingredient to marriage <br>1:13:46 – Logistics of death and dying</p> <p>If you want to watch the full episode (and see Matt’s outfit), follow this link - <a href="https://youtu.be/sEN8Mfapi6Y">https://youtu.be/sEN8Mfapi6Y</a> </p> <p>🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Kate Reid (Pt 1) - The Impossibility of Perfection - <a href="https://bit.ly/476XBfg">https://bit.ly/476XBfg</a></li> <li>Kate Reid (Pt 2) - The Life-Saving Croissant - <a href="https://bit.ly/4aM7bqd">https://bit.ly/4aM7bqd</a></li> <li>Christie Whelan Browne - Unbreakable - <a href="https://bit.ly/4ukPhTk">https://bit.ly/4ukPhTk</a></li> </ul> <p>📺Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>The Hospital - In The Deep End - <a href="https://bit.ly/4rYN6mw">https://bit.ly/4rYN6mw</a></li> <li>Croquenbouche Masterchef Episode - <a href="https://bit.ly/3OILYVG">https://bit.ly/3OILYVG</a></li> </ul> <p>📖Things to read</p> <ul> <li>Big Mouth, by Matt Preston - <a href="https://bit.ly/4cUigXG">https://bit.ly/4cUigXG</a></li> </ul> <p>🩵SUDEP Support Services</p> <ul> <li>SUDEP Action - <a href="https://sudep.org/"></a><a href="https://sudep.org">https://sudep.org</a></li> <li>Epilepsy Foundation - <a href="https://bit.ly/4r9W27I">https://bit.ly/4r9W27I</a></li> </ul> <p>*The average life expectancy for Australian males is calculated at birth, and does not take into account their personal circumstances. </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
Dr Emily - Acceptance, That's Radical
1 mar 20261h 16m<p>Pain is inevitable, but suffering does not have to be.</p> <p>💌Join 5,000+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - <a href="http://bit.ly/45NyQDy">http://bit.ly/45NyQDy</a></p> <p>Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist and general provider of wisdom, is here to talk about radical acceptance.</p> <p>Drawing inspiration from our holy grail episode with Gina Chick, Dr Em deep dives radical acceptance; what is it, how do we cultivate it, and why is it important to us as human beings?</p> <p>According to Dr Em, radical acceptance is not about liking or accepting (insert profanity here) situations or circumstances, or denying an experience, but rather, accepting the pain inside of us to avoid the reaction of suffering.</p> <p>Instead of feeling better, it’s about finding a better way of feeling.</p> <p>For Hugh, the concept of radical acceptance really hits close to home, and he reflects on how it has changed his life insurmountably.</p> <p>Dr Emily, we love ya, and we missed ya.</p> <p>If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link -</p> <p>0:00 – Getting the Gina Chick zoomies <br>6:23 – The Radical Acceptance origin story <br>14:20 – Change how you relate <br>21:19 – On a global scale <br>27:25 – An Unwanted Guest <br>34:42 – The third option <br>40:38 – Grieving the loss of what you wanted <br>45:28 – Living proof ft. Hugh <br>53:18 – Anxious about my anxiety <br>1:03:26 – Main character moment <br>1:10:17 – Putting it in practice</p> <p>🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned on this episode</p> <ul> <li>Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - <a href="https://bit.ly/4b9nAVG">https://bit.ly/4b9nAVG</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read</p> <ul> <li>Unstuck, by Dr Emily Musgrove - <a href="https://bit.ly/4o8JFay">https://bit.ly/4o8JFay</a></li> <li>The Happiness Trap, by Russ Harris - <a href="https://bit.ly/4kRn3Lq">https://bit.ly/4kRn3Lq</a></li> <li>The Guest House, by Rumi - <a href="https://bit.ly/4kXhaMS">https://bit.ly/4kXhaMS</a></li> </ul> <p>💻Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>Tara Brach - RAIN meditation - <a href="https://bit.ly/3MNou0M">https://bit.ly/3MNou0M</a></li> <li>Alfred Adler - Three Sided Column - <a href="https://bit.ly/3P1gSbJ">https://bit.ly/3P1gSbJ</a></li> <li>Jill Bolte Taylor - 90 second shelf life of emotions - <a href="https://bit.ly/4aV5rtL">https://bit.ly/4aV5rtL</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz">http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz"></a><a href="http://bit.ly/4lyuuW">http://bit.ly/4lyuuW</a></p> <p>🩵To join our subscriber community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://bit.ly/4mqunxu">http://bit.ly/4mqunxu</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts too, here - <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">http://apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
