How childhood wiring impacts adult life, in 90 minutes | Becky Kennedy: Full Interview

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Become a Big Think member to unlock expert classes, premium print issues, exclusive events and more: https://bigthink.com/membership/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=yt_desc “Why would adding shame and blame help me improve my behavior?” Subscribe to Big Think on YouTube ► https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvQECJukTDE2i6aCoMnS-Vg?sub_confirmation=1 Up next, How the body keeps the score on trauma ► https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iTefkqYQz8g Parenting is often framed as a battle between discipline and chaos, but Dr. Becky Kennedy argues that the real story lives beneath the behavior we see. Kennedy traces how early relationships teach children which parts of themselves are welcome, which emotions feel dangerous, and how those lessons quietly script adult identity. 0:00 Rethinking how we learn, grow, and change 5:41 Two foundations of childhood 6:42 Behavior vs identity 10:11 How to deal with lying 12:29 Fear-based punishment and compliance 14:03 Managing emotions and early relationships 16:22 Gentle Parenting 21:54 Understanding our own “factory settings” 22:08 Attachment Theory 28:29 Internal Family Systems 39:14 Dysregulation, co-regulation 37:32 How to regulate your emotions at any age 1:12:42 Frustration tolerance 1:18:44 Rupture, repair, and Deeply Feeling Kids 1:28:28 Deeply Feeling Kids 1:36:28 4 habits that build emotional strength Read the video transcript ► https://bigthink.com/series/full-interview/childhood-wiring/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=video&utm_campaign=youtube_description © Freethink Media Inc., All Rights Reserved. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Go Deeper with Big Think: ►Become a Big Think Youtube Member Get exclusive classes and early, ad-free access to new releases without leaving Youtube. https://www.youtube.com/@bigthink/membership/ ►Become a Big Think Web Member Get the entire Big Think Class library, premium print issues, live events, and more. https://bigthink.com/membership/ ►Subscribe to Big Think on Substack Get all of your favorite Big Think content delivered to your inbox. https://bigthinkmedia.substack.com/subscribe/ ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------- About Becky Kennedy: Dr. Becky Kennedy is a clinical psychologist, mom of three, and founder of Good Inside. Her goal is to empower parents to feel sturdier and manage the challenges of parenting through mindfulness, emotion regulation, and internal family systems theory. She lives in New York City and can be found on Instagram @drbeckyatgoodinside.