4 Reasons We Try To Change Others And How To Cultivate Tolerance, Patience, Compassion Instead
About this episode
Have you ever wished you could change someone in your life? Have you tried changing someone to fit your ideals and beliefs? If so, have you succeeded? Did it make you happy? It’s frustrating to try and change someone who isn’t willing to change, especially when your circumstances aren’t helping. This will only trigger stress and anxiety, and will continuously deplete your inner peace and compassion. In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty discusses why we should stop trying to change others and instead, focus on loving ourselves through cultivating patience, tolerance, and compassion. Key Takeaways: 01:29 Have you tried changing someone in your life? 02:25 Top 3 reasons couples fight: money, sex, children 03:36 The reasons why we try to change others 05:08 In trying to positively impact the world, we are changing ourselves 05:45 3 things that happen when we try to change people 08:01 Reason #1: We care more for comfort than change 12:52 Reason #2: We can’t understand others because of own narrow thinking 15:20 Reason #3: We think we are always right 18:04 Reason #4: We don’t understand the value of diversity 20:40 Change and the motivation to change are an inside job Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! Achieve success in every area of your life with Jay Shetty’s Genius Community. Join over 10,000 members taking their holistic well-being to the next level today, at https://shetty.cc/OnPurposeGenius See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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