4 Things That Are Not Love and 4 Ways To Know You Have Found The One
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Do you want to meditate daily with me? Go to go.calm.com/onpurpose to get 40% off a Calm Premium Membership. Experience the Daily Jay. Only on Calm Love isn’t love when you don’t grow together, when you don’t appreciate your partner’s efforts and time, when your goals do not align with the other, and when you aren’t fully committed  to the relationship. Love is deep and sometimes complicated, but it’s never about doing things separately or losing interest in what the other person is doing.  In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty talks about the different things and emotions that are disguised as love and what truly makes a relationship work and last. Want to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/  Key Takeaways: 00:00 Intro 01:13 How do you know when you’re in love? 07:54 Point #1: Validation is not love 11:11  Point #2: Trying to be liked is not love 14:49 Point #3: Power is not love 16:55 Point #4: Pain is not love 18:02 Growth is love 20:27 Appreciation is love 21:26 Alignment is love 23:31 Commitment is a sign of love 24:07 Experimenting together as love Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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