4 Ways We Self-Sabotage & 3 Ways to Improve the Relationship We Have With Ourselves

About this episode

What’s blocking you? What’s holding you back? Today, Jay talks about the concept of self-sabotage, examining how it manifests in various aspects of our lives and offering strategies for overcoming it. Self-sabotage is defined as behaviors that undermine our own success, happiness, and stated goals. These actions often occur subconsciously, rooted in deep psychological patterns formed during early childhood. Jay outlines four primary ways people self-sabotage: chronic lateness, procrastination, putting oneself down, and perfectionism. He also discusses the habit of putting oneself down, which can manifest through over-apologizing or refusing to take credit for accomplishments. This behavior is often linked to low self-esteem or an internalized critical voice from childhood. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Recognize Self-Sabotage How to Stop Putting Yourself Down How to Change Negative Self-Talk How to Understand Your Triggers How to Set Boundaries By understanding and working through these patterns, you can unlock your full potential and achieve the success and happiness you desire. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:08 What is Self-Sabotage? 05:41 Passive-Aggressive Behavior 08:22 Behavior that Counters What We Tell Ourselves 11:08 What Leads to Self-Sabotage? 14:26 #1: Chronic Lateness 16:22 #2: Procrastination 19:53 #3: Putting Yourself Down 23:15 #4: Perfectionism 27:01 Three Ways to Deal with Your Self-Sabotaging Behavior 28:53 weird noise in the background See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices