Ask Jay: How Do I Forgive?

About this episode

Jay answers four listener calls about the messy, unresolved side of forgiveness, from custody guilt and bias in parenting, to forgiving yourself after the sudden loss of a parent, uncovering a spouse’s hidden life after they’re gone, and the heartbreak of a friendship betrayal. Jay shares research-backed tools to release guilt, rebuild trust, and move forward for your own peace, without excusing what happened. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty PURPOSE10 for 10% at altrarunning.com⁠/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. Head to https://wayfair.com right now to shop all things home and get your space ready for less. Access resources from the hotline for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders here: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/helplines/national-helpline JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 00:24 What Forgiveness Is Really For 00:49 The Guilt Mothers Are Expected To Carry 01:54 Are Mothers And Fathers Held to Different Standards? 07:45 The Guilt That Comes After Losing a Parent 08:40 Forgiving Yourself For What You Couldn’t Control 15:52 When Grief Comes With Betrayal 17:54 The Trap Of “I Should Have Known” 22:05 The 4 Levels Of Trust 25:17 The Pain Of A Friendship Betrayal 26:20 When Healing Doesn’t Feel Like Healing Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices