Dr. Ramani ON: How to Spot a Narcissist & 3 Signs of Gaslighting in Any Relationship
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You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon. Today, I am talking to Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist in Los Angeles, CA, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. She is an author of several books including Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship with a Narcissist, and “Don’t You Know Who I Am?”: How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility. The focus of Dr. Durvasula’s clinical, academic and consultative work is the etiology and impact of narcissism and high-conflict, entitled, antagonistic personality styles on human relationships, mental health, and societal expectations.    Dr. Ramani shares her studies about narcissism and our narcissistic tendencies. She and I talk about how our personalities define how we act with people and around people, why narcissists are resistant to change and to how deal with one, the truth about gaslighting and why it is so unhealthy to the person at the receiving end, and why we shouldn't misplace our hopes in others and instead place it on ourselves.       What We Discuss: 00:00:00 Intro 00:03:11 When did narcissism become a study of focus? 00:07:06 Narcissism is a very quiet condition 00:12:45 Awareness and discomfort 00:19:37 How do people end up with a narcissistic personality? 00:26:25 Narcissists can be very attractive 00:33:26 The concept of multiple truths 00:36:40 Love bombing 00:41:08 The real meaning of gaslighting 00:47:05 Dealing with a gaslighter 00:53:35 “I can change this person.” 01:00:07 Ultimate healing from a narcissistic relationship 01:04:31 Setting healthy boundaries 01:06:49 Adopting narcissistic patterns to be able to fight back 01:09:20 Misplaced hope Episode Resources Dr. Ramani Durvasula | Website Dr. Ramani Durvasula | YouTube Dr. Ramani Durvasula | Twitter Dr. Ramani Durvasula | Instagram Dr. Ramani Durvasula | Facebook Navigating Narcissism with Dr. Ramani Want to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty  https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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