Elliot Page ON: How to Turn Self-Hate Into Self-Love & Navigating Societal Gender Norms

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Can self-hate be turned into self-love, and if so, where does this transformation start?  How can we replace self-criticism with affirmations and begin prioritizing self-care? Today, I have something truly special to share with you on the On Purpose podcast. We're about to dive deep into the incredible journey of Elliot Page, whose story is not just a memoir but a testament to the power of self-discovery and authenticity.  Elliot Page is an Academy Award-nominated actor, director, producer, writer, and a New York Times bestselling author known for his indelible on-screen presence in both tentpole and art house films. Today we are talking about his memoir Pageboy which became an instant bestseller.  Starting with a detailed exploration of life-changing memories, we journey alongside Elliot through a life-long experience that's beautifully reflected in this memoir. It's a story of resilience and growth, a reminder that we all have the capacity to overcome challenges and find our true selves. Elliot's story sheds light on the importance of not letting societal conditioning dictate who we are. We'll explore how being true to yourself can lead to living the life you've always wanted. From struggles to self-discovery, we will discover the impact of authenticity and self-acceptance and how these can help anyone take pivots at the most crucial moments.  And amidst it all, we'll touch on topics like community support, transitioning resources, and how parents can empower their children to express themselves. In this interview, you’ll learn: How to let go of self hate How to appreciate your authenticity How to develop self love How to find your own voice The importance of community support The challenges when transitioning How to deal with unsupportive people This episode is not just about one person's journey; it's about the universal themes of self-love, acceptance, and the incredible strength of the human spirit.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:58 Elliot's Memory Exploration  03:46 Pageboy: A Memoir 06:16 Breaking The Mold Of Conditioned Reactions  07:41 Living Your Dream Life 09:28 Fighting to Function In Your Own Pace 10:26 Let People Be Themselves 13:08 How Transition Shapes Your Profession and Life 15:15 The Positives of Being Grounded And Present 18:20 The Significance of Community Support 20:16 Resources for Transitioning Individuals 23:19 How Parents Can Aid In Self-Expression  25:13 Misconceptions on Youth and Trans Health 28:43 Trans Men On Conversations About Masculinity 32:11 Empathetic Conversations With Other Trans People 38:09 Lessening the Burden of Feeling Alone 42:51 Connecting Through Stories 44:29 Balancing Alone Time And Forming Relationships 47:30 Living A Life With Limited Resources 51:40 Biographies And Intriguing Lives 53:04 Having A Moment Of Self Love 56:14 Elliot Page on Final Five   Episode Resources: Elliot Page | Twitter Elliot Page | Instagram Elliot Page | Facebook Pageboy: A Memoir  If you are interested in learning more in the topics we discussed today, below is a book list curated by Elliot Page:  A Trans Man Walks Into a Gay Bar, Harry NicholasAmateur, Thomas Page McBeeBellies, Nicola DinanHe/She/They, Schuyler BailarMiss Major Speaks, Miss Major and Toshio MeronekNone of the Above, Travis AlabanzaRedefining Realness, Janet MockSurpassing Certainty, Janet MockThe Risk it Takes to Bloom, Raquel WillisThe Transgender Issue, Shon FayeTransgender History, Susan StrykerWe Both Laughed in Pleasure, Lou Sullivan See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices