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My new book Own Or Be Owned is out now! I wrote Own or Be Owned to answer one question: How do you make more money, less miserably? I broke it into the 12 Profit Levers… The 12 levers I've seen determine whether you print cash or hate your life. Check it out: → https://contrarianthinking.biz/oobo_bigdeal You've been waiting for access. Waiting for someone to notice. Waiting for permission to enter the rooms where real wealth gets built. Here's the truth: the 1% didn't get there by being the smartest. They got there by knowing how to speak the language, earn trust before they needed it, and stay grounded when everyone else started lying to them. This episode breaks down the exact framework for breaking into circles you don't belong in yet, staying there once you're invited, and becoming the person everyone wants to keep around. Because networking advice for broke people doesn't work when you're trying to reach people who already have everything. The game changes. And if you don't know the new rules, you'll get one shot and never get called back. In this episode, you'll learn: Why most people go negative on the first call and never get a second one, and how the relationship balance equation decides who gets re-invited and who gets ghosted How trust is built on someone's worst day, not their best, and why showing up during the fire without asking for anything after is how you earn loyalty that lasts decades Why success makes people worse at reading the truth and how to engineer channels where disagreement is rewarded instead of punished The mum effect: how every layer of your organization softens bad news until reality becomes unrecognizable, and why asking what's missing is more important than asking how'd we do The REAL framework: Respect their time, Earn trust, Ask for truth, Live in reality, and how mastering these four moves makes you impossible to ignore and irreplaceable once you're in Stop waiting for the door to open. Start becoming the person they can't afford to leave outside. ___________ (00:00:00) Introduction: Nobody in the 1% Got There by Being the Smartest First (00:00:28) Respect Their Time: Why Broke Person Networking Advice Stops Working (00:01:59) The Relationship Balance Formula: Deposits Minus Withdrawals (00:03:02) Never Make an Introduction Without Permission: Double Opt-In or Die (00:04:40) Earn Trust on Their Worst Day, Not Their Best (00:07:43) Give to Get: The Growth Kit and Why Customers Need Value First (00:08:52) Ask for Truth: Success Quietly Makes Honesty Impossible (00:10:54) The Emperor Maximilian Story: How Paranoia and Flattery Destroy Empires (00:12:12) Spot the Leader Surrounded by Sycophants and Become the Counterpoint (00:13:34) Live in Reality: Uncovering the Stack of Compounding Lies (00:16:59) The Pulse System: Track Your Numbers Against Projection in Real Time (00:17:25) Sun Tzu's Spies: Real Knowledge Only Comes From Eyes on the Ground (00:19:04) Eyes to Eyes: Go See For Yourself, Nobody Read Your Slack (00:19:44) The REAL Framework: Respect, Earn, Ask, Live ___________ MORE FROM BIGDEAL 🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@podcastbigdeal 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bigdeal.podcast 📽️ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@big.deal.pod MORE FROM CODIE SANCHEZ 🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@codiesanchezct 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/codiesanchez 📽️ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@realcodiesanchez OTHER THINGS WE DO 🌐 Our community: https://contrarianthinking.typeform.com/to/WBztXXID 📰 Free newsletter: https://contrarianthinking.biz/3XWLlZp 📚 Biz buying course: https://contrarianthinking.biz/3NhjGgN 🏠 Resibrands: https://resibrands.com/ 💰 CT Capital: https://contrarianthinking.biz/4eRyGOk 🏦 Main St Hold Co: https://contrarianthinking.biz/3YfGa8u Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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