Jillian Turecki: 3 Biggest Dating Mistakes You’re Making (Stop Chasing Love That’s Not For You)
About this episode
What do you think is the biggest dating mistake people make? Have you ever chased someone who wasn’t right for you? In today’s episode, Jay welcomes relationship coach, teacher, and podcast host Jillian Turecki to break down the biggest dating mistakes people make. They dive into why relying too much on dating apps can lead to burnout, how the fear of rejection holds you back, and why being single is often better than staying in the wrong relationship. Jillian unpacks why we’re drawn to people who don’t want us while ignoring those who do. She explains how past relationship patterns, toxic dynamics, and a false sense of intimacy create cycles that keep us stuck. They also explore the fine line between honesty and oversharing, how to repair trust after dishonesty, and self-reflection exercises to heal after a breakup. In this episode, you’ll learn: The 3 biggest dating mistakes and how to fix them. Why relying on dating apps alone can hurt your love life. How the fear of rejection and loneliness affect attraction. Why do we chase people who ignore us? When honesty becomes oversharing in relationships. How to repair trust and reflect after a breakup. If you’ve ever felt stuck in dating or struggled with attraction patterns, this episode will help you break unhealthy cycles and make better choices in love. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty. Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss:  00:00 Intro  02:03 Dating: 3 Biggest Mistakes 05:39 The Fear Of Rejection  09:47 Choice In Love 13:36 The Fear Of Being Alone 14:41 The Attraction Paradox 21:37 It All Begins With You 32:00 Find Other Things Attractive 42:48 Telling The Truth Vs Being Too Honest 46:45 Repair Not Being Truthful In A Relationship 56:30 Choice In Love 2 01:01:10 It's All In Your Head 01:04:52 Reflect With Your Partner 01:09:14 Self Reflection Exercises After A Breakup 01:12:13 Jillian on Final Five Episode Resources: Jillian Turecki | It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life Jillian Turecki | Linkedin Jillian Turecki | Website Jillian Turecki | YouTube Jillian Turecki | Instagram Jillian Turecki | Facebook Jillian Turecki | Tiktok See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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