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What's Worth Living For? | Dr. Atul Gawande

<p dir="ltr">A surprisingly uplifting conversation on aging, sickness, and death. Plus: why you get happier as you get older, hard-earned tips for handling tough diagnoses, and how to think about AI in your health care.</p> <p dir="ltr">Atul Gawande, MD, MPH, is a surgeon, author, and public health innovator. He holds the Fish Chair in Surgery at Brigham and Women's Hospital. He is the Samuel O. Thier Professor of the Practice of Surgery at Harvard Medical School and Professor of the Practice at Harvard T.H. Chan School of Public Health. </p> <p dir="ltr">Dr. Gawande was Assistant Administrator for Global Health at USAID from 2022-2025. He is a longtime writer for The New Yorker and has written four books: Complications, Better, The Checklist Manifesto, and Being Mortal.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why the best doctors ask patients what matters before choosing treatment</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The simple question that reveals what makes life worth living</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why patients who get less aggressive care sometimes live longer</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">His father's answer to "what's worth living for" changed three times</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why staying independent and staying safe often pull in different directions</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Research showing people get emotionally calmer, not sadder, as they age</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What happened when the U.S. shut down its global health aid programs</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why he sees AI as a helpful second opinion, not a replacement, for doctors</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Additional Resources: </p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://atulgawande.com/book/being-mortal/">Being Mortal</a>, the book</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://www.pbs.org/wgbh/frontline/documentary/being-mortal/">Being Mortal</a>, the documentary</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">This episode is sponsored by:<br /> <br /> Warby Parker: Buy one pair of glasses and get 20% off any additional pairs at <a href= "http://warbyparker.com/HAPPIER">WarbyParker.com/HAPPIER</a> — and using our link helps support the show. #WarbyParker #ad</p> <p dir="ltr">BetterHelp: Sign up and get 10% off at <a href= "http://betterhelp.com/HAPPIER">BetterHelp.com/HAPPIER</a>.<br /> Notion: Learn more about how Notion can support your business, at <a href="http://notion.com/happier">notion.com/happier</a></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

Neal Brennan On: Talking Back to Your Inner Critic, Why Chasing Validation Doesn't Work, and His Harrowing Psychedelic Journeys

<p dir="ltr">The legendary comedian says you don't have to be tortured to be an artist, he doesn't need an index card of achievements in his pocket anymore, and even the bad trips have led to good destinations.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.nealbrennan.com/">Neal Brennan</a> is a three-time Emmy-nominated writer, director, producer, and standup comedian known for his critically acclaimed Netflix specials 3 Mics, Blocks, and Crazy Good and for co-creating Comedy Central's iconic Chappelle's Show. He also hosts the hit <a href= "https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/blocks-w-neal-brennan/id1658660161"> Blocks</a> podcast, where he talks with guests about their own personal blocks.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Talking back to your inner critic</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why the worst psychedelic trips might do more good than the beautiful ones</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The myth that comedians have to be miserable to be funny</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The "decoy" that keeps smart people chasing validation forever</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why achievement became Neal's most embarrassing addiction</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What Neal wants now that success wasn't enough</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

Top 10 Practices for Resetting Your Time, Space, Body, Inner Critic, and Social Life | Laurie Santos and Gretchen Rubin

<p dir="ltr">How to understand your tendencies and identify what's keeping you stuck. Plus: advice on treating resistance as data, reclaiming time affluence, and avoiding "procrasticlearing."</p> <p dir="ltr">Laurie Santos is the Chandrika and Ranjan Tandon Professor of Psychology at Yale University. In addition to her work on the evolutionary origins of human cognition, Laurie is an expert on the science of happiness and the ways in which our minds lie to us about what makes us happy. Her podcast, <a href= "https://www.drlauriesantos.com/happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos-podcast"> The Happiness Lab</a>, is a top-3 Apple podcast which has attracted 150+ million downloads since its launch.</p> <p dir="ltr">Gretchen Rubin is one of today's most influential and thought-provoking observers of happiness and human nature. She's the author of many bestselling books, such as The Happiness Project, Better Than Before, The Four Tendencies, and Life in Five Senses which have sold millions of copies in more than thirty languages. Her most recent book is Secrets of Adulthood. She's also host of the popular podcast, <a href= "https://gretchenrubin.com/podcasts/">Happier with Gretchen Rubin</a>.<strong><br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why your intuitions often make stuckness worse, not better</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The difference between mindless drift and mindful, deliberate delay</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to treat resistance as useful data instead of laziness</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Kristin Neff's three-part framework for practicing real self-compassion</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Gretchen Rubin's Four Tendencies and how they shape what gets you unstuck</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why clearing physical space creates a felt sense of agency</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The "liking gap" and why reaching out matters more than you think</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to satisfice instead of optimize when a decision feels stuck</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Related Episodes:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Past appearances of Gretchen and Laurie</p> </li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a><strong><br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Additional Resources: </p> <p dir="ltr">This episode is sponsored by:<br /> Rosetta Stone: Visit <a href= "http://rosettastone.com/happier">rosettastone.com/happier</a> to redeem your 20% off Rosetta Stone Sapphire.</p> <p dir="ltr">Skylight: Go to <a href= "http://myskylight.com/HAPPIER">MySkylight.com/HAPPIER</a> for $30 off your 15 inch Calendar.</p> <p dir="ltr">Cash App): Download Cash App Today: <a href= "https://click.cash.app/ui6m/oh9jnxlq">click.cash.app/ui6m/oh9jnxlq</a> #CashAppPod.</p> <p dir="ltr">Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App's bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A. Inc. See terms and conditions for the Sutton prepaid card, Sutton debit flex card, and Bancorp debit flex card. Savings provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit <a href= "http://cash.app/legal/podcast">cash.app/legal/podcast</a> for full disclosures.</p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

The Science Of Building The Life You Want | Arthur Brooks

<p dir="ltr">Plus: the benefits of a "reverse bucket list"; clear formulas for happiness, enjoyment, satisfaction, and purpose; and how to engage in the world's problems without being miserable.</p> <p dir="ltr">Professor and writer Arthur Brooks on his recent book (co-authored with Oprah Winfrey): <a href= "https://bookshop.org/p/books/build-the-life-you-want-the-art-and-science-of-getting-happier-arthur-c-brooks-oprah-winfrey/20032551?gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwwr6wBhBcEiwAfMEQsygtMeYJ5u56NEDT-5mQIaGillN2CLSj922Tt4ezY9i8fBUVZONsNxoCjzcQAvD_BwE"> Build The Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier</a>. Arthur has seen the themes of this book play out in his own life. He started his career as a classical French horn player, then got his PhD in public policy analysis, and went on to run a think tank called the <a href="https://www.aei.org/">American Enterprise Institute</a>. He is currently a professor at the <a href="https://www.hks.harvard.edu/">Harvard Kennedy School</a> and <a href="https://www.hbs.edu/Pages/default.aspx">Harvard Business School</a>. He also does work with <a href= "https://www.theatlantic.com/">The Atlantic</a>, where he writes a <a href= "https://www.theatlantic.com/author/arthur-c-brooks/">column</a> and hosts a podcast called <a href= "https://www.theatlantic.com/podcasts/how-to-build-a-happy-life/">How to Build a Happy Life</a>. Arthur was formerly on Ten Percent Happier to discuss his book <a href= "https://arthurbrooks.com/book/from-strength-to-strength/">From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life</a>. </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Myth busting about happiness</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The three macronutrients of happiness</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The perils of pursuing pleasure</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to be effectively and wisely ambitious</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to ascertain if you have meaning in your life</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to manage your emotions</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The difference between healthy and unhealthy envy </li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel<br /> <br /></a> This episode is sponsored by:<br /> BetterHelp: Sign up and get 10% off at <a href= "http://betterhelp.com/HAPPIER">BetterHelp.com/HAPPIER</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr">Fitnexa: You can learn more about Fitnexa SomniPods 3 at <a href= "https://go.fitnexa.com/n6PD9i">go.fitnexa.com/n6PD9i</a>, and use code HAPPIER10 for $10 off your order.</p> <p dir="ltr">Master Class: Get 15% off any annual membership at <a href= "http://masterclass.com/happier">masterclass.com/happier</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr">Northwest Registered Agent: Visit <a href= "http://northwestregisteredagent.com/happierfree">northwestregisteredagent.com/happierfree</a> and start using free resources to build something amazing.</p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

The Psychology Of Success | Guy Raz

<p dir="ltr">A podcast pioneer on failure, resilience, luck, work/life balance, and the power of questions.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.guyraz.com/">Guy Raz</a> has been instrumental in creating some of the most iconic podcasts in the world, including Wondery's <a href= "https://home.wondery.com/shows/how-i-built-this">How I Built This</a>, <a href= "https://tinkercast.com/all-podcasts/wow-in-the-world/">Wow in the World</a> and <a href= "https://www.npr.org/programs/ted-radio-hour">TED Radio Hour</a>. The New York Times has described him as "one of the most popular podcasters in history." </p> <p dir="ltr">We talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The challenge – and gift – of failure</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Getting comfortable with discomfort and risk</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The notion of luck </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The balance between your relationships and your work </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why scale isn't always the answer </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Success vs. happiness </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">And much more</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

When Life's Not Working, Don't Try Harder. Change Your Situation Instead. | Angela Duckworth

<p dir="ltr">How the people, places, and things around you can bring out your best. Plus, why willpower is unreliable, why AA works for so many people, and where to put your phone. </p> <p dir="ltr">Angela Duckworth is the Rosa Lee and Egbert Chang Professor at the University of Pennsylvania and co-director of the Penn-Wharton Behavior Change for Good Initiative. She is the author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance and the recently released Situated: Find the People and Places That Bring Out Your Best.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why willpower alone rarely creates lasting behavior change, and why changing your situation is often the better move</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The Gallup study showing where teens keep their phones predicts their grades</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to identify what's actually within your control versus truly fixed</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Angela's own marriage crisis during the 2008 financial collapse, and what saved it</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why "trying harder" can sometimes make a bad situation worse, not better</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">One reason Alcoholics Anonymous works for so many people in recovery</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How reaching out to strangers for advice can change your entire career path</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why surrounding yourself with the right peers matters more than we admit<strong><br /></strong></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Related Episodes:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-secrets-of-gritty-people-angela-duckworth/id1087147821?i=1000536756618"> Angela Duckworth's first appearance on our show</a></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Additional Resources: </p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://www.angeladuckworth.com/situated">Angela's new book Situated</a></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">This episode is sponsored by:<br /> BiOptimizers: Head to <a href= "http://bioptimizers.com/happier">bioptimizers.com/happier</a> and use code HAPPIER for 15% off your order.</p> <p dir="ltr">Notion: Learn more about how Notion can support your business at <a href= "http://notion.com/happier">notion.com/happier</a>.<br /> Square: Get up to $200 off Square hardware when you sign up at <a href="http://square.com/go/happier">square.com/go/happier</a>! #squarepod</p> <p dir="ltr">Fitnexa: You can learn more about Fitnexa SomniPods 3 at <a href= "https://go.fitnexa.com/n6PD9i">go.fitnexa.com/n6PD9i</a>, and use code HAPPIER10 for $10 off your order.</p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

The Science of Habit Change, Why GLP-1s are Disrupting It, and How To Use It To Have Better Conversations | Charles Duhigg

<p dir="ltr">There's a three-part framework for analyzing, breaking, or building any habit. There's also a simple way to identify which ones might be "keystone habits" for you. And the surprising discovery of the GLP1 "habit window" suggests that some people may be benefiting more from the drugs than others.</p> <p dir="ltr">Charles Duhigg is a Pulitzer prize-winning journalist and the author of The Power of Habit, which spent over three years on bestseller lists and has been translated into 40 languages; Supercommunicators, also a bestseller published in 2024; and Smarter Faster Better, a third bestseller. Mr. Duhigg writes for The New Yorker magazine and is a graduate of Yale University and the Harvard Business School. He previously wrote for The New York Times, and is a frequent contributor to CNBC, This American Life, NPR, and Frontline. He was also, for one terrifying day in 1999, a bike messenger in San Francisco.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The cue-routine-reward framework that underlies every habit, good or bad</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The "golden rule" of habit change</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What "keystone habits" are and how to identify them in your own life</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Charles's 45-pound weight loss on a GLP-1 and what it revealed about "food noise"</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The GLP-1 "habit window," and why some people may benefit from GLP-1's more than others</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Kitchen-sinking: the habit where a fight about one thing becomes a fight about everything</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Meta-conversations: asking your partner what they actually need before you respond</li> </ul> <p>Related Episodes:</p> <ul> <li><a href= "https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-science-of-effective-communication-charles-duhigg/id1087147821?i=1000646044674"> The Science of Effective Communication | Charles Duhigg</a></li> <li><a href= "https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/weighing-the-extraordinary-benefits-and-disturbing/id1087147821?i=1000658657702"> Weighing The Extraordinary Benefits And Disturbing Risks Of The New Weight Loss Drugs | Johann Hari</a></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Additional Resources: </p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://charlesduhigg.com/the-power-of-habit/">The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg</a></li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://charlesduhigg.com/supercommunicators/">Supercommunicators by Charles Duhigg</a></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">This episode is sponsored by:<br /> <strong>Osea</strong>: Go to <a href= "http://oseamalibu.com/">oseamalibu.com</a> and get 10% off your first order with the code HAPPIER.<br /> <strong>Fitnexa</strong>: You can learn more about Fitnexa SomniPods 3 at <a href= "https://go.fitnexa.com/n6PD9i">go.fitnexa.com/n6PD9i</a>, and use code HAPPIER10 for $10 off your order.</p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

Sara Bareilles On: The Feelings You Fear Might Destroy You, What Antidepressants Actually Did to Her Creativity, and Why There's Nothing to Fix

<p dir="ltr">Plus: her complicated relationship with antidepressants, weathering fertility struggles, and aging in public.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://sarabmusic.com/">Sara Bareilles</a> joins Dan to discuss her new album Good Grief, a record she made after losing three close friends — Chad Joseph, Gavin Creel, and poet Andrea Gibson. The conversation covers grief as a transformative force, medication and mental health, fertility struggles and miscarriage, the creative process as spiritual transmission, aging without intervention, and patriotism as grief. </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Grief is a shortcut to the truth — it strips away distraction and forces presence</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">"Name it to tame it" — putting feelings into words reduces their power</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Sara's fear that medication would suppress her artistry turned out to be the opposite: Lexapro felt like "a return to herself"</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The creative process as clearing a channel rather than owning the output — music arrives, it isn't manufactured</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">"Nothing to fix" — acceptance as a countercultural act in an era of optimization</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Acceptance isn't resignation — you can surrender to what is and still take compassionate action</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Grief of country: loving America and mourning what it's becoming aren't mutually exclusive</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Social media distorts your experience of reality — have your experience of the world in the world</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Sara Bareilles is a two-time Grammy winner and Tony-nominated composer whose music and lyrics powered the Broadway hit Waitress — a role she later performed herself, both on Broadway and in London's West End. On screen, she earned an Emmy nomination for Girls5eva and for her performance as Mary Magdalene in NBC's Jesus Christ Superstar Live! She has sold over three million albums and 3.5 billion streams worldwide.</p> <p dir="ltr">Related Episodes:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://danharris.substack.com/p/sara-bareilles-anxiety-anger-and-567?r=4o5o&utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=web"> Sara Bareilles: Anxiety, Anger and Art</a> (2021)</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://danharris.substack.com/p/how-to-find-joy-in-an-anxious-world?r=4o5o&utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=web"> How To Find Joy In an Anxious World</a> (Sara Bareilles and Dacher Keltner, 2025)</li> </ul> <p>Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Additional Resources: </p> <p dir="ltr">Check out Sara Bareilles' <a href= "https://sarabmusic.com/">website</a>, including links to her new album <a href="https://sarabareilles.lnk.to/GoodGrief">Good Grief</a>, and more info about the <a href= "https://sarabmusic.com/pages/goodgriefdoc">Good Grief documentary</a>. </p> <p dir="ltr">This episode is sponsored by:<br /> BiOptimizers: Head to <a href= "http://bioptimizers.com/happier">bioptimizers.com/happier</a> and use code HAPPIER for 15% off your order.</p> <p dir="ltr">Cash App: Download Cash App Today: <a href= "https://click.cash.app/ui6m/oh9jnxlq">click.cash.app/ui6m/oh9jnxlq</a> #CashAppPod.</p> <p dir="ltr">Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App's bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A. Inc. See terms and conditions for the Sutton prepaid card, Sutton debit flex card, and Bancorp debit flex card. Savings provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit <a href= "http://cash.app/legal/podcast">cash.app/legal/podcast</a> for full disclosures.</p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

How To Handle AI Anxiety: A Computer Scientist and a Buddhist Teacher On Managing Uncertainty | Cal Newport &amp; Matthew Brensilver

<p>Will AI take our jobs? Kill us? This episode provides both fact-checking and a psychological survival guide.</p> <p>Cal Newport is a Professor of Computer Science at Georgetown University, where he is also a founding faculty member of the Center for Digital Ethics and the inaugural Director of the Computer Science, Ethics and Society academic program. He is the New York Times bestselling author of eight books, including, most recently, Slow Productivity, A World Without Email, Digital Minimalism, and Deep Work. Newport is also a long-time contributing writer for the New Yorker and the host of the Deep Questions podcast.</p> <p>Matthew Brensilver, MSW, PhD teaches retreats at the Insight Retreat Center, Spirit Rock Meditation Center and Insight Meditation Society. Before committing to teach meditation full-time, he spent years doing research on addiction pharmacotherapy at the UCLA Center for Behavioral and Addiction Medicine. Each winter and summer, he offers a four-month online Buddhist Psychology Training through Spirit Rock integrating Buddhist wisdom with modern psychotherapy. Matthew is the co-author of two books about meditation during adolescence and continues to be interested in the unfolding dialogue between Buddhism and science.</p> <p>In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li>What really happened when an AI agent hacked a company while running a test</li> <li>Why one Silicon Valley belief system may be fueling AI panic more than the tech itself</li> <li>Why senior programmers are quietly going back to writing code by hand</li> <li>Where Cal draws the line on using AI to help you write versus write for you</li> <li>Why Matthew worries AI could quietly replace the ordinary, unfinished parts of daily life</li> <li>Buddhist advice on being with this unprecedented moment</li> <li>How stabilizing your mind makes acceptance possible, and how to do it</li> <li>Why calming the sense of emergency doesn&#39;t erase uncertainty, but makes it easier to face</li> </ul> <p>Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://www.danharris.com/meditation-app#memberships">here</a><br /> Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "https://www.danharris.com/">here</a><br /> Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://www.instagram.com/danharris/">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a><br /> Subscribe to our <a href= "https://www.youtube.com/tenpercenthappier">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p>Additional Resources:This episode is sponsored by:<br /> Tonal: Right now, Tonal is offering our listeners $200 off your Tonal purchase at tonal.com<br /> with promo code HAPPIER.<br /> To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit<br /> https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</p>

Longevity Secrets (And Controversies) From The Blue Zones | Dan Buettner

<p dir="ltr">Insights from the places on the planet where people apparently live the longest and healthiest lives.<strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.bluezones.com/dan-buettner/">Dan Buettner</a> is an explorer, National Geographic Fellow, and journalist. He has written a series of bestselling books, including <a href= "https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-blue-zones-of-happiness-lessons-from-the-world-s-happiest-people-dan-buettner/15714041?ean=9781426219634"> The Blue Zones of Happiness</a> and <a href= "https://bookshop.org/book/9781426220135">The Blue Zones Kitchen: 100 Recipes for Living to 100</a>. He is also the host of the Netflix show, <a href="https://www.netflix.com/title/81214929">Live to 100: Secrets of the Blue Zones</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The origin story of the Blue Zones</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The nine common denominators, or Power Nine, to longevity.</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The surprising information about much maligned foods such as pasta and bread</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why trying to pursue good health can actually work against you</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why the single most important factor in longevity isn't advertised on instagram </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Tips for integrating Blue Zones wisdom into your daily life, including designing a life where you move more naturally</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">And some of the critiques and controversies surrounding his work</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a><strong><br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Additional Resources: </p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Link to Buettner's collaborators' response on demographics: <a href= "https://academic.oup.com/gerontologist/article/65/12/gnaf246/8381533?login=false"> https://academic.oup.com/gerontologist/article/65/12/gnaf246/8381533?login=false</a></li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Saul Newman's critique of Blue Zones methodology:<br /> <a href= "https://www.biorxiv.org/content/10.1101/704080v3">https://www.biorxiv.org/content/10.1101/704080v3</a></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">This episode is sponsored by:<br /> <br /> BetterHelp: See the reviews, see what stands out, and see if BetterHelp is right for you. Visit <a href= "http://betterhelp.com/HAPPIER">betterhelp.com/HAPPIER</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr">Function: Join at <a href= "http://functionhealth.com/HAPPIER">functionhealth.com/HAPPIER</a> and use gift code HAPPIER25. @Function #FunctionPartner.<br /> <br /> Northwest Registered Agent: Visit <a href= "http://northwestregisteredagent.com/HappierFree">northwestregisteredagent.com/HappierFree</a> and start using free resources to build something amazing.</p> <p dir="ltr">Warby Parker: Our listeners can buy one pair of glasses and get 20% off any additional pairs at <a href= "http://warbyparker.com/HAPPIER">WarbyParker.com/HAPPIER</a> — and using our link helps support the show. #WarbyParker #ad</p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

The Evidence for Aliens, the Afterlife, Bigfoot, Sea Monsters, and More | Miguel Sancho

<p dir="ltr">An investigative journalist on why reincarnation, ghosts, and unexplained phenomena deserve more scrutiny; plus, why our need to believe in something bigger isn't something to be embarrassed about.</p> <p dir="ltr">Miguel Sancho is an Emmy Award–winning television producer and author. He is a veteran of ABC News, where he helped run 20/20, and he is now the executive producer of The Proof Is Out There on the History Channel. His latest book is <a href= "https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Evidence-of-the-Extraordinary/Miguel-Sancho/9781668085455"> Evidence of the Extraordinary: Discoveries from the Series The Proof is Out There</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to walk the line between skepticism and credulity</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why most UFO footage falls apart under scrutiny</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The scientific case for Bigfoot</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why kids who remember past lives are hard to dismiss</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to spot a fraudulent psychic</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Pascal's "God-shaped hole"</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What unexplained ancient rock structures reveal about our history</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">This episode is sponsored by:<br /> MasterClass: Get at least 15% off any annual membership at <a href= "http://masterclass.com/HAPPIER">masterclass.com/HAPPIER</a>. </p> <p dir="ltr">OneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code HAPPIER at <a href= "https://www.oneskin.co/HAPPIER">www.oneskin.co/HAPPIER</a>. #oneskinpod</p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

You Can Stop Fixing Yourself: Buddhist Advice on Boundaries, Rituals, and Dropping Your Self-Aggression | Susan Piver

<p dir="ltr">Plus: Why you're a "mystic" even though you don't know it, how to find the "magic" in meditation, and the power of simple apologies (and cleaning the dishes).</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://openheartproject.com/about/">Susan Piver</a> is a 30 year student of Tibetan Buddhism, New York Times bestselling author, and founder of <a href= "https://openheartproject.com/">The Open Heart Project</a>, an online meditation community with close to 20,000 members. Her latest book is <a href= "https://openheartproject.com/inexplicable-magic-meditation-for-mystics/"> Inexplicable Magic: Meditation for Mystics</a>. </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why meditation's real payoff can't be explained</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The crucial difference between mindfulness and awareness</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why you can't think your way into oneness</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The seven daily habits of a modern "mystic"</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why boundaries are essential to a spiritual life</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Susan's unglamorous trick for building real confidence</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why trying to fix yourself backfires</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The secret to attracting inspiration<strong><br /></strong></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr"> </p> <p dir="ltr">This episode is sponsored by: </p> <p dir="ltr">Square: Get up to $200 off Square hardware when you sign up at <a href= "http://square.com/go/happier">square.com/go/happier</a>! #squarepod</p> <p dir="ltr">Skylight: Go to <a href= "http://myskylight.com/HAPPIER">MySkylight.com/HAPPIER</a> for $30 off your 15 inch Calendar.</p> <p dir="ltr">iRestore: Right now, you can save on customer favorites like the iRestore Elite helmet and the Illumina Face Mask. Just head to <a href="http://irestore.com/">iRestore.com</a> and use code HAPPIER.</p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

You Can Get Through It: How to Handle the Hardest Things That Will Ever Happen to You | Dr. Lucy Hone

<p dir="ltr">Why the five stages of grief are a myth, a go-to phrase for when everything's falling apart, and three steps for getting through loss.</p> <p dir="ltr">Dr. Lucy Hone is an adjunct fellow at the University of Canterbury and a sought-after professional speaker, a bestselling author, and an award-winning internationally published science educator. She is regularly featured in international media, including in The Guardian, Hidden Brain, and The Washington Post. Dr. Hone is a columnist for Psychology Today.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">A three-step recipe for getting through any major loss</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why the five stages of grief are a myth</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The surprising research on who supports grievers best (hint: pets)</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Living losses vs. death losses — and why ranking grief doesn't help</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What it means to have your "assumptive world" shattered</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Rebuilding identity after loss: answering "who am I now?"</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Finding self-compassion through "real, not perfect," not perfectionism</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Related Episodes:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rL-RerPUqfo">Cody Delistraty</a></li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pCG9xpoo4eE">Sloane Crosley</a></li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jUos3YjFY64">Sam Sanders</a></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Additional Resources: </p> <p dir="ltr">This episode is sponsored by:<br /> Rosetta Stone: Visit <a href= "http://rosettastone.com/happier">rosettastone.com/happier</a> to redeem your 20% off Rosetta Stone Sapphire.</p> <p dir="ltr">CashApp: Download CashApp Today: <a href= "https://click.cash.app/ui6m/oh9jnxlq">click.cash.app/ui6m/oh9jnxlq</a> #CashAppPod.</p> <p dir="ltr">Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App's bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A. Inc. See terms and conditions for the Sutton prepaid card, Sutton debit flex card, and Bancorp debit flex card. Savings provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit <a href= "http://cash.app/legal/podcast">cash.app/legal/podcast</a> for full disclosures. </p> <p dir="ltr">BetterHelp: See the reviews, see what stands out, and see if BetterHelp is right for you. Visit <a href= "http://betterhelp.com/HAPPIER">Betterhelp.com/HAPPIER</a>. </p> <p dir="ltr">Ironwall: Stop online threats before they become real-world attacks. Request your free risk assessment at <a href= "http://ironwall.com/danharris">ironwall.com/danharris</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

The Science of Journaling: How 15 Minutes of Writing Can Free Up Your Brain, Improve Your Health, and Make You a Better Friend | Dr. James Pennebaker

<p>Writing can reduce overthinking, rumination, and anxiety. Here's what the researcher who pioneered the science suggests.</p> <p>James Pennebaker is Professor Emeritus of Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. He is known for his early research on expressive writing and health. More recently, he has pioneered ways to study people's personalities and behaviors through the analysis of their language use. His text analysis program LIWC is used across disciplines. Author of over 300 scientific articles and 8 books, his research has affected our understanding and treatment of mental and physical health of people dealing with upheavals in their lives.</p> <p>This episode first aired in November 2024, and is co-hosted by Dr. Bianca Harris.</p> <p>In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li>The specific form of journaling, called expressive writing or therapeutic journaling, that<br /> he invented and studied.</li> <li>Other kinds of journaling such as to-do lists and gratitude lists.</li> <li>Why writing things down helps shift our perspective on our stress or trauma.</li> <li>How that can lead to a cascade of benefits, from improved sleep to improved working memory</li> <li>And why Pennebaker, who's a very laid-back dude, is so laid-back about how often we need to journal in order to derive its benefits</li> </ul> <p>Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here<br /> Sign up for Dan&#39;s free newsletter here<br /> Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok<br /> Subscribe to our YouTube Channel<br /> Additional Resources:</p> <p>To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit<br /> https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</p>

The Non-BS Science of Manifestation: How Your Imagination Can Help With Pain, Anxiety, Conflict, and Recovery | Cassi Vieten

<p dir="ltr">How elite athletes use visualization to improve performance, why visualization can turbo-charge physical recovery, and the mental trick that can make your nervous system feel safe.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://cassandravieten.com/">Cassi Vieten, PhD</a>, is a licensed clinical psychologist and director of research at the Arthur C. Clarke Center for Human Imagination at the University of California, San Diego, where she also directs the Center for Mindfulness. She is the author <a href= "https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Imagine-That/Cassandra-Vieten/9781668067390"> Imagine That: Transform How You Think, Feel, and Live with the Science of Imagination</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why imagination is the oldest human technology</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The VISTA method for training your imagination</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why manifestation isn't as crazy as it sounds</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to talk yourself out of catastrophizing</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why conflict is really a clash of two imaginations</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What glimmers are</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to use imagination to dial down physical pain</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What years of hidden alcoholism taught Cassi about a narrowed imagination</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

The Neuroscience of Likability, Social Connection, and Brain Health | Ben Rein

<p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.benrein.com/">Ben Rein</a>, PhD is a neuroscientist who studies the biology of social behavior and explains the brain to an audience of over 1.2 million people online. He serves as Chief Science Officer of the Mind Science Foundation, Head of Science Communication at ResearchHub Foundation, and teaches at Stanford University. </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Distinguishing between science and online "neurobullshit"</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Three research-backed ways to protect your brain health and boost social connection, even for introverts</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why isolation shows up in the body like a low-grade injury</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The real difference between loneliness and isolation, and why we rarely recognize either in ourselves</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The power of pets in reducing stress and inflammation</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Whether sugar is really more addictive than cocaine (short answer: no, and here's why)<strong><br /></strong></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a><strong><br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Additional Resources: </p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://www.amazon.com/dp/059385084X?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback"> Why Brains Need Friends: The Neuroscience of Social Connection</a></p> </li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">This episode is sponsored by:<br /> <br /> BetterHelp: See the reviews, see what stands out, and see if BetterHelp is right for you. Visit <a href= "http://betterhelp.com/HAPPIER">betterhelp.com/HAPPIER</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr">Quo: Try QUO for free, PLUS get 20% off your first 6 months when you go to <a href= "http://quo.com/HAPPIER">Quo.com/HAPPIER</a>.<br /> <br /> Ironwall: Stop online threats before they become real-world attacks with Ironwall. Visit <a href= "http://ironwall.com/DANHARRIS">ironwall.com/DANHARRIS</a> and request a free Risk Assessment to see exactly how exposed your executives are.</p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

Self-Help Without Other People Is Just Selfish — and Here's the Science to Prove It | Dan Harris

<p dir="ltr">Dan doesn't usually sit in the interviewee's chair — but when journalist and author Allison Gilbert invited him to speak at the 92nd Street Y as part of their Connected Lives series, he said yes. What followed was one of the more wide-ranging conversations Dan has had about his own practice, his own anxieties, and why he's become convinced that inner work divorced from relationships is just selfishness dressed up as self-care. The evening also included a guided loving-kindness meditation — metta practice — that Dan led live with the audience.</p> <p dir="ltr">They talked about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why Dan thinks the meditation world's PR problem has shifted — it's no longer "this is weird hippie stuff," it's "I get it, but I personally can't do it"</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The upward spiral: how taking care of your mind improves your relationships, which improves your inner weather, which improves your relationships further — and the "toilet vortex" that runs in the opposite direction</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Free-range mindfulness: why brushing your teeth or standing in a grocery line can rewire your brain just like formal seated practice</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The self-compassion toolkit — Kristin Neff's three-step practice, distanced self-talk, and why putting your hand on your heart is "cheesy as f*ck" but actually works</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Joseph Goldstein's single best question for breaking an anxiety loop: "Is this useful?"</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why micro-interactions — with your doorman, your barista, a stranger on the elevator — are one of the most underrated sources of happiness</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Allison Gilbert is a journalist, author, and the creator of The Joy of Connections, a book and companion app designed to help people build more meaningful relationships. She writes and speaks about human connection, grief, and resilience. Learn more at <a href= "https://allisongilbert.com/">allisongilbert.com</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a><strong><br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Additional Resources: </p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Check out Allison's new app at <a href= "http://beingmoreconnected.com/">beingmoreconnected.com</a></p> </li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">This episode is sponsored by:<br /> Notion: Learn more about how Notion can support your business, at <a href="http://notion.com/happier">notion.com/happier</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

Resetting Your Nervous System When You're Anxious, Hurting, or Just Powering Through | Johanna Franzel

<p dir="ltr">How to calm down fast with an 'inventory' practice, how to build 'resources' you can call on anytime, and why 'healing' might be the wrong goal to chase. Plus, living with autoimmune disorder, writing as a practice of embodiment, and why white-knuckling isn't worth it.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.johannafranzel.com/">Johanna Franzel</a> is a teacher, somatic practitioner, educator, and author of the new book <a href= "https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/817300/write-yourself-home-by-johanna-franzel/"> Write Yourself Home: A Creative Guide for Living Well in the Body You Have Through Embodied Writing and Movement Practice</a>. She brings both professional expertise and the lived experience of navigating chronic illness for more than two decades. She also writes a Substack called <a href= "https://johannafranzel.substack.com/">Permission Slips</a>. </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why your nervous system stays on high alert for threats that aren't actually there</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The three-step "inventory" practice for finding calm in your body, right now</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why calling to mind a "resource" can genuinely shift your physiology</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">"Presence without scrutiny": the difference between being with someone (or yourself) and staring them down</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why Johanna doesn't love the word "healing" and the word she prefers instead</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to turn your most embarrassing memories into material, not shame</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why the way you talk to yourself matters more than you think</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What over two decades with Crohn's disease taught Johanna about self-advocacy and knowing your own margins<strong><br /></strong></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

For The Lonely, Suffocated, or Overextended: How To Balance Your Relationships When Others Won't Change | Nedra Glover Tawwab

<p dir="ltr">Plus: how to build a village, why your attachment style isn't your destiny, and a two-step method for asking for help that actually works.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.nedratawwab.com/">Nedra Glover Tawwab</a> is a licensed therapist and the author of <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/dp/0593192095?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback"> Set Boundaries, Find Peace</a>, an instant New York Times best-seller translated into over 35 languages worldwide. In addition, she has authored seven other books, including <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Drama-Free-Managing-Unhealthy-Relationships-ebook/dp/B0B4ZQ6XHJ/?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=Xw0TE&content-id=amzn1.sym.3a079c4e-f938-40c9-a0ed-01ef0e9528e9&pf_rd_p=3a079c4e-f938-40c9-a0ed-01ef0e9528e9&pf_rd_r=141-9976842-2413604&pd_rd_wg=aOTWq&pd_rd_r=5ec740f8-08a3-458b-9a0a-dd340f4f0238"> Drama Free</a> and, most recently, <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Balancing-Act-Creating-Dependency-Connection-ebook/dp/B0F88WPPGC/?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=xZOUD&content-id=amzn1.sym.3a079c4e-f938-40c9-a0ed-01ef0e9528e9&pf_rd_p=3a079c4e-f938-40c9-a0ed-01ef0e9528e9&pf_rd_r=141-9976842-2413604&pd_rd_wg=55qCM&pd_rd_r=31355ab1-c4f9-46b4-add9-4e0679c609c7"> The Balancing Act</a>. A sought-after relationship expert, she has practiced relationship therapy for almost 20 years.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The difference between healthy dependency and full-blown enmeshment</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why your attachment style is useful information, not a life sentence</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Wise compassion versus what Buddhists call "idiot compassion" </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why you can't force someone else to change, but your own change might be contagious</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The "silent agreements" we make in relationships without ever saying them out loud — and how they quietly build resentment</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why over-considering everyone else's needs backfires, and how to actually advocate for your own</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to stop dragging old relationship trauma into brand-new relationships</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What to actually do if you feel lonely, or like you don't have enough friends</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Related Episodes:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-to-handle-family-drama-nedra-glover-tawwab/id1087147821?i=1000598535657"> How to Handle Family Drama | Nedra Glover Tawwab</a></li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4P_YpKjaIXE">That Rut You're In – This One Word Could Pull You Out | Nedra Tawwab</a></li> </ul> <p>Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p>Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p>Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p>Subscribe to our <a href="https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan, Sebene Selassie, and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18. Grab your in-person spot <a href= "https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party">here</a>, or sign up to livestream <a href= "https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-livestream">here</a>!<br /> <br /> This episode is sponsored by:<br /> Tonal: Get $200 off your Tonal purchase with promo code HAPPIER at <a href="http://tonal.com/">tonal.com</a>.<br /> Warby Parker: Our listeners can buy one pair of glasses and get 20% off any additional pairs at <a href= "http://warbyparker.com/HAPPIER">WarbyParker.com/HAPPIER</a> — and using our link helps support the show. #WarbyParker #ad</p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

When You Don't Know What You Actually Want: How To Say No, When To Say Yes, and The One Question That Cuts Through It | Yara Shahidi

<p dir="ltr">Plus: The "hard yes" list, the intentional pursuit of being bad at things (and how that opens doors you didn't know were closed), being "on intimate terms with catastrophe," and optimism as a daily practice. From How To Be A Better Human.<br /> <br /> Today we're sharing an episode from another show we love: <a href= "https://www.ted.com/series/how_to_be_a_better_human">How to Be a Better Human</a>, hosted by Chris Duffy. In this conversation, Chris talks with actor Yara Shahidi — known for Black-ish and Grown-ish, and now host of <a href= "https://www.siriusxm.com/blog/tag/the-optimist-project-with-yara-shahidi"> The Optimist Project</a> podcast — about what she's learned from building a career and an identity at the same time. Yara explains why she thinks of optimism as a daily practice rather than a fixed personality trait, how a "year of no" eventually led her to build a "hard yes list" of things that reliably bring her joy, and why she's been deliberately pursuing things she's bad at — cartwheels, crochet, the glockenspiel — as a way of staying curious and connected.</p> <p dir="ltr">It's a thoughtful conversation about purpose, identity, and how to keep growing once you've already achieved the thing you thought you wanted. If you like what you hear, check out <a href="https://www.ted.com/series/how_to_be_a_better_human">How to Be a Better Human</a> wherever you get your podcasts.</p> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan's online community <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel<br /> <br /></a> Join Dan, Sebene Selassie, and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18. Grab your in-person spot <a href= "https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party">here</a>, or sign up to livestream <a href= "https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-livestream">here</a>! </p> <p dir="ltr"> To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

You're Gonna Be Alright No Matter What: On Facing Anger, Aging, and Loss With Humor and Grace | Sylvia Boorstein

<p dir="ltr">The legendary dharma teacher on self-acceptance, the two-sentence trick she uses on her own anger, and what actually makes her happy after 90 years of living.</p> <p dir="ltr">Sylvia Boorstein, PhD, LCSW is a co-founding teacher of Spirit Rock Meditation Center in Woodacre California and the author of five books on Buddhism, Mindfulness, and particularly That's Funny, You Don't Look Buddhist: On Being a Faithful Jew and a Passionate Buddhist. </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why turning 90 makes the Buddha's teachings on impermanence feel real instead of theoretical</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The line Sylvia repeats to herself that's become the antidote to ill will and anger</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why "there's always a hand to hold" might be the whole point of being alive</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The four (or three) noble truths, reworked in Sylvia's own words</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">A grocery store treat that turned into an unexpected lesson about where happiness actually comes from</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What she says to people who are dying, and why it's not a lie</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">And much more<strong><br /></strong></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">This episode is sponsored by:<br /> BetterHelp:: Don't let stigma stand in the way of support. Start therapy with BetterHelp.</p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up and get 10% off at <a href= "http://betterhelp.com/HAPPIER">BetterHelp.com/HAPPIER</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr">Warby Parker: Our listeners can buy one pair of glasses and get 20% off any additional pairs at <a href= "http://warbyparker.com/HAPPIER">WarbyParker.com/HAPPIER</a> — and using our link helps support the show. #WarbyParker #ad<strong><br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

How To Read People, Calm Tension, Build Trust, and Ask For What You're Worth | John Richardson

<p dir="ltr">An MIT/Harvard negotiation expert on the two types of "no," the FBI hostage negotiator trick you can use with anyone, and the rhetorical move that improves outcomes for women.</p> <p dir="ltr">John Richardson teaches negotiation at MIT's Sloan School of Management, and previously at Harvard Law, and was an associate at the Harvard Negotiation Project. He was coauthor with Roger Fisher and Alan Sharp of Getting It Done and Negotiation Analysis with Howard Raiffa and David Metcalfe. He is also a graduate of the Massachusetts Firefighting Academy. His latest book is <a href="https://www.neversettlenegotiate.com/">Never Settle</a>, co-written with Attia Qureshi.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why lying in a negotiation is tactically stupid, not just morally wrong</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The "give them a sandwich" trick FBI hostage negotiators use, and how to steal it for everyday life</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The difference between healthy manipulation and the harmful kind</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">A simple word that can pull someone's brain out of fight-or-flight mode mid-argument</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why knowing your alternative matters more than knowing your ask</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">When saying no is actually the smartest move in the room</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">And much more<strong><br /></strong></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel<br /> <br /></a> This episode is sponsored by:<br /> Cash App: Download Cash App Today: <a href= "https://click.cash.app/ui6m/oh9jnxlq">https://click.cash.app/ui6m/oh9jnxlq</a> #CashAppPod. </p> <p dir="ltr">Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App's bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A. Inc. See terms and conditions for the Sutton prepaid card, Sutton debit flex card, and Bancorp debit flex card.  Savings provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures.</p> <p dir="ltr">IQ Bar: To get twenty percent off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus free shipping, text DAN to 64000.</p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

That Feeling of "Always-Behind and Never-Enough"—Here's the Antidote | Ellen Hendriksen

<p dir="ltr">Move on from the inner critic and beat perfectionism without lowering your standards.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.ellenhendriksen.com/">Dr. Ellen Hendriksen</a> is a clinical psychologist who helps people calm their anxiety and be their authentic self. She serves on the faculty at Boston University's Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders (CARD) and is the author of <a href= "https://static.macmillan.com/static/smp/how-to-be-enough-9781250291875/"> HOW TO BE ENOUGH: Self-Acceptance for Self-Critics and Perfectionists</a> and <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Yourself-Critic-Anxiety/dp/1250161703"> HOW TO BE YOURSELF: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety</a>. You can find her on Substack at <a href= "https://substack.com/@ellenhendriksen">How to Be Good to Yourself When You're Hard on Yourself</a>. This episode originally aired in 2025. </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The relationship between perfectionism and anxiety</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The definition of perfectionism––and why the word is actually a misnomer</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Dr. Hendriksen's own struggles with perfectionism, and how they manifested physically</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The difference between healthy perfectionism and unhealthy perfectionism</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Changing your relationship with your inner critic </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Shifting from rigid rules to flexibility</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Keeping high standards while making room for mistakes</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Overcoming procrastination</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Navigating social comparison</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">And much more<strong><br /></strong></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Related Episodes:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://www.danharris.com/p/strategies-for-social-anxiety-ellen-35c?utm_source=publication-search"> Strategies for Social Anxiety | Ellen Hendriksen</a></li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://www.danharris.com/p/the-voice-in-your-head-ethan-kross-495?utm_source=publication-search"> The Voice in Your Head | Ethan Kross </a></li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://www.danharris.com/p/how-to-move-into-the-future-with-3a4?utm_source=publication-search"> How To Move Into The Future With Optimism Instead Of Anxiety | Frederik Pferdt</a></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan, Sebene Selassie, and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18. Grab your in-person spot <a href= "https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party">here</a>, or sign up to livestream <a href= "https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-livestream">here</a>!<br /> <br /> To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

Secrets From the Therapist's Couch: How Boundaries Actually Work, How To Come To Peace With Your Parents, and Why It's Not Too Late To Change | Lori Gottlieb

<p dir="ltr">Plus: How your envy can be useful, why you're an unreliable narrator of your own life, and why you keep choosing partners who echo the unfinished business of your childhood.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://lorigottlieb.com/">Lori Gottlieb</a> is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/dp/1328662055?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback"> Maybe You Should Talk to Someone</a>, which has sold over three million copies and has been translated into over 30 languages. In addition to her clinical practice, she writes The New York Times "<a href="https://www.nytimes.com/column/ask-the-therapist">Ask the Therapist</a>" advice column and is co-host of the popular "<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-therapists-with-lori-gottlieb-and-guy-winch/id1523340696">Dear Therapists</a>" podcast and the advice podcast <a href= "https://www.thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com/">Since You Asked</a>. </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why insight alone doesn't change anything, and what "idiot compassion" gets wrong</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Whether you actually need to like your therapist</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why there's no such thing as a hierarchy of pain</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to spot a help-rejecting complainer, including in yourself</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What envy is actually trying to tell you</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why a real boundary is a bid for connection, not a cutoff</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why we're all unreliable narrators, and how to edit the story you tell about yourself</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why we keep choosing partners who echo our unfinished business</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Additional Resources: </p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Maybe-You-Should-Talk-Someone-ebook/dp/B09L5BR22N/?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=W79Xz&content-id=amzn1.sym.3a079c4e-f938-40c9-a0ed-01ef0e9528e9&pf_rd_p=3a079c4e-f938-40c9-a0ed-01ef0e9528e9&pf_rd_r=141-9976842-2413604&pd_rd_wg=FX80K&pd_rd_r=d220e930-ce42-43be-9752-170f8b222aba"> Maybe You Should Talk To Someone Workbook</a></li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Maybe-Should-Talk-Someone-Journal/dp/0358667216/ref=books_amazonstores_desktop_mfs_author_smart_catalog_2?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=2jmuh&content-id=amzn1.sym.aec507cb-142c-4f68-9ae5-803b8e7b33f1&pf_rd_p=aec507cb-142c-4f68-9ae5-803b8e7b33f1&pf_rd_r=141-9976842-2413604&pd_rd_wg=f7Bbg&pd_rd_r=72ca8675-6aeb-4907-beb4-2936ad0323c6"> Maybe You Should Talk To Someone Journal</a></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan, Sebene Selassie, and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18. Grab your in-person spot <a href= "https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party">here</a>, or sign up to livestream <a href= "https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-livestream">here</a>!<br /> <br /> This episode is sponsored by:<br /> Function Health: Join at <a href= "http://functionhealth.com/happier">functionhealth.com/happier</a> or use the gift code HAPPIER25 for a $25 credit toward your membership.</p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

Joyful Anyway: Surviving the Sh*t Show of Regular Life | Kate Bowler

<p dir="ltr">Why optimization is a joy blocker, how to find the 'yes' inside the 'no,' and why that restless ache you can't shake is actually your compass.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://katebowler.com/">Kate Bowler</a>, PhD is a four-time New York Times bestselling author, award-winning podcast host, and an Associate Professor of American Religious History at Duke University. She studies the cultural stories we tell ourselves about success, suffering, and whether (or not) we're capable of change. Her newest book is <a href= "https://katebowler.com/books/joyfulanyway/">Joyful, Anyway</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The dangerous difference between joy and happiness</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why optimization and self-mastery are quietly killing your capacity for delight</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to find the "yes" inside every "no" (even when things are genuinely terrible)</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The ache and restlessness you can't shake—and why it's actually your compass, not a problem to solve</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What grace actually looks like when control disappears</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to stop trying to improve your way into joy</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The "assignment" that changes how you show up for other people</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why survival isn't the point—living is</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a><strong><br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Additional Resources: </p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Everything-Happens-Reason-Other-Loved/dp/0399592067"> Everything Happens for a Reason (and Other Lies I've Loved)</a> </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://www.amazon.com/No-Cure-Being-Human-Truths-ebook/dp/B08RHF2RV5/ref=books_amazonstores_desktop_mfs_author_smart_catalog_2?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=R22vF&content-id=amzn1.sym.aec507cb-142c-4f68-9ae5-803b8e7b33f1&pf_rd_p=aec507cb-142c-4f68-9ae5-803b8e7b33f1&pf_rd_r=141-9976842-2413604&pd_rd_wg=xTBfh&pd_rd_r=bfd2044f-c90d-46a8-9631-b5392910cecc"> No Cure For Being Human (and Other Truths I Need to Hear)</a></li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Have-Beautiful-Terrible-Day-Betweens/dp/0593727673"> Have a Beautiful, Terrible Day!</a></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan, Sebene Selassie, and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18. Grab your in-person spot <a href= "https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party">here</a>, or sign up to livestream <a href= "https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-livestream">here</a>!</p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p> <p>This episode is sponsored by: <br /> <br /> BetterHelp: Online therapy, matched to your needs. Get 10% off your first month at <a href="https://www.betterhelp.com/happier" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">www.betterhelp.com/happier</a>.<br /> Gusto: Try Gusto today at <a href="http://gusto.com/HAPPIER" target="_blank" rel="noopener">gusto.com/HAPPIER</a>, and get three months free when you run your first payroll.</p>

Why We Crave Gurus: A Skeptic's Reckoning With Belief, Bitcoin, and Burning Man | Vikram Gandhi

<p dir="ltr">What a fake guru discovered about genuine connection, why ancient wisdom survives even the most rigorous skepticism, and the real reason humans crave spiritual authority.</p> <p dir="ltr">Vikram Gandhi is an award-winning and boundary-pushing director of fiction and non-fiction film and television. Vikram most recently co-directed <a href= "https://www.hbomax.com/shows/man-will-burn/6e69de11-44dc-472a-a7bb-1f0b4be7738b"> The Man Will Burn</a> — a five-part HBO Original Documentary Series on the full arc of Burning Man, from its countercultural roots in San Francisco to the 80,000-person desert event it's become.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why an experiment built to reject capitalism ended up swimming in it</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What playing a fake guru taught him about how belief actually works</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why people are often more comfortable opening up to a stranger than to those closest to them</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What religion, cryptocurrency, and Burning Man all have in common</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to find meaning in ancient wisdom without needing to belong to anything</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">And much more</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a><strong><br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p> <p>This episode is sponsored by: <br /> Jiyu Skin: Our listeners can now get an additional 20% off plus free shipping with our code HAPPIER at <a href= "http://jiyuskin.com/" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">jiyuskin.com</a>.<br /> Tonal: Right now, Tonal is offering our listeners $200 off your Tonal purchase with promo code HAPPIER.<br /> Rosetta Stone: Ten Percent Happier listeners can get 20% off their Rosetta Stone Sapphire subscription when they sign up today. Visit <a href="http://rosettastone.com/happier" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">rosettastone.com/happier</a> to redeem your 20% off.</p>

Anxiety, Overthinking, and Overwhelm: Buddhist Hacks For Changing Your Mind | Joseph Goldstein

<p dir="ltr">Simple practices for not believing everything you think, becoming less reactive, and handling whatever life throws at you.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href= "https://www.dharma.org/teacher/joseph-goldstein/">Joseph Goldstein</a> is a cofounder of the <a href= "https://www.dharma.org/">Insight Meditation Society</a> and the <a href="https://www.buddhistinquiry.org/">Barre Center for Buddhist Studies</a>, both in Barre, Massachusetts. He is the author of many books including, most recently, <a href= "http://give.dharma.org/JGpoetry">Dreamscapes of the Mind</a>. </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why your thoughts have so much power over you — and how to take it back</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">A surprisingly funny technique for dealing with self-judgment</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why trying to get rid of an unwanted thought often makes it worse</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The difference between recognizing an emotion and actually being mindful of it</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why sadness and unhappiness aren't the same thing</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">And much more</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

Perfectionism, Burnout, and Self-Doubt: Break the Loop with the Science of Mattering | Gordon Flett

<p dir="ltr">Plus: combatting loneliness, turning down the volume on social comparison, and why mattering to a few people beats outperforming everyone.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href= "https://www.thematteringmovement.com/gordon-flett">Gordon Flett</a> is a Professor in the Department of Psychology at York University where he has served as the Director of the LaMarsh Centre for Child and Youth Research. Dr. Flett is most known for his influential research on perfectionism in health and mental health and his more recent work on the psychology of mattering. </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The difference between perfectionism and healthy striving</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How perfectionism functions as a coping mechanism for unmet needs for love, belonging, and significance</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What "mattering" actually means</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Antimattering (and our fear of not mattering)</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why feeling like you matter to others can loosen the grip of perfectionism</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why people consistently underestimate how much they matter to others</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Practical ways to help others feel like they matter</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why helping others feel like they matter boomerangs back and boosts your own sense of significance</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The fear of not mattering in the age of AI</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Additional Resources: </p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Gordon's books: <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Psychology-Mattering-Understanding-Human-Significant/dp/012809415X"> The Psychology of Mattering</a>, <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Mattering-Core-Need-Children-Adolescents/dp/1433842785/ref=sr_1_3?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.1ifm0k6_LOxGtHhLv0yX2PjSRhksVAnwD40N3ChsbDOYaZ6MVOs5XswMbVCtan6Zc_n22pfMBAaJ1QflzwfWdXP_GUgzYZyUSUQw57eI0dsMfnhz8L1ud3unZGKLIYzGwIY7h8EyJqnDV9otNFfKDXh_vSl1ZQwFHKnO8ufG-wPvARz1YJYye98DKxakVZbEl-L0NYaegV6PRnGVg3gPI2G9V9K3LVHwrh4yOSi5TTk.O2LI-5V0yjPh_FhrvldsB-t-Hz0Gp84-AzrkLLcTZzY&dib_tag=se&qid=1782153333&refinements=p_27%3AGordon+L.+Flett&s=books&sr=1-3"> Mattering as a Core Need in Children and Adolescents</a>, and <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Perfectionism-Research-Treatment-Gordon-Flett/dp/1557988420/ref=sr_1_4?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.1ifm0k6_LOxGtHhLv0yX2PjSRhksVAnwD40N3ChsbDOYaZ6MVOs5XswMbVCtan6Zc_n22pfMBAaJ1QflzwfWdXP_GUgzYZyUSUQw57eI0dsMfnhz8L1ud3unZGKLIYzGwIY7h8EyJqnDV9otNFfKDXh_vSl1ZQwFHKnO8ufG-wPvARz1YJYye98DKxakVZbEl-L0NYaegV6PRnGVg3gPI2G9V9K3LVHwrh4yOSi5TTk.O2LI-5V0yjPh_FhrvldsB-t-Hz0Gp84-AzrkLLcTZzY&dib_tag=se&qid=1782153333&refinements=p_27%3AGordon+L.+Flett&s=books&sr=1-4"> Perfectionism: Theory, Research, and Treatment</a></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan, Sebene Selassie, and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18. Grab your in-person spot <a href= "https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party">here</a>, or sign up to livestream <a href= "https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-livestream">here</a>!</p> <p dir="ltr">This episode is sponsored by:<br /> Quo – Try Quo for free, plus get 20% off your first six months when you go to <a href= "http://quo.com/happier">quo.com/happier</a>. </p> <p dir="ltr">BetterHelp — Online therapy, matched to your needs. Get 10% off your first month at <a href= "https://www.betterhelp.com/happier">https://www.betterhelp.com/happier</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Warby Parker — Prescription glasses with virtual try-on. Buy one prescription pair and get 20% off additional prescription pairs at <a href= "https://www.warbyparker.com/happier">https://www.warbyparker.com/happier</a></p> <p dir="ltr">IQBAR:   To get twenty percent off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus free shipping, text DAN to 64000.</p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

How a Group of Broke 20-Somethings Accidentally Launched the Mindfulness Movement | Jack Kornfield, Joseph Goldstein and Sharon Salzberg

<p dir="ltr">The time the Dalai Lama went bowling in their basement, the time a stranger showed up with exactly the $15,000 they were missing — and more behind-the-scenes stories from 50 years of IMS.</p> <p dir="ltr">In 1975, a handful of young Americans fresh back from years of intensive practice in India and Burma pooled together $150,000 they didn't have and bought a former Catholic novitiate in rural Massachusetts. Fifty years later, the Insight Meditation Society has become one of the most consequential institutions in the history of Buddhism in the West — the place where Jon Kabat-Zinn had the idea that became Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction, and where, as one longtime yogi put it, the whole thing has run for half a century "without any adult supervision whatsoever."</p> <p dir="ltr">For IMS's 50th anniversary, Dan sits down with four of its founding teachers — Jack Kornfield, Joseph Goldstein, Sharon Salzberg, and Jacqueline Mandell — along with Steven Schwartz, who helped get the organization built in the first place. Together they trace the founding story, the early years of $25-a-month stipends and "window wars," the accidental birth of the mindfulness movement, and what they hope IMS looks like 1,000 years from now.</p> <p dir="ltr">For more on the Insight Meditation Society, including how to support their new retreat center, you can visit <a href= "http://dharma.org/">dharma.org</a>. </p> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan, Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18, 2026. <a href= "https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party#9851">Register here.</a></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>

How To Communicate Effectively With Difficult People: When to Tell the Truth, When to Push Back, and Why Kindness Isn't the Same as Being Nice | Sharon Salzberg

<p dir="ltr">Plus: the four questions the Buddha said you should ask before you speak, the truth about gossip, and what to do when compassion and honesty pull in opposite directions.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.sharonsalzberg.com/">Sharon Salzberg</a> is a meditation pioneer, world-renowned teacher, and New York Times bestselling author. She is among the first to bring mindfulness & lovingkindness meditation to mainstream American culture fifty years ago. </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What the Buddha actually said about how to talk to people, and why almost none of us were ever taught it </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The four questions to ask yourself before you open your mouth </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Whether white lies are ever okay </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The difference between being kind and being nice </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Is it ever okay to gossip? </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why shame is the enemy of change, and what "right" in right speech actually means </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to remember any of this when you're mid-conversation with a difficult person</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Rosetta Stone – Get 20% off your Rosetta Stone Sapphire subscription when you sign up today. Visit <a href= "http://osettastone.com/happier">rosettastone.com/happier</a> </p> <p dir="ltr">Square –   Get up to $200 off Square hardware when you sign up at <a href= "http://square.com/go/happier">square.com/go/happier</a> #squarepod</p> <p dir="ltr">Leesa — Go to <a href= "http://leesa.com/">leesa.com</a> for 25% off select mattresses, plus get an extra $50 off with promo code HAPPIER.</p> <p dir="ltr">OneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code HAPPIER at <a href= "https://www.oneskin.co/HAPPIER">https://www.oneskin.co/HAPPIER</a>  #oneskinpod</p> <p> </p>