The Science Of Analysing Conversations - Elizabeth Stokoe - #506

About this episode

Elizabeth Stokoe is a Professor of Social Interaction at Loughborough University studying conversation analysis. The discussions we have usually seem to flow seamlessly. That's until you transcribe and scientifically analyse them to show up all the pauses, filler words, mistakes, stutters and half-finished sentences. Then, the fact that we can communicate at all seems to become a miracle. Expect to learn what not to say on a first date, why the word like has taken such a hold over people's mouths, just how big of an impact language has on our behaviour, why the words that people say often are the most important contributor when determining of our opinion of them, what Elizabeth learned from hostage negotiations, whether our use of technology and smart speakers is changing our language and much more... Sponsors: Get 15% discount on the amazing 6 Minute Diary at https://bit.ly/diarywisdom (use code MW15) (USA - https://amzn.to/3b2fQbR and use 15MINUTES) Get 5 Free Travel Packs, Free Liquid Vitamin D and Free Shipping from Athletic Greens at https://athleticgreens.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Get 2 weeks free access to Wondrium by going to https://www.wondrium.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Timestamps: (00:00) Intro (00:23) Why You Shouldn’t Ask People How They Are (06:46) How Humans Are Led by Language (12:13) Judging Someone Based on Conversation (19:41) Insights on Silence in Conversation (30:09) Uhm’s, Ah’s & ‘Like’ (38:14) Importance of Non-Verbal Communication (46:19) First Date Do’s & Don’ts (53:57) Studying Hostage Negotiations (1:09:25) Reverse-Engineering Normal Responses (1:15:44) Where to Find Elizabeth Extra Stuff: Check out Elizabeth's website - https://twitter.com/LizStokoe Follow Elizabeth on Twitter - https://twitter.com/LizStokoe Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom - Episodes You Might Enjoy: This Is How To Master Your Life - David Goggins - #577: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠⁠ How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠ The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠⁠ Get in touch. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices