Annoying Partners, Aging Parents, Impossible Coworkers: Buddhist Advice for Conflict, Communication, and "Patience with Teeth" | devon and nico hase

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<p dir="ltr">Which conflict style are you? Plus: avoiding the "trance of nice," walking the high wire, and an uber-hack for getting over irritation.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="http://www.devonandnicohase.com/">devon + nico hase</a> serve as guiding teachers of the online dharma community <a href= "https://www.devonandnicohase.com/community">Refuge of Belonging</a>. They teach at the Insight Meditation Society, Spirit Rock, and other centers, offer online and in-person retreats, and speak with students in one-on-one sessions. They are the co-authors of <a href= "https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/748275/how-not-to-be-a-hot-mess-by-nico--devon-hase-foreword-by-rhonda-v-magee/"> How Not to Be a Hot Mess</a> and the new <a href= "https://us.macmillan.com/books/9781649634375/thismessygorgeouslove/"> This Messy, Gorgeous Love: A Buddhist Guide to Lasting Partnership</a>. </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why friction in relationships is a feature, not a bug</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The three directions of listening</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why joy isn't a nice-to-have</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How contemplating death can dissolve everyday irritation</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Whether you're a volcano, a diplomat, or a dodger</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to rupture like a pro</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why real patience has teeth</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What it means to walk the high wire in a conflict</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Related Episodes:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/10-happier-with-dan-harris/id1087147821?i=1000536756593"> The Sex Episode</a></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>