How Love Really Works

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<p>Most of us have ideas about what we’re looking for in a romantic partner. But psychologist <a href="https://psychology.ucdavis.edu/people/paul-eastwick" rel="noopener noreferrer">Paul Eastwick</a> says these preferences are surprisingly poor guides for finding love. He explains why attraction is so difficult to predict, and what the research suggests is the best way to meet someone with whom you'll connect. Then, in a new installment of “Your Questions Answered,” psychologist <a href="https://psyc.umd.edu/facultyprofile/lemay/edward" rel="noopener noreferrer">Ed Lemay</a> responds to your questions about how we project our own thoughts and feelings onto other people, and how these projections shape our relationships.</p><p><i>In our companion conversation for Hidden Brain+ subscribers, we talk with Paul Eastwick about online dating apps. He says apps can powerfully shape our experience of meeting potential romantic partners — often not for the better. If you're a subscriber, that episode is called “The Online Dating Trap.” If you're not yet a subscriber, you can listen to that conversation with a free seven-day trial to Hidden Brain+ by going to </i><a href="https://www.patreon.com/c/HiddenBrain" rel="noopener noreferrer"><i>support.hiddenbrain.org</i></a><i>. If you use an Apple device, you can subscribe via Apple Podcasts at </i><a href="https://apple.co/hiddenbrain" rel="noopener noreferrer"><i>apple.co/hidden brain</i></a><i>.&nbsp;</i><br>&nbsp;</p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>