How The Partner You Choose Reveals Your Self-Worth - Quinlan Walther - #1110

About this episode

Quinlan Walther is a writer and a relationship coach. Why do we keep choosing the wrong partners? We meet someone new and think, “Maybe this is finally the one.” But then the pattern starts to feel familiar. Different face, same pain. Different relationship, same lesson. So why do we keep dating our trauma, and what does it actually take to break the cycle? Expect to learn how to build self-worth and have a better relationship with your partner, why you often choose a “wound” other than a partner, how to stop mistaking anxiety for chemistry, how to set good standards versus unrealistic expectations, the internet's big problem when dolling out relationship advice and much more… Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: ⁠⁠https://chriswillx.com/deals⁠⁠ Get a free bottle of D3K2, an AG1 Welcome Kit, and more when you first subscribe at https://ag1.info/modernwisdom Get the brand new Whoop 5.0 and your first month for free at https://join.whoop.com/modernwisdom Get 15% off your first order of my favourite Non-Alcoholic Brew at https://athleticbrewing.com/modernwisdom Get 160+ lab tests for just $365 and save an extra $25 at https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom Get ChatGPT to explore ideas, solve problems, and learn faster at ⁠https://chatgpt.com Timestamps: (0:00) What Your Partner Says About Your Self-Worth (2:31) Where Does Self-Trust Come From? (5:18) Why Curiosity and Capacity Feel So Difficult (8:53) Are Our ‘Types’ Just Unresolved Trauma? (19:17) Who Do You Need to Be to Feel Loved? (23:31) Are You Choosing a Partner Or a Wound? (34:41) Are Avoidant People the Most Attractive? (38:21) Why Healing the Past Changes Everything (41:07) Is Too Much Empathy a Bad Thing? (45:43) The Boundary Lessons Everyone Needs (52:04) Is Ego Getting in the Way? (56:43) The Most Common Misconceptions Between the Sexes (01:00:39) The Mistake Many Women Make When Men Open Up (01:02:01) Have Dating Standards Become Unrealistic? (01:07:16) The Hardest Relationship Cycles to Break (01:08:33) How to Repair Ruptures in Your Relationship (01:15:01) Balancing Impulse and Overthinking (01:18:03) Why You Need Self-Trust in a Relationship (01:23:36) What AI Relationships Reveal About Modern Love (01:32:40) Where to Find Quinlan Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: ⁠⁠https://chriswillx.com/books⁠⁠ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: ⁠⁠https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom⁠⁠ Episodes You Might Enjoy: #577 - David Goggins - This Is How To Master Your Life: ⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠ #712 - Dr Jordan Peterson - How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs: ⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠ #700 - Dr Andrew Huberman - The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain: ⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠⁠ - Get In Touch: Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx⁠⁠ Twitter: ⁠⁠https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast⁠⁠ Email: ⁠⁠https://chriswillx.com/contact⁠⁠ - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices