How To Fix Your Negative Patterns - Alain de Botton - #898

About this episode

Alain de Botton is a philosopher, author, and founder of The School of Life Healing yourself is one of the most transformative journeys you can undertake. From nurturing your inner voice to improving relationships, how can we embrace healing to not only grow personally but also show up better for those around us? Expect to learn where bad inner voices come from and how to hear a negative voice, why we struggle to connect with our emotions, if there is a danger of intellectualising challenges of emotion for smart people, Alain’s advice for obsessive people who want to let go a little more, advice for an anxious person dealing with an avoidant one, why we get stuck in unhappy relationships, how to improve your self worth and much more... Timestamps: (00:00) Where Do Bad Inner Voices Come From? (08:22) Healing a Negative Inner Voice (22:31) Why Do We Struggle to Fully Connect With Our Emotions? (28:14) The Danger of Intellectualising Emotions (36:01) Letting Go as an Obsessive Person (43:06) Openness & Transparency in Relationships (52:13) Advice for People in an Anxious-Avoidant Relationship (58:37) How Malleable Are Attachment Styles? (01:08:42) Embracing Playfulness in a Serious World (01:12:26) How Childhood Impacts Adult Relationships (01:16:02) Why People Get Stuck in Unhappy Relationships (01:22:33) Our Tendency to People-Please (01:29:59) Taking Ownership of Your Patterns (01:37:12) Are Deep Thinkers More Lonely? (01:41:05) What Drives Alain? (01:51:51) Where to Find Alain Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: https://chriswillx.com/deals Get $350 off the Pod 4 Ultra at https://eightsleep.com/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM) Get a Free Sample Pack of all LMNT Flavours with your first purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom Get a 20% discount on the best supplements from Momentous at https://livemomentous.com/modernwisdom Get the best bloodwork analysis in America at https://functionhealth.com/modernwisdom Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: This Is How To Master Your Life - David Goggins - #577: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠⁠ How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠ The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠⁠ - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices