Understanding the Psychology of Perfectionism - Dr Paul Hewitt - #1025

About this episode

Dr Paul Hewitt is a clinical psychologist, professor, and leading researcher on perfectionism. Why do so many of us struggle with perfectionism? For some, it started in childhood—but its impact as an adult can be exhausting. So how do you actually break the cycle and get comfortable with things being imperfect? Expect to learn what they archetypal perfectionist is and how they became themselves, the bevaviour of a perfectionist and how to differentiate between productive and toxic perfectionism, if perfectionism is related to burnout, why having high standards might not be a great thing, how to get out of the perfectionism trap, and much more… Timestamps: (0:00) The Traumas That Create Perfectionists (7:11) Inside Their Minds: An Imperfect Nightmare (16:30) Will Anything Ever Be Enough? (27:10) The Three Levels of Perfectionist Hell (32:51) The Link to Depression (38:23) The World Sees Through Your Mask (45:49) Performance Enhancer or Toxic Fuel? (54:08) The Standards That Kill Healthy Relationships (59:58) Why Imperfection Feels Like Failure (01:08:48) The First Steps to Healing (01:19:00) If You Have a Perfectionist in Your Life... (01:23:55) Dive Deeper Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: https://chriswillx.com/deals Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period from Shopify at https://shopify.com/modernwisdom Get up to 60% off during Gymshark's Black Friday Sale at ⁠https://gym.sh/modernwisdom⁠ (use code MODERNWISDOM10) Get a Free Sample Pack of LMNT’s most popular flavours with your first purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: #577 - David Goggins - This Is How To Master Your Life: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠⁠ #712 - Dr Jordan Peterson - How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠ #700 - Dr Andrew Huberman - The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠⁠ - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices