Are They Really a Narcissist? Do They Really Have Borderline? Are They Truly Gaslighting You? How To Know. And What To Do When People Weaponize Therapy-Speak Against You. | Isabelle Morley

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<p dir="ltr">How to handle people better.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://drisabellemorley.com/">Isabelle Morley</a> is a clinical psychologist and EFT-certified couples therapist (Emotionally Focused Therapy). She is a contributing author to Psychology Today, and has been featured in The New Yorker, The Boston Globe, Business Insider, Vox, and Very Well Mind, among others. Her latest book is <em><a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Theyre-Not-Gaslighting-You-Relationship/dp/1683738268"> They're Not Gaslighting You: Ditch the Therapy Speak and Stop Hunting for Red Flags in Every Relationship</a></em>.<strong><br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr"> </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The difference between abuse and bad behavior</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to know if you're really in an abusive relationship</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to correctly use the term 'gaslighting'</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What boundaries are, how to set them, and how to know if yours have actually been violated</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to spot a narcissist </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The difference between having Narcissistic Personality Disorder and just having selfish qualities</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Red flags vs. garden-variety imperfections</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The definition and weaponization of terms like 'bipolar' and 'borderline'</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The overuse of the word 'triggered'</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Basic tips for navigating relationships beyond the therapy-speak</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">And much more</li> </ul> <p><strong><br /> <br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan's online community <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p><strong><br /> <br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Additional Resources: </p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation"><em><a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Navigating-Intimacy-Introductory-Couples-Therapy/dp/1683737997"> Navigating Intimacy: An Introductory Guide to Couples and Sex Therapy</a></em><strong> </strong></p> </li> </ul> <p dir="ltr"> </p> <p dir="ltr">Tickets are now on sale for a special live taping of the 10% Happier Podcast with guest Pete Holmes! Join us on November 18th in NYC for this benefit show, with all proceeds supporting the New York Insight Meditation Center. Grab your tickets <a href= "https://www.nyimc.org/event/great-cosmic-joke/">here</a>!</p> <p><strong><br /></strong>Tickets are now available for an intimate live event with Dan on November 23rd as part of the Troutbeck Luminary Series. Join the conversation, participate in a guided meditation, and ask your questions during the Q&A. Click <a class="c-link" href= "https://troutbeck.com/culture/luminaries-series-conversation-meditation-with-dan-harris-2025/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" data-stringify-link= "https://troutbeck.com/culture/luminaries-series-conversation-meditation-with-dan-harris-2025/" data-sk="tooltip_parent">here</a> to buy your ticket!<strong><br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr"> </p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p> <p>Thanks to our sponsors: <br /> <br /> <strong>AT&T</strong>: Staying connected matters. That's why AT&T has connectivity you can depend on, or they will proactively make it right. Visit <a href= "http://att.com/guarantee">att.com/guarantee</a> for details.<br /> <strong>Airbnb</strong>: Your home might be worth more than you think. Find out how much at <a href= "http://airbnb.com/host">airbnb.com/host</a>.</p>