Esther Perel: The Modern World Can Sap Your Life Force. Here's How To Recapture It.

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<p dir="ltr">The legendary psychotherapist unpacks the concept of "hostile dependency" and explains why cutting people off doesn't always work.</p> <p dir="ltr">Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author <a href= "https://www.estherperel.com/?1e8cce79_page=5&categories=Eroticism&tw_source=google&tw_adid=715080004713&tw_campaign=21749016432&tw_kwdid=dsa-19959388920&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21749016432&gbraid=0AAAAA93e13k9nA_EhLCsq-SVUpUeEhsyc&gclid=CjwKCAiAjc7KBhBvEiwAE2BDOWlolkyLNSd3QDajCDcZLzjEa0pVaAhpoETaM2agDQ1uzqqHFeglRRoCGQIQAvD_BwE"> Esther Perel</a> is a leading voice on modern relationships, known for her widely viewed TED Talks, bestselling books and the hit podcast. She runs a New York–based therapy practice and advises global organizations and platforms on the complexities of contemporary relationships.</p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Esther Perel's podcast <a href= "https://www.estherperel.com/podcast"><em>Where Should We Begin?</em></a> on YouTube, Apple Podcasts or Spotify, and subscribe to <a href="https://estherperel.substack.com/"><em>Entre Nous</em> with Esther Perel</a> on Substack for exclusive bonus content.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What Esther Perel really means by <em>eros</em></li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How modern life quietly depletes our sense of feeling alive</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why aliveness can coexist with grief, pain, and difficulty </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The danger of numbness </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Introverts, extroverts, and the many non-social ways we experience vitality</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Vital sources of connection and meaning</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Co-regulation, touch, presence, and why words alone aren't enough</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">"Hostile dependency" and the paradoxes of long-term relationships</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why loneliness has become normalized, and why it shouldn't be</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to rebuild community through small, practical acts</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Rituals as a way to mark time, create meaning, and feel grounded</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The tension between individualism, belonging, and responsibility to others</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p> <p> </p> <p>Thanks to our sponsors:</p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>HomeServe</strong>: Plans start at just $4.99 a month. Go to <a href="http://homeserve.com/">homeserve.com</a> to find a plan that's right for you.<br /> <br /> <strong>LinkedIn</strong>:  Spend $250 on your first campaign on LinkedIn ads and get a $250 credit for the next one. Just go to <a href= "http://linkedin.com/happier">linkedin.com/happier</a>.<br /> <br /> <strong>NOCD</strong>: Head over to <a href= "http://nocd.com/">nocd.com</a> and book a free 15‑minute call with their team, to learn more and start getting help with OCD.<br /> <br /> <strong>OneSkin</strong>:  Get up to 30% off your first three subscription orders when you use the code "happier" at <a href= "http://oneskin.co/happier">OneSkin.co/happier</a>. </p>