How to Click With Anyone, Read Every Room, and Stop Absorbing Other People's Stress | Kate Murphy

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<p dir="ltr">The neuroscience of human connection: your nervous system is picking up other people's signals all day without your knowledge. Here's how to use that.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href= "https://www.journalistkatemurphy.com/">Journalist Kate Murphy's</a> eclectic essays and articles for The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Economist, Agence France-Presse, and Texas Monthly have been shared and commented on by millions. She is known for her fresh and accessible style and ability to distill complex subjects, particularly the science behind human interactions. Her first book, <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Youre-Not-Listening-Missing-Matters/dp/1250297192">You're Not Listening: What You're Missing and Why It Matters</a>, was published in thirty-two languages and has become required reading in interpersonal communication courses at high schools, colleges, and universities worldwide. </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What "interpersonal synchrony" is and the science behind it</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why some people just click — and others don't</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How individualism and technology are working against our need to connect</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What "affective presence" is –– and how much you can actually change your vibe</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Interoception – and why you need to understand your own body before you can read others</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The dark side of synchrony: emotional fusion and borrowed emotions</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why audio-only calls are better than Zoom for real connection</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How physical distance controls your ability to sync</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">"Emotional aperture" — how to read a room like a trial lawyer</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The secret to bonding with other people</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Additional Resources: </p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" aria-level="1"> <p dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Why-We-Click-Interpersonal-Synchrony/dp/1250352452"> Why We Click: The Emerging Science of Interpersonal Synchrony</a></p> </li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan, Sebene Selassie, and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18. Grab your in-person spot <a href= "https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party">here</a>, or sign up to livestream <a href= "https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-livestream">here</a>!<br /> <br /></p> <p class= "font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]"> This episode is sponsored by:</p> <p class= "font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]"> <strong>Spark</strong> — Clean energy and focus with zero sugar. Get 30% off and free shipping with code HAPPIER at <a class= "underline underline underline-offset-2 decoration-1 decoration-current/40 hover:decoration-current focus:decoration-current" href= "https://www.drinkspark.com/">https://www.drinkspark.com.</a></p> <p class= "font-claude-response-body break-words whitespace-normal leading-[1.7]"> <strong>BetterHelp</strong> — Online therapy, matched to your needs. Get 10% off your first month at <a class= "underline underline underline-offset-2 decoration-1 decoration-current/40 hover:decoration-current focus:decoration-current" href= "https://www.betterhelp.com/happier">https://www.betterhelp.com/happier.</a></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>