How To Handle Toxic Thoughts | Sebene Selassie and Jeff Warren

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<p dir="ltr">What to do when the voice in your head is an asshole.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.sebeneselassie.com/">Sebene Selassie</a> is an author and meditation teacher. She writes the popular newsletter <a href= "https://sebeneselassie.substack.com/about">remind me to love</a> and her first book is called, <a href= "https://www.sebeneselassie.com/mybook">You Belong</a>. </p> <p dir="ltr"><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://jeffwarren.org/">Jeff Warren</a> is an author and meditation teacher. He writes the popular newsletter <a href="https://www.homebasewithjeff.com/">Home Base</a> and is the coauthor, along with Dan, of a book called <a href= "https://jeffwarren.org/books/meditation-fidgety-skeptics/">Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics</a>. And he is the co-host of the <a href= "https://www.mindbodpod.com/">mind/bod adventure pod</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr"><strong id= "docs-internal-guid-669b68e7-7fff-6c40-920b-5cdfb1b0ac6b"><br /></strong><a href="https://soundcloud.com/aaron-drm">Aaron Schultz aka DJ DRM</a> has crisscrossed the globe for decades playing his own unique brand of dance music. Aaron is also a longtime meditator and Dharma practitioner in the Dharma Drum lineage of Chan Buddhism, and is a passionate devotee of GuanYin Bodhisattva.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to relate to sticky stories and emotions </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to face unpleasant feelings </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The 5 hindrances (that's a Buddhist list of the main problems that arise in meditation) and how sneaky they can be </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The potential pitfalls of a "good sit"</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The role of right effort in meditation </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How expectations make us suffer</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Neurodivergence</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Working with shame (and how it differs from wise remorse) </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The connection between dancing and the Dharma (and why Dan is too self-conscious to dance)</li> </ul> <p><strong><br /> <br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan's online community <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p><strong><br /> <br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">On Sunday, September 21st from 1-5pm ET, join Dan and Leslie Booker at the New York Insight Meditation Center in NYC as they lead a workshop titled, "Heavily Meditated – The Dharma of Depression + Anxiety." This event is both in-person and online. Sign up <a href= "https://www.nyimc.org/event/heavily-meditated/">here</a>! </p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Get ready for another Meditation Party at Omega Institute! This in-person workshop brings together Dan with his friends and meditation teachers, Sebene Selassie, Jeff Warren, and for the first time, Ofosu Jones-Quartey. The event runs October 24th-26th. Sign up and learn more at <a href= "http://eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-2025">eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-2025</a>.</p> <p><strong><br /> <br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p> <p><strong>Sponsors: <br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Liquid IV: Savor the last bits of summer with Liquid I.V. Tear. Pour. Live More. Go to <a href= "http://liquidiv.com/">LiquidIV.com</a> and get 20% off your first order with code HAPPIER at checkout. </p> <p dir="ltr">AT&T: Staying connected matters. That's why AT&T has connectivity you can depend on, or they will proactively make it right. Visit <a href= "http://att.com/guarantee">att.com/guarantee</a> for details.</p>