How To Stop Worrying About What People Think Of You | Michael Gervais

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<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p>---</p> <p>Why fear of other people's opinions (FOPO) holds us back, and what to do about it.  </p> <p>Michael Gervais is a high performance psychologist and the host of the <em>Finding Mastery</em> podcast. His new book is called <em>The First Rule of Mastery</em>: <em>Stop Worrying About What People Think of You. </em></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>A handy new acronym: FOPO, Fear of People's Opinions </li> <li>How the evolutionary roots of our desire for social acceptance work against us in the modern world </li> <li>Why caring about what others think is not the same thing as worrying about what others think </li> <li>The difference between a purpose-based identity and a performance-based identity </li> <li>The anti-FOPO power of things like: imagination, journaling, meditation, social support, and considering your mortality</li> <li>Why focusing less on yourself can be the greatest bulwark against FOPO</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Related Episodes:</strong></p> <ul> <li><a href= "https://tenpercent-happier.webflow.io/tph/podcast-episode/pete-carrol-michael-gervais-267" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Michael Gervais and Pete Carroll</a></li> <li><a href= "https://wondery.com/shows/ten-percent-happier-with-dan-harris/episode/10334-from-finding-mastery-a-conversation-with-dr-jon-kabat-zinn/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Michael Gervais in conversation with Jon Kabat-Zinn </a></li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter</strong> <a href= "https://bit.ly/3QtGRqJ" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank"><strong>here</strong></a></p> <p><strong>Follow Dan on social:</strong> <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank"><strong>Instagram</strong></a><strong>,</strong> <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank"><strong>TikTok</strong></a></p> <p><strong>Ten Percent Happier online</strong> <a href= "https://bit.ly/46TZglY" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank"><strong>bookstore</strong></a></p> <p><strong>Subscribe to our</strong> <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank"><strong>YouTube Channel</strong></a></p> <p><strong>Our favorite playlists on:</strong> <a href= "https://spoti.fi/3Qa8kMT" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank"><strong>Anxiety</strong></a><strong>,</strong> <a href= "https://spoti.fi/3MjtMxF" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank"><strong>Sleep</strong></a><strong>,</strong> <a href= "https://spoti.fi/3QvyA5J" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank"><strong>Relationships</strong></a><strong>,</strong> <a href="https://spoti.fi/3QxZASc" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Most Popular Episodes</strong></a></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/michael-gervais" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/tph/podcast-episode/michael-gervais-returns</a></p>