Myths Of Love, Sex, Dating, And Relationships | Myisha Battle

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<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p>---</p> <p>How our false expectations and misunderstandings about relationships can create an incalculable amount of suffering — and the many problems of the "You complete me" model.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Description:</strong> </p> <p><br /></p> <p>This episode was part one of our four-part series where we're counter-programming against the way Valentine's Day is often celebrated, and examining different kinds of relationships including romantic, friendship, and family. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Today's guest hews a bit more closely to the traditional Valentine's Day theme and will do some myth-busting around all the things we tend to get wrong when we talk about romantic relationships. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Myisha Battle is the author of the book, "This Is Supposed to Be Fun: How To Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between." She also hosts the podcast <a href= "https://pod.link/1709536776?utm_campaign=later-linkinbio-kcrw&utm_content=later-38296435&utm_medium=social&utm_source=linkin.bio" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>How's Your Sex Life?</em></a> Much of her public work focuses on the early stages of relationships, but in her private practice, she counsels people at all stages, and in all kinds of relationships. </p> <p><br /></p> <p><em>Content Warning: Explicit language and conversations about sex. </em></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>In this episode we talk about:</strong></p> <ul> <li>Five ways to improve intimacy and connection in romantic partnership</li> <li>The nuts and bolts of sex, and how we often get intimacy and sex confused in unhelpful ways</li> <li>Understanding men's and women's cycles to depersonalize issues in sex and relationships</li> <li>The myth of finding "the one"</li> <li>The orgasm gap</li> <li>Bromance</li> <li>And if you're looking, tips on how to make finding a partner easier</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/myisha-battle-558" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/myisha-battle-archive</a> </p> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Where to find Myisha Battle online: </strong></p> <p>Website: <a href="http://www.myishabattle.com/" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">www.myishabattle.com/</a></p> <p>Social Media:</p> <ul> <li><a href="https://twitter.com/MyishaBattle" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Twitter: @MyishaBattle</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/myishabattle/" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Instagram: @MyishaBattle</a></li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Book Mentioned:</strong></p> <ul> <li><a href= "https://www.sealpress.com/titles/myisha-battle/this-is-supposed-to-be-fun/9781541602212/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>This Is Supposed to Be Fun: How To Find Joy in Hooking Up, Settling Down, and Everything in Between </em></a></li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Other Resources Mentioned:</strong></p> <ul> <li>Alain de Botton's <a href= "https://www.nytimes.com/2016/05/29/opinion/sunday/why-you-will-marry-the-wrong-person.html" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person</a> </li> <li><a href="https://www.theschooloflife.com/" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The School of Life</a> </li> <li><a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/john-julie-gottman-418" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#418. How Not to Ruin Your Relationships | Drs. John & Julie Gottman</a></li> <li><a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/esther-perel" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#213: Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel</a></li> <li><a href= "https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/esther-perel-464" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#464. How to Keep Friendships From Imploding | Esther Perel</a></li> <li><a href= "https://www.nytimes.com/2022/10/17/health/clitoris-sex-doctors-surgery.html" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Half the World Has a Clitoris. Why Don't Doctors Study It?</a></li> <li>Michael Vincent Miller's <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Intimate-Terrorism-Crisis-Love-Disillusion/dp/0393315320" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Intimate Terrorism</em></a></li> <li>Esther Perel's <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Mating-Captivity-Unlocking-Erotic-Intelligence/dp/0060753641" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Mating in Captivity</em></a></li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Additional Resources:</strong></p> <ul> <li>Download the Ten Percent Happier app today: <a href= "https://10percenthappier.app.link/install" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://10percenthappier.app.link/install</a></li> </ul> <p><br /></p>