Secrets From the Therapist's Couch: How Boundaries Actually Work, How To Come To Peace With Your Parents, and Why It's Not Too Late To Change | Lori Gottlieb

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<p dir="ltr">Plus: How your envy can be useful, why you're an unreliable narrator of your own life, and why you keep choosing partners who echo the unfinished business of your childhood.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://lorigottlieb.com/">Lori Gottlieb</a> is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/dp/1328662055?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback"> Maybe You Should Talk to Someone</a>, which has sold over three million copies and has been translated into over 30 languages. In addition to her clinical practice, she writes The New York Times "<a href="https://www.nytimes.com/column/ask-the-therapist">Ask the Therapist</a>" advice column and is co-host of the popular "<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-therapists-with-lori-gottlieb-and-guy-winch/id1523340696">Dear Therapists</a>" podcast and the advice podcast <a href= "https://www.thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com/">Since You Asked</a>. </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why insight alone doesn't change anything, and what "idiot compassion" gets wrong</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Whether you actually need to like your therapist</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why there's no such thing as a hierarchy of pain</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to spot a help-rejecting complainer, including in yourself</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What envy is actually trying to tell you</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why a real boundary is a bid for connection, not a cutoff</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why we're all unreliable narrators, and how to edit the story you tell about yourself</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why we keep choosing partners who echo our unfinished business</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Additional Resources: </p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Maybe-You-Should-Talk-Someone-ebook/dp/B09L5BR22N/?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=W79Xz&content-id=amzn1.sym.3a079c4e-f938-40c9-a0ed-01ef0e9528e9&pf_rd_p=3a079c4e-f938-40c9-a0ed-01ef0e9528e9&pf_rd_r=141-9976842-2413604&pd_rd_wg=FX80K&pd_rd_r=d220e930-ce42-43be-9752-170f8b222aba"> Maybe You Should Talk To Someone Workbook</a></li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation"><a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Maybe-Should-Talk-Someone-Journal/dp/0358667216/ref=books_amazonstores_desktop_mfs_author_smart_catalog_2?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=2jmuh&content-id=amzn1.sym.aec507cb-142c-4f68-9ae5-803b8e7b33f1&pf_rd_p=aec507cb-142c-4f68-9ae5-803b8e7b33f1&pf_rd_r=141-9976842-2413604&pd_rd_wg=f7Bbg&pd_rd_r=72ca8675-6aeb-4907-beb4-2936ad0323c6"> Maybe You Should Talk To Someone Journal</a></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan, Sebene Selassie, and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18. Grab your in-person spot <a href= "https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party">here</a>, or sign up to livestream <a href= "https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-livestream">here</a>!<br /> <br /> This episode is sponsored by:<br /> Function Health: Join at <a href= "http://functionhealth.com/happier">functionhealth.com/happier</a> or use the gift code HAPPIER25 for a $25 credit toward your membership.</p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p>