That Background Hum of Worry in Every Important Conversation — Here's What It Is and How to Quiet It | Claude M. Steele

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<p dir="ltr">Why talking to your boss, your doctor, or anyone with power puts your brain on high alert — and what a Stanford psychologist says to do about it.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href= "https://profiles.stanford.edu/claude-steele"> Claude M. Steele</a> is a professor of psychology at Stanford University and the author of a new book, <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Churn-Tension-That-Divides-Overcome/dp/1324093447"> Churn: The Tension That Divides Us and How to Overcome It</a>. </p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why talking across difference is so stressful, even when nobody's being bigoted</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What's actually happening in your brain during an awkward cross-cultural moment</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The surprisingly simple thing that makes critical feedback land or fall flat</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to reduce tension when you're the one with power (and what to do when you're not)</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">A three-part framework for building trust across any divide</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p> <p>This episode is sponsored by:<br /> <br /> <strong>Function Health</strong>: Join at <a href= "http://functionhealth.com/">functionhealth.com/happier</a> or use the gift code HAPPIER25 for a $25 credit toward your membership.<br /> <br /> <strong id= "docs-internal-guid-24c1d015-7fff-0651-ee5f-ba096aa22523">BetterHelp:</strong> Online therapy, matched to your needs. Get 10% off your first month at <a href= "https://www.betterhelp.com/happier">https://www.betterhelp.com/happier</a></p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>Wix:</strong> Build a fully functional website with AI in minutes at <a href= "https://www.wix.com/harmony">https://www.wix.com/harmony</a></p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>Cash App</strong>: Download Cash App Today: <a href= "https://click.cash.app/ui6m/oh9jnxlq">https://click.cash.app/ui6m/oh9jnxlq</a>  #CashAppPod  Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App's bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A. Inc. See terms and conditions for the <a href= "https://cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement">Sutton prepaid card</a>, <a href= "https://cash.app/legal/us/en-us/debit-flex-card-agreement-sutton">Sutton debit flex card</a>, and <a href= "https://cash.app/legal/us/en-us/debit-flex-card-agreement-bancorp"> Bancorp debit flex card</a>.  Discounts and promotions provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures.</p> <p><strong id= "docs-internal-guid-51b87279-7fff-b628-9256-f7c42b876c36">IQBAR:  </strong> To get twenty percent off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus free shipping, text DAN to 64000.<strong id= "docs-internal-guid-51b87279-7fff-b628-9256-f7c42b876c36"><br /> <br /> <strong id= "docs-internal-guid-f47ef7eb-7fff-da0e-f484-59f4bd433f61">Gusto:</strong></strong>  Try Gusto today at <a href= "http://gusto.com/happier">gusto.com/happier</a> and get three months free when you run your first payroll.</p>