The Hidden Secret To Smarter Decision-Making, Better, Relationships, And Lower Stress | Matthew Brensilver, Vinny Ferraro, Kaira Jewel Lingo

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<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p>The Buddhist case — and toolkit — for "don't-know mind."</p> <p><br /></p> <p>For this episode, Executive Producer DJ Cashmere interviewed a trio of brilliant Dharma teachers to get their advice about how to handle being wrong. This is the third in a series of <a href= "http://www.happierapp.com/podcast-playlists/correspondent-episodes" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">'correspondent' episodes</a>, in which DJ identifies a pain point in his life and meditation practice, then goes out into the world to report on the best ways to address it.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><a href="https://www.kairajewel.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Kaira Jewel Lingo</a> is a former nun in the Plum Village tradition started by Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh. <a href= "https://vinnyferraro.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">Vinny Ferraro</a> teaches at the Insight Meditation Society and Spirit Rock, and also in prisons. <a href= "https://www.matthewbrensilver.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Matthew Brensilver</a> teaches at many of the same retreat centers, and spent many years working in the field of addiction pharmacotherapy.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p>*Matthew's Dharma talk on <a href= "https://dharmaseed.org/talks/80528/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Knowing And Not-Knowing</a></p> <p><br /></p> <p>****</p> <p>Want to study and practice with today's guests? Please check out these <a href="https://www.spiritrock.org/" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Spirit Rock</a> offerings:</p> <p>Matthew Brensilver, <a href= "https://courses.spiritrock.org/sp/buddhist-psychology-training-integrating-mindfulness-science-and-clinical-practice/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Buddhist Psychology Training</strong></a> (Begins in January)</p> <p>Vinny Ferraro: <a href= "https://spirit-rock.secure.retreat.guru/program/a-year-to-live-yl6t25/?lang=en" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>A Year to Live</strong></a>; <a href= "https://spirit-rock.secure.retreat.guru/program/discovering-what-death-can-teach-us-about-living-fully-vf1h24/?lang=en" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Discovering What Death Can Teach Us About Living Fully</strong></a> (Begins in January)</p> <p>Kaira Jewel Lingo: <a href= "https://spirit-rock.secure.retreat.guru/program/healing-our-way-home-black-buddhist-teachings-kw1d24/?lang=en" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Healing Our Way Home</strong></a> (Oct. 20); <a href= "https://spirit-rock.secure.retreat.guru/program/insight-meditation-retreat-216r25-on-land/?lang=en" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Insight Meditation Retreat</strong></a> (April 9-16; opens Dec. 11)</p> <p>All <em>10% Happier</em> listeners receive a discount code for our <a href= "https://spirit-rock.secure.retreat.guru/program/meeting-the-three-characteristics-through-cultivating-stability-well-being-and-confidence-386r24-on-land/?lang=en" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>December Insight Retreat</strong></a> (Dec. 8-18) with the code TENPERCENT</p> <p><br /></p> <p>& if you'd like to study with these guests on the East Coast, check out these retreats at the <a href= "https://myims.dharma.org/s/retreat-center-2025" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Insight Meditation Society</a>:</p> <p><strong>Kaira Jewel Lingo,</strong> Strength to Love: Honoring Dr. Martin Luther King: Jr. (Jan 17 - Jan 20), and Return to Wholeness: Opening to Wisdom & Love (Mar 23 - Mar 29)</p> <p><strong>Vinny Ferraro,</strong> Peace in Presence: A Four-Night Retreat for All (Jan 31 - Feb 4)</p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Related Episodes:</strong></p> <p><br /></p> <ul> <li><a href= "http://www.happierapp.com/podcast-playlists/correspondent-episodes" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Listen to all of DJ's correspondence episodes here</a></li> <li><a href= "https://www.happierapp.com/podcast/tph/kaira-jewel-lingo-news" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">3 Buddhist Strategies for When the News is Overwhelming | Kaira Jewel Lingo</a></li> <li><a href= "https://www.happierapp.com/podcast/tph/kaira-jewel-lingo-363" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">How to Keep Your Relationships On the Rails | Kaira Jewel Lingo</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.happierapp.com/podcast/tph/vinny-ferraro" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Three Buddhist Practices For Getting Your Sh*t Together | Vinny Ferraro</a></li> <li><a href= "https://happierapp.com/podcast/tph/matthew-brensilver-415" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Why Self-Hatred Makes No Sense | Matthew Brensilver</a></li> <li><a href= "https://open.spotify.com/episode/7fwlRSshqnGwft9lIPlxGB" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">How to Actually Be Present | Matthew Brensilver</a></li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p>Also, the teachers' sites:</p> <p><a href="https://vinnyferraro.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://vinnyferraro.org/</a></p> <p><a href= "https://spirit-rock.secure.retreat.guru/program/a-year-to-live-yl6t25/?_gl=1%2Axlghiq%2A_ga%2AODcwMTMxMTY4LjE3MjI4ODYxNDU.%2A_ga_JJL3LQYNTV%2AMTcyNjY4NzMxNi42LjEuMTcyNjY4NzM1OS4xNy4wLjA.&lang=en" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Vinny Ferraro's Course, A Year To Live</a></p> <p><a href="https://www.kairajewel.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.kairajewel.com/</a></p> <p><a href="https://www.matthewbrensilver.org/" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://www.matthewbrensilver.org/</a></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Feedback form: Let us know what you think!</strong></p> <p><a href="https://www.happierapp.com/contact" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank"><strong>https://www.happierapp.com/contact</strong></a></p> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Sign up for Dan's weekly newsletter</strong> <a href= "https://www.danharris.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank"><strong>here</strong></a></p> <p><strong>Follow Dan on social:</strong> <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank"><strong>Instagram</strong></a><strong>,</strong> <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank"><strong>TikTok</strong></a></p> <p><strong>Ten Percent Happier online</strong> <a href= "https://bit.ly/46TZglY" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank"><strong>bookstore</strong></a></p> <p><strong>Subscribe to our</strong> <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank"><strong>YouTube Channel</strong></a></p> <p><strong>Our favorite playlists on:</strong> <a href= "https://spoti.fi/3Qa8kMT" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank"><strong>Anxiety</strong></a><strong>,</strong> <a href= "https://spoti.fi/3MjtMxF" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank"><strong>Sleep</strong></a><strong>,</strong> <a href= "https://spoti.fi/3QvyA5J" rel="noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank"><strong>Relationships</strong></a><strong>,</strong> <a href="https://spoti.fi/3QxZASc" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><strong>Most Popular Episodes</strong></a></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href= "https://happierapp.com/podcast/tph/dj-being-wrong-3" rel= "noopener noreferrer" target= "_blank">https://happierapp.com/podcast/tph/dj-being-wrong-3</a></p>