The Science of Happiness: Five Simple Strategies for Reducing Anxiety and Increasing Connection | Sonja Lyubomirsky and Harry Reis
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<p dir="ltr">What it really means to feel loved, and why many people who are loved don't feel it.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://sonjalyubomirsky.com/">Sonja Lyubomirsky</a> is a preeminent happiness expert and Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of California. <a href= "https://www.sas.rochester.edu/psy/people/faculty/reis_harry/">Harry Reis</a> is one of the world's leading experts on relationships and Dean's Professor in the Department of Psychology at the University of Rochester. They are the authors of: <a href= "https://www.harpercollins.com/products/how-to-feel-loved-sonja-lyubomirskyharry-reis?variant=43816462450722"> HOW TO FEEL LOVED: The Five Mindsets That Get You More of What Matters Most</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What it really means to feel loved, and why many people who are loved don't feel it</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">An antidote to loneliness </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">A broader definition of love beyond romance</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why feeling loved may be the true key to happiness</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How feeling loved is more in your control than you think</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The "relationship seesaw": lifting others up to feel loved yourself</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The power of curiosity, listening, and reciprocity</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why dropping emotional armor is necessary for real connection</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Practical tools for feeling more loved</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Tips on asking better questions and showing real enthusiasm</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why genuine curiosity, reciprocity, and emotional pacing deepen connection more than performative listening</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Related Episodes:</p> <ul> <li><a href= "https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/happiness-takes-work-sonja-lyubomirsky/id1087147821?i=1000464672504"> Happiness Takes Work | Sonja Lyubomirsky</a></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr"> </p> <p dir="ltr">Thanks to our sponsors:<br /> <br /> <strong>LinkedIn</strong>: Spend $250 on your first campaign on LinkedIn ads and get a $250 credit for the next one. Just go to <a href= "http://linkedin.com/happier">linkedin.com/happier</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>Leesa</strong>: Go to <a href= "http://leesa.com/">leesa.com</a> for 25% off mattresses, plus get an extra $50 off with the promo code Happier, exclusive for our listeners.</p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>ZipRecruiter</strong>: To try ZipRecruiter for free, go to <a href= "http://ziprecruiter.com/tenpercent">ZipRecruiter.com/tenpercent</a>.<br /> <br /> <strong id= "docs-internal-guid-e8cbdf9d-7fff-8a4a-70fc-8e83ba8e398f">FitBod:</strong> Get 25% off your subscription or try the app free for seven days at <a href="http://fitbod.me/tenpercent">fitbod.me/tenpercent</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p> <p> </p>
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