What Attachment Style Are You? How To Know, Why It Matters, and How To Change It If You Need To | Amir Levine
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<p dir="ltr">Your health, relationships, and self-esteem all hinge on your attachment style. Here's how to know if you're anxious or avoidant — and how to get more secure.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://amirlevinemd.com/">Dr. Amir Levine</a> is a Columbia-trained psychiatrist and neuroscientist and coauthor of the multi-million-copy bestseller <a href= "https://www.amazon.com/Attached-Science-Adult-Attachment-YouFind/dp/1585429139"> Attached</a>, which brought attachment theory into mainstream conversation and remains the #1 book on Amazon in Relationships more than a decade later. His new book <a href= "https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/806976/secure-by-amir-levine-md/"> Secure</a> expands this work into emotional regulation and everyday well-being.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What attachment theory is </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The four attachment styles — anxious, avoidant, secure, and fearful avoidant — and how to identify which one you are</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why your attachment style is not fixed and how it can change </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">What happens in your brain when you're ignored or excluded</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How being securely connected can extend your life</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The five pillars of a secure life </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to right-size a relationship with someone unreliable </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Small, seemingly insignificant daily interactions as vehicles for change</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Two rules of secure engagement that can defuse almost any argument </li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why anxious and avoidant attachment styles each have genuine superpowers</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How to build your "attachment topography"</li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get the 10% with Dan Harris app <a href= "https://app.danharris.com/membership">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's free newsletter <a href= "http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href= "https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href= "https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan, Sebene Selassie, and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18. Grab your in-person spot <a href= "https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party">here</a>, or sign up to livestream <a href= "https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-livestream">here</a>!</p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href= "https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p> <p>This episode is sponsored by: <br /> <br /> <strong id= "docs-internal-guid-95e9de2e-7fff-fed7-a852-1d522a9449b0">BetterHelp:</strong> Online therapy, matched to your needs. Get 10% off your first month at <a href= "https://www.betterhelp.com/happier">https://www.betterhelp.com/happier</a></p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>Wix:</strong> Build a fully functional website with AI in minutes at <a href= "https://www.wix.com/harmony">https://www.wix.com/harmony</a></p> <p><strong id= "docs-internal-guid-970e824e-7fff-7098-41aa-62de0c3e3d56">IQBAR:</strong> To get twenty percent off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus free shipping, text DAN to 64000.</p> <p><strong><strong id= "docs-internal-guid-daefb4ed-7fff-a5b5-8e93-ba5214a11fa9">Warby Parker:</strong></strong> Prescription glasses with virtual try-on. Buy one prescription pair and get 20% off additional prescription pairs at <a href= "https://www.warbyparker.com/happier">https://www.warbyparker.com/happier<br /> </a></p>
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