Stop Wasting Your Time: How to Deal With People Who Won’t Change & What to Do Instead

About this episode

<p>There’s someone in your life you wish would change.</p> <p>You’ve pushed, reminded, and given advice. You’ve had the same conversation over and over.&nbsp;</p> <p>And somehow, you’re still stuck in the same frustrating cycle of fighting, nagging, lecturing, and hoping they’ll finally do something differently.&nbsp;</p> <p>There is a better way.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>In today’s conversation, Mel sits down with renowned behavioral scientist and award-winning NYU professor Dr. Dolly Chugh to unpack the surprising science of why people resist change and what really works.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>You’re going to walk away with some of the most powerful, research-backed tools Dr. Chugh teaches at NYU – tools that will change how you see difficult people, frustrating relationships, and your own ability to influence how others behave.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p> <p>You’ll learn:&nbsp;</p> <p>-The 3 things that really do help when someone you love won’t change&nbsp;</p> <p>-The simple question to ask before giving advice – so it doesn’t backfire&nbsp;</p> <p>-The 4-option question that reveals what someone needs from you in a difficult moment&nbsp;</p> <p>-The relationship tool that keeps small problems from turning into 10-out-of-10 fights&nbsp;</p> <p>-How to tell when “helping” someone is keeping them stuck&nbsp;</p> <p>-The 2 “bodyguards” in your brain that explain why you know better but still don’t do better&nbsp;</p> <p>-Why your brain can fight change even when you desperately want it&nbsp;</p> <p>-The surprising role “unlearning” plays in changing a habit or behavior&nbsp;</p> <p>If you’re exhausted from trying to change someone you love, this conversation will give you a different way forward – starting today – that feels lighter, more hopeful, and extremely doable.</p> <p>Your relationships will never be the same. And neither will you.&nbsp;</p> <p>For more resources related to today’s episode, <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-429/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">click here</a> for the podcast episode page.&nbsp;</p> <p>If you liked this episode, listen to this one next: <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-392/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">How to Become More Confident, Influential, and Communicate Better With #1 Harvard Business Professor</a></p> <p>Mel also wants to tell you:</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <ul> <li><a href="https://puregeniusprotein.com/MP" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Try the 23g protein shot I drink every single morning</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/newsletter/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Join 2 million readers loving my weekly newsletter - full of tips, tools, and inspiration</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401971369?tag=lnk0001-20&amp;geniuslink=true" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">The Let Them Theory: read the book everyone’s talking about</a></li> <li><a href="https://bit.ly/45OWCNr" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Watch the episodes on YouTube</a></li> <li><a href="https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Connect with me on Instagram</a></li> <li><a href="https://bit.ly/49bg4GP" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Follow the show’s Instagram for clips, behind the scenes, and more</a></li> <li><a href="https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Find some daily positivity on my TikTok</a></li> <li><a href="https://siriusxm.supportingcast.fm/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Want zero ads? Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free</a></li> <li><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Disclaimer</a></li> </ul><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>