How to Get What You Want Every Time: 3 Steps to Negotiate Anything With Anyone

About this episode

<p>Right now, there’s something you want. </p><p>Maybe you need help at home, more support from your partner, or it’s time to set a boundary at work. </p><p>But you’re avoiding the conversation. Why? Because it feels hard. You don’t want conflict, you don’t want to upset anyone, and you just don’t know how to bring it up. </p><p>That ends today. </p><p>The greatest things in life are on the other side of hard conversations. </p><p>And in this episode, you will learn the 3 simple steps to have any difficult conversation and get exactly what you want. </p><p>Mel sits down with world renowned negotiation expert Kwame Christian, CEO of the American Negotiation Institute, to break down exactly how to approach the conversations you’ve been avoiding. </p><p>Whether you want to negotiate a raise, ask your partner to step up, or finally tell your friend what’s bothering you, this episode is your crash course in how to advocate for yourself. </p><p>Inside this episode, you’ll learn:</p><p>-Why avoiding hard conversations is damaging your relationships (and your self-respect) </p><p>-How to handle someone’s emotional reaction without losing your cool </p><p>-The 3-step “Compassionate Curiosity” framework to navigate ANY conflict </p><p>-Why it’s more important to be respected than liked (and how to make that shift) </p><p>-How to negotiate at home, at work, and even with your landlord</p><p>-How to stand up for yourself without starting a fight </p><p>If you’ve been staying silent, stewing in resentment, or dreading confrontation, this episode will give you the confidence and skills to speak up and change your life. </p><p>You deserve respect. This is your roadmap to get it. </p><p>For more resources, <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-291/" target="_blank">click here</a> for the podcast episode page. </p><p>If you liked this episode, you’ll love listening to this one next: <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-277/" target="_blank">The Most Important Career Advice You’ll Ever Hear With Harvard Business School’s #1 Professor</a></p><p>Connect with Mel: </p><p> </p><ul><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/1401971369?tag=lnk0001-20&geniuslink=true" target="_blank">Get Mel’s #1 bestselling book, The Let Them Theory</a></li><li><a href="https://bit.ly/45OWCNr" target="_blank">Watch the episodes on YouTube</a></li><li><a href="https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb" target="_blank">Follow Mel on Instagram </a></li><li><a href="https://bit.ly/49bg4GP" target="_blank">The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v" target="_blank">Mel's TikTok </a></li><li><a href="https://bit.ly/46PVnPs" target="_blank">Sign up for Mel’s personal letter </a></li><li><a href="https://siriusxm.supportingcast.fm/" target="_blank">Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ to listen to new episodes ad-free</a></li><li><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></li></ul><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>