How To Help Anyone In Your Life Who’s Struggling - Fantastic Strategies From A Yale-Educated Psychologist

About this episode

<p>I am thrilled to share this conversation with you. It is packed with practical strategies that will help the people in your life who may be struggling. </p><p> </p><p>Dr. Lisa Damour is a clinical psychologist and author of three <i>New York Times</i> bestsellers.  She earned degrees from both Yale and the University of Michigan and has more than 30 years of experience working with teens and families.</p><p> </p><p>Her latest book, <i>The Emotional Lives of Teenagers</i>, has been nothing short of life changing.</p><p> </p><p>Today you will learn…</p><p> </p><p>-five words you need to know when someone you love is struggling</p><p>-the signs that tell you when someone is “costly coping”</p><p>-what to say that will prevent a conversation from turning into a battle</p><p>-why your kids dump all their emotional garbage on you</p><p>-when it’s time for a therapist</p><p>-why struggles are signs of being “mentally WELL”!</p><p> </p><p>I started using Dr. Lisa’s strategies with my family the moment we finished recording this episode. They work! </p><p> </p><p>You will leave this episode full of the resources you deserve. Plus, you’re going to love Dr. Damour (and how hopeful she makes you feel) as much as I do. </p><p> </p><p>Xo Mel </p><p> </p><p>And if you need to take the reins in your own life, sign up for my free <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/takecontrol" target="_blank">Take Control</a> mini-course to get inspiring support, guidance, and motivation.</p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong><br /><br /> </p><ul><li>4:00: Two things psychologists look for when assessing mental health.</li><li>5:15: Too many people are not distinguishing between these qualities.</li><li>6:15: When exactly IS adolescence?</li><li>8:30: We’ve had the wrong idea about what it means to be mentally healthy.</li><li>12:45: What’s the difference between a “normal” reaction vs one to be concerned about?</li><li>15:10: Do you know someone who is managing by “costly coping.”</li><li>16:45: So how do you help your kid?</li><li>20:00: This is how you don’t turn a conversation with your child into a fight.</li><li>24:00: Take these steps when it’s time to confront your teen.</li><li>27:30: Here’s how I wish I’d handled Chris’s depression differently.</li><li>30:20: Let’s look at the difference in emotions between genders.</li><li>34:15: How do you help people in your life who just can’t let it go?</li><li>39:00: Do your kids do this, too? It’s called the “defense of externalization.”</li><li>41:40: This is how my own mother set me straight.</li><li>44:00: How do you know when it’s time to get a therapist involved?</li><li>46:30: Can’t find a therapist for your child? Use this resource.</li><li>48:00: Here’s how the lockdown impacted our kids. </li><li>54:30: When are suicide thoughts normal and when are they concerning?</li><li>58:00: What happened to our nervous system during this time?</li><li>1:00:00: These are the concerns of Dr. Damour that we should watch for.</li><li>1:01:30: When do healthy habits become an obsession?</li><li>1:08:15: How do you let kids have emotions without letting them run the home?</li><li>1:14:00: Here is the most important thing you can offer your teen.</li></ul><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>