The Real Reason It’s Hard to Make Big Choices

About this episode

<p>Last week, I learned a really cool trick to help you go with your gut.</p><p>I guarantee you’ve never heard gut decisions explained this way before. Because I stumbled upon it in a very random way—while touring colleges with our son Oakley!</p><p>We hit 5 schools in 4 days, and over the course of that time, it hit me. Holy smokes, that's the perfect hack for making big decisions.</p><p>You can use it anytime you feel torn, uncertain, or scared about how people might feel.</p><p>What you’re about to learn is so helpful and memorable, you’ll turn to it over and over again.</p><p>This is one of my favorite kinds of episodes, because I’m going to put you right at the scene—the moment I had the epiphany. I’ll give you all the hilarious details, and there’s even a part of the story where, I am embarrassed to say, I acted pretty cringe-worthy.</p><p>And that’s not all; as I was taping this episode, two friends chimed in with stories of their own.</p><p>So I asked them to jump on the mic and share them with you. Two stories about a moment in their lives that’s so relatable—when they ALMOST didn’t go with their gut and looking back, they’re thankful they did.</p><p>Because going with your gut always changes the trajectory of your life. It just does.</p><p>That’s why I don’t like the term "trust" your gut.</p><p>It’s not about trust. You KNOW your gut is right. You’re just scared to go with it.</p><p>So join me, Oakley, and two of my friends. I’m taking you on an entertaining and profound tour today.</p><p>Xo Mel </p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><p> </p><ul><li>3:30: The moment of my junior year in high school that changed my future.</li><li>7:00: I am not proud of this mother moment when I lost it.</li><li>11:00: The question Oakley asked is what we all do when we give up our power.</li><li>14:15: Here’s what a hard no “feels” like for Oakley.</li><li>15:45: Do you feel a “yes” in your body like this too?</li><li>17:00: What our brilliant tour guide did when he separated parents from students.</li><li>20:30: When it comes to big decisions, step away and go on your own tour. </li><li>22:00: Here’s what a “no” and a “yes” usually feels like in your body. </li><li>24:00: You’re going to love Amy’s “next big thing” story and how she just knew.</li><li>31:00: We all have an opportunity in our lives to use this powerful tool.</li><li>33:00: And if it doesn’t work out the way you thought it would? Listen to this.</li><li>33:45: Do you have the courage to do this?</li><li>36:30: So what do you do when you hear the NO louder than the YES?</li><li>40:30: Jessie literally followed her heart and became her own “tour guide.”</li><li>42:30: Stop staying you don't “trust your gut” and start saying this instead.</li><li>43:00: Take time to do this EVERY day, but especially when you have a big decision.</li></ul><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>