The Science of Gratitude & 6 Surprising Ways You’re Getting It Wrong

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<p>Today we are digging into the research on gratitude. Gratitude is a critical life skill, yet most of us are practicing it wrong.</p><p> </p><p>That’s right.</p><p> </p><p>According to the research, there are 4 essential elements of genuine gratitude. Without all 4, you can’t unlock the powerful physiological, neurological, and psychological benefits of genuine gratitude.</p><p> </p><p>For example, if you’re just thinking about what you’re grateful for or writing a list before you go to bed, you’re probably not getting the full impact of its power.</p><p> </p><p>Once you know the 4 steps, you can use genuine gratitude to actively rewire your brain!</p><p> </p><p>Next, we’ll discuss the “Toxic Gratitude Theory” and the 6 ways you probably use gratitude in a backhanded or manipulative way – and don’t even know it!</p><p> </p><p>I’m guilty of all 6 types of toxic gratitude (ouch) and now that I see it, I can stop doing it.</p><p> </p><p>So today, let’s learn how to unlock gratitude and all its profound power. You’ll also learn…</p><p><br /><br /> </p><ul><li>The 4 neurotransmitters involved in a science-backed gratitude practice</li><li>The important difference between being just “thankful” versus genuinely “grateful” and why it matters</li><li>How using one specific word is critical to building up your resilience</li><li>What to say to someone who’s going through a really tough time</li></ul><p> </p><p>And because I’m so genuinely grateful for you, I have started rolling out a fun bonus with each episode, <i>Mel Robbins Podcast Bloopers,</i> so listen all the way through for a good laugh!</p><p> </p><p>Xo Mel</p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><p><br /><br /> </p><ul><li>6:00: Ever met someone who just makes you feel so loved and grounded?</li><li>12:20: What happens in your body when you feel more gratitude?</li><li>16:00: What’s the difference between being thankful vs. gratitude?</li><li>21:40: Here are the four important elements of genuine gratitude.</li><li>25:00: Are you using gratitude in a toxic way? Hear these six types of toxic gratitude.</li><li>26:00: Let’s unpack the #1 way we engage in toxic gratitude.</li><li>28:10: The #2 type of toxic gratitude is actually resentment in disguise.</li><li>29:45: This #3 type will keep you stuck in what’s not working for you.</li><li>33:00: We use the 4th type of toxic gratitude to escape uncomfortable emotions.</li><li>36:00: Being mentally well means giving yourself the space to feel all emotions.</li><li>37:30: Let’s unpack how you use the 5th type when you don’t know what to say.</li><li>39:00: And please don’t use this type to downplay your accomplishments.</li><li>41:00: This is one of my favorite acceptance speeches ever.</li><li>43:00: I looked up the meaning of Judah’s name and couldn’t believe what I found.</li><li>46:00: So how do you stay grounded in a chaotic environment? Listen to these tips.</li></ul><p> </p><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>