The Surprising Link Between People Pleasing & Your Health: A Medical Doctor’s Recommendation on How to Say “No”

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<p>Does this doctor have the health secret you’ve been looking for? Does people-pleasing <i>really</i> make you sick?</p><p>Dr. Neha Sangwan is an internal medicine physician, bestselling author, and accomplished researcher.</p><p>Today, Mel sits down with Dr. Sangwan to learn the truth about people-pleasing.</p><p> </p><p>Topics discussed include:</p><p>People-pleasing: What it is.</p><p>Are you a “yes” person?</p><p>The difference between “going with the flow” and people pleasing.</p><p>Why avoiding conflict makes you a people-pleaser.</p><p>What your “childhood blueprint” is and how it shapes adulthood.</p><p>People pleasing and the link to illness.</p><p>What your parents did or said to turn you into a people-pleaser.</p><p>Why people-pleasing is a coping mechanism.</p><p>Why you can’t deal with other people’s discomfort.</p><p>How to trace your people pleasing back to a single moment in time.</p><p>Why being stressed, irritated, and tired is a sign that you are a people-pleaser.</p><p>Why being a control freak may be a sign of people pleasing.</p><p>How to unlearn people pleasing.</p><p>How every conflict in your life traces back to childhood trauma.</p><p>What happens, from a medical perspective, when you have an unresolved conflict?</p><p>The secret reason you’re an overachiever.</p><p>How to stop your people-pleasing behavior at work and set better boundaries.</p><p>What it really means when you resent the people you love.</p><p>Why people-pleasing is a “protection tool” you learn to use in childhood.</p><p>The link between chronic worry and people pleasing.</p><p>The simple 3-part framework Dr. Sangwan uses to say "no" when you mean "no".</p><p>How 80% of all illnesses are caused by stress.</p><p>The 5 questions you should ask yourself to understand what your body is really trying to signal to you.</p><p> </p><p>You can purchase Dr. Sangwan’s book, ‘TalkRx: Five Steps to Honest Conversations That Create Connection, Health, and Happiness’, here: <a href="https://a.co/d/iaVNwiL" target="_blank">https://a.co/d/iaVNwiL</a></p><p> </p><p>Download a FREE audio chapter from ‘TalkRx: Five Steps to Honest Conversations That Create Connection, Health, and Happiness’, here: <a href="https://intuitiveintelligenceinc.com/mel" target="_blank">intuitiveintelligenceinc.com/mel</a></p><p> </p><p>Follow Dr. Sangwan:</p><p>Instagram: <a href="https://instagram.com/doctorneha" target="_blank">instagram.com/doctorneha</a></p><p>Webpage: <a href="https://intuitiveintelligenceinc.com/" target="_blank">intuitiveintelligenceinc.com</a></p><p> </p><p>Watch the episodes on YouTube: <a href="https://bit.ly/45OWCNr" target="_blank">https://bit.ly/45OWCNr</a></p><p>Check out my book,<i> The High 5 Habit</i>: <a href="https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt" target="_blank">https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt</a></p><p> </p><p>Follow me:</p><p>Instagram: <a href="https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb" target="_blank">https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb</a></p><p>The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: <a href="https://bit.ly/49bg4GP" target="_blank">https://bit.ly/49bg4GP</a></p><p>LinkedIn: <a href="https://bit.ly/46Mh0QB" target="_blank">https://bit.ly/46Mh0QB</a></p><p>TikTok: <a href="https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v" target="_blank">https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v</a></p><p><br />Sign up for my newsletter:<a href="https://bit.ly/46PVnPs" target="_blank"> https://bit.ly/46PVnPs </a></p><p> </p><p>Want more resources? Go to my podcast page at <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/podcast" target="_blank">melrobbins.com/podcast</a>.</p><p><br /><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>